At some points in our lives, we pause to ask some questions and find out how our lives have been. This will help realise our flaws and how our relationship with people have been and the impact it may have created in our lives.

This morning, a certain young man who is through his Facebook profile is identified as Don Kelly Onyeka has taken a very bold step to what he thinks is the root of his problem. The young man boldly tendered an apology to a lady identified as Ujunwa Olivia.

In his apology note as Ujunwa shared on her Facebook wall, Onyeka said that a time ago, they were five men who violated Ujunwa in a certain classroom.

In the note, he pointed out that it wasn't once that the incident happened but ever since he identified Ujunwa on facebook, his conscience has not been at rest.

Onyeka pointed out that three out of the five of them who did the ungodly act are already dead remaining just two of them and according to him, his family is in a mess and his business shattered.

He tendered this apology to Ujunwa asking her to forgive him and he would make himself known to her.

Ujunwa Olivia on her own side shared that she woke up to the friend request of Onyeka and when she opened it, she saw what he wrote and at the moment, she has nothing to say yet as she is still putting herself together to say something.

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It is true that parents should not spare the rod and spoil the child but there are certain situation where this notion does not really work. In other words, it is not everything children do they should be beaten or disciplined for.

When you shout on your children or beat them at every slightest provocation or misbehavior, you might not likely be able to handle the consequence of your action in the long run.

 

If you are too harsh with your children, these are what you may likely get in return as a result of your harshness on them:

1. When you are harsh on them, they may grow up to become bullies. You will just realize that your children treat other children like trash and with disrespect.

In other word, they will see it normal to be harsh with people. Respect will be far from their dictionary.

2. When you are too harsh with your children, they will become very aggressive. The only thing they will understand as a means of settling any difference is by being aggressive. Before you know it, they will become aggressors in their school or wherever they are.

3. When you are too harsh with your children, you should be ready for trouble every time. They will always trace them home to report or square up with you as their parents.

You will always be invited to their schools to settle issues and apologize for their wrong deed. There are times when you will even need to be invited to the police station to write a statement on behalf of your child who had committed an offence either in school or neighborhood.

As parents, you have to strike a balance between training your children and disciplining them.

 

BEYOND MARRIAGE CERTIFICATE

We had just ended our honeymoon and my wife was returning to school. I watched as she packed and I noticed her trying to find a safe place to keep our marriage certificate within her travelling box.

I smiled at her action and I asked "why are you taking the certificate along with you?" She replied "the certificate it's mine to keep, the officiating priest even handed it over to me".

She may be right, but what I told her next made her realised that we may not be needing the certificate except for official purposes.

"Why are you making efforts to keep the certificate instead of to keep me?" I asked. The question was like a thunderbolt to her. It sure made her to reappraise and readjust immediately. Needless telling you that her focus changed, because I became the center of her policy since then.

My last question goes to so many of us here. We spend efforts trying to protect what we may not be needing in our marriage. Spend all your time in trying to keep yourselves as one family and believe me, you will be happily married.

Certificate is for the event.

Marriage transcends beyond certificate.