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We meet new people everyday, some we spend time with and others we just pass by barely noticing what colour of shirt they are wearing. And in all of the over 7 billion people in the world there is someone who is right for us.

Now I know many people do not believe in soulmates and much more have lost faith in love but what if it's true? What if there is truly a special someone out there for everyone of us who is the real match for our soul. Just what if there is a soul mate for every man.

The world has evolved so much and is still evolving. It used to be a man's world, where a man is never wrong, where a man has the right to marry whoever he wills, until women started evolving with the world too and the table turned without long notice. Women have started choosing the kind of life they want to live, they are everywhere now even rubbing shoulders with men in the career front.

Seeing such remarkable progress women can create, more women are encouraged to spread out their wings and soar too. 

This is win and a loss at thesame time, while women are making exploits, men are being threatened and it is difficult for a man to get a chance with some caliber of woman because they are either intimidated or despised by them.

Men who are natural leaders coupled with masculine ego that does not allow them to shy away from situations seeing how the table has turned would rather settle for women they feel they can handle than go for one they are scared would be too much for them.

This has led to the indecisiveness of the male gender when it comes to dating and marriage. They are scared to marry or date a girl who is too much and on the other hand they are also scared to marry or date a woman who is not up to standard. This indecisiveness is the reason for so many broken homes, relationship, marriages etc. For once a man feels he has found his match only for time to reveal to him that she is not what he wanted and he is too ashamed to tell her he made a mistake in choosing her for yet it reveals again another area of failure and his weakness so he disappears on her and withdraws and goes silent till she's tired and leaves. I do not in any way validate indecisiveness of the male gender on dating and marriage, as a matter of fact an indecisive man can never put his life together that is why we see so many men out of touch with themselves. They are just losing it.

How can a man find love? How can a man know he is with the right woman in this modern world?

A man would find love after he finds himself and is completely honest with himself. A man who knows who he is knows what he wants. This man is stable and confident. Nothing attracts the right woman for you like how you confidently wear your skin and be who you are regardless.

You know she is the right woman when she is okay with what she sees, not pushing you to be something you're not or trying to make you shrink to accommodate her.

You know you're with the right woman when all you do to please her is the best you can do and she is completely smitten by you. You do not have to sabotage your dreams to fit her description of a good man and you do not have to over work to hear a well-done from her.

You feel free and very comfortable talking with her and you're not ashamed to show her your flaws. She is the first person you want to call if you win and also the first you want to talk to if you lost. 

If you have a spouse who you cannot call when you lost because she would make you feel worse then she is not right for you and you need to get away from her.

A woman for you is that woman who stands close to your flames despite the heat of it, not because you want her to or even need her to but because she wants to be the first to see you when you come out of the fire refined. 

A woman for you is that woman who is always for you both in the good, in the bad and in the ugly.

A woman for you is that woman is just wants you first before anything else you have to offer.

Until you are sure of this woman do not engage, and if the woman you are with is not this woman, please disengage wisely.

We have no reason to be unhappy.

The Ultimate Guide: Five Qualities That Make Her Wife Material.
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Title: "The Ultimate Guide: Five Qualities That Make Her Wife Material"

In the realm of relationships, finding a life partner is a significant milestone. While everyone has their own unique preferences, there are certain qualities that can make a woman stand out as wife material. In this blog post, we will explore five essential qualities that indicate a woman's potential to be an exceptional life partner. So, if you're curious to know what these qualities are, keep reading!

Section 1: Genuine Kindness and Empathy
A strong foundation for any successful relationship is built upon kindness and empathy. A woman who possesses these qualities demonstrates a genuine concern for others' well-being and is capable of understanding and sharing their emotions. She is compassionate, considerate, and always willing to lend a helping hand. Her kindness extends beyond her immediate circle, as she actively seeks opportunities to make a positive impact on the world around her. This level of empathy fosters a deep connection and emotional support within a relationship, making her an ideal life partner.

Section 2: Effective Communication Skills
Communication is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship. A woman who excels in effective communication is able to express her thoughts, feelings, and needs clearly and respectfully. She actively listens to her partner, seeking to understand their perspective without judgment. This open and honest communication creates a safe space for both partners to express themselves, fostering trust and intimacy. Her ability to communicate effectively ensures that any challenges or conflicts that arise can be resolved through constructive dialogue, strengthening the foundation of the relationship.

Section 3: Trustworthiness and Loyalty
Trust is the bedrock of a successful marriage. A woman who embodies trustworthiness and loyalty is someone who can be relied upon, both in good times and bad. She keeps her promises, maintains confidentiality, and remains faithful to her partner. Her actions consistently align with her words, creating a sense of security and stability within the relationship. Trustworthiness and loyalty are vital qualities that contribute to a lasting and fulfilling partnership.

Section 4: Shared Values and Goals
A strong relationship is built upon a shared vision for the future. A woman who shares similar values and goals with her partner is more likely to create a harmonious and fulfilling life together. Whether it's in terms of family, career, spirituality, or personal growth, having aligned aspirations ensures that both partners are working towards a common purpose. This shared sense of direction strengthens the bond between them, fostering a deep connection and a sense of unity.

Section 5: Emotional Intelligence and Resilience
Emotional intelligence is a crucial quality that contributes to a healthy and thriving relationship. A woman who possesses emotional intelligence understands and manages her own emotions effectively, while also being attuned to her partner's emotional needs. She is resilient in the face of challenges, adapting and growing from difficult experiences. This emotional maturity allows her to navigate the ups and downs of life with grace and compassion, creating a stable and supportive environment for her partner.

Section 6: Independence and Support
While interdependence is essential in a relationship, a woman who values her independence and supports her partner's individuality is highly desirable as a life partner. She encourages personal growth and pursuits, understanding that a healthy relationship requires space for each partner to thrive as individuals. At the same time, she provides unwavering support, celebrating her partner's achievements and offering a shoulder to lean on during tough times. This balance of independence and support fosters a strong and fulfilling partnership.

Section 7: Commitment and Dedication
A woman who is committed and dedicated to her relationship demonstrates a willingness to invest time, effort, and energy into making it thrive. She prioritizes her partner and the relationship, making it a priority in her life. Through the inevitable ups and downs, she remains steadfast, working together with her partner to overcome challenges and grow stronger as a couple. Her unwavering commitment and dedication lay the foundation for a lasting and fulfilling marriage.

Section 8: Compatibility and Chemistry
While compatibility and chemistry cannot be quantified, they play a significant role in a successful relationship. A woman who shares a deep connection and chemistry with her partner experiences a sense of ease and comfort in their presence. They share common interests, enjoy spending time together, and have a strong emotional and physical connection. This compatibility and chemistry create a solid foundation for a lifelong partnership filled with love, joy, and fulfillment.

Finding a life partner is a journey filled with excitement and uncertainty. However, by recognizing these five essential qualities – genuine kindness and empathy, effective communication skills, trustworthiness and loyalty, shared values and goals, and emotional intelligence and resilience – you can identify a woman who possesses the qualities of a true life partner. Remember, every relationship is unique, and these qualities are just a starting point. Trust your instincts and choose a partner who brings out the best in you, creating a relationship that stands the test of time.

Meta Description: Discover the five essential qualities that make a woman wife material. From genuine kindness to effective communication skills, explore the traits that contribute to a successful and fulfilling relationship. Find your ideal life partner by understanding the key qualities that foster trust, emotional connection, and shared goals.
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Secret 1
Everyone you marry has a weakness. Only God does not have a weakness. So if you focus on your spouse's weakness you can't get the best out of his strength.
Secret 2
Everyone has a dark history. No one is an angel. When you get married or you want to get married stop digging into someone's past. What matters most is the present life of your partner. Old things have passed away. Forgive and forget. Focus on the present and the future.
Secret 3
Every marriage has its own challenges. Marriage is not a bed of roses. Every good marriage has gone through its own test of blazing fire. True love proves in times of challenges. Fight for your marriage. Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in times of need. Remember the vow For better for worse. In sickness and in health be there.
Secret 4
Every marriage has different levels of success. Don't compare your marriage with any one else. We can never be equal. Some will be far, some behind. To avoid marriage stresses, be patient, work hard and with time your marriage dreams shall come true.
Secret 5
To get married is declaring war. When you get married you must declare war against enemies of marriage. Some enemies of marriage are:
Third party influence 
Lack of love 
Be ready to fight to maintain your marriage zone.
Secret 6
There is no perfect marriage. There is no ready made marriage. Marriage is hard work. Volunteer yourself to work daily on it. Marriage is like a car that needs proper maintenance and proper service. If this is not done it will break down somewhere exposing the owner to danger or some unhealthy circumstances. Let us not be careless about our marriages. 
Secret 7
God cannot give you a complete person you desire. He gives you the person in the form of raw materials in order for you to mould the person that you desire. This can only be achieved through prayer, love and Patience
Secret 8
Getting married is taking a huge risk. You can not predict what will happen in the future. Situations may change so leave room for adjustments. Husband can lose his good job or you may fail to have babies. All these require you to be prayerful otherwise you might divorce.
Secret 9
Marriage is not a contract. It is permanent. It needs total commitment. Love is the glue that sticks the couple together. Divorce start in the mind and the devil feeds the mind. Never ever entertain thoughts of getting a divorce. Never threaten your spouse with divorce. Choose to remain married. God hates divorce.
Secret 10
Every marriage has a price to pay. Marriage is like a bank account. It is the money that you deposit that you withdraw. If you don't deposit love, peace and care into your marriage, you are not a candidate for a blissful home.
⚠️ In marriage we are daily called to be a living sacrifice.
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Mother Marries Her Own Son
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Age is just numbers; can we say the same to this?

The mother weds her own son with the justification that she invested a significant amount of money into his education and that she would not see her investment go to waste.

The news of their marriage has been met with strong opposition in Malawi as well as elsewhere in the world.

A newspaper from Malawi quoted the woman, whose name was Memory Njemani, as saying that she married her son because she had spent a lot of money on his education.

She is of the opinion that she cannot labor for another person in order for them to benefit from her sweat; hence, she must enjoy the fruits of her investment.

“I spent a significant amount of money on my son’s education. Why should it be fair that another woman should be married to him and profit from the time and effort that I have invested in him? It is not going to work out like that. She grumbled, “I’m marrying my kid so that we don’t empower other ladies who have been aborting. “She was referring to the practice of having an abortion.

Internet users, on the other hand, say that the mother forced her son to marry her and that no man in his right mind would agree to such an arrangement.

In this case, can we still say age is just numbers, what are your thoughts?
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1. Remember that romance is not the husband's responsibility alone

2. Compliment your husband when he is well-dressed and smells good 

3. Touch your husband's thigh when he is driving or seated next to you when you want to tell him something 

4. Flirt with him over the phone 

5. Play with his fingers when you two are having pillow talks

6. Cuddle with him and place his head on your bosom when you two are in bed

7. Place your hand on his arm as a Queen who knows her position 

8. Dress up for his visual stimulation, especially in the bedroom 

9. Dance for him and tease him 

10. Tell him all the passionate things you want to do to him 

11. Praise his sexual performance and the things he does that give you pleasure. Tell him how how he drives you crazy 

12. Take him out on dates, don't always wait for him to plan things

13. Kiss him, not just on the lips but also his cheeks, his forehead, his fingers

14. Offer to serve him with a smile and take care of him  

15. Call him special names "My King", "Darling", "Honey"

16. Be confident in being yourself, do great things as an individual. It excites him when he is proud of you

17. Talk highly about him in public, encourage him in private when he is down 

18. Find out his favourite sex position and do it to him often

19. Help him to put on and remove his clothes, his tie, his coat

20. Rally the children in appreciating him, make him feel valued at home regardless of his financial status 

21. Buy him gifts that he will like 

22. Prepare his favourite meal or ask him what he would like to eat

23. Tell him you love him. Men love to be affirmed too. Tell him also what you love about him

24. Ask him how his day has been. Show care 

25. Make sexual moves on him, don't just lay there waiting for him to do all the work 

26. Pray for him to bless him, not because you think he is the devil or the problem in your marriage. Prayerful women are romantic 

27. Attend to his needs without him asking such as making him a cup of tea/coffee when he is working

Just because you have spent years together doesn't mean you stop making him feel special. You were attractive and made him feel valued and that is why he pursued you to get you, stay attractive and valuing him to keep him; as you do so, he will long for your presence and give you his best. The woman who loves her husband, builds her home

Don't Marry Who You Can Only Pray With And Not Play With.
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Don’t marry who you can only PRAY with and not able to PLAY with. Many believers are too difficult to relate with. Many even behave like the lion of the tribe of umudora village 😒 

You can’t play with them. 
You can’t relate with them. 

Jesus will punish them na when you do that. You can’t tease them. You can’t joke with them. My dear, don’t marry such fellow, run run for your dear life. 

Marry who you can play with as much as you can pray with them. Marry who you can socialize with as much as been spiritual together. 

All day is not spirituality and behaving spiritual all the time. There has to be balance. There as to be spice (play and being naughty) to one another.

Marry a playing booboo. 

Marry a praying and playing babe.

This will preserve your happiness.

This will preserve your days.

This will give no room to secrecy.

This will give room to openness.

This will give more room to bonding and intimacy.

You cannot be doing man of God and woman of God in marriage up and down