And then we feel guilty and feel guilty about feeling guilty. We try to think it through but we are tired and we are tired of being tired then a part of us begin to break down because we don't feel alive anymore.

 

Those are the days we are in need of an escape route from everything, we try all kind of things. Drinking, smoking, partying, Facebooking, Netflix, Naija Net, we just want anything to distract us from our chaos but how sad it is that the only happiness that can surround you is the happiness that flows from within you. 

 

Happiness inside you is happiness around you but happiness around you can never be happiness inside you. So times like that rather than face our own reflection and ask ourselves the right questions, we start looking around for who is not there and blame their absence for our lack of happiness.

 

I pray this truth set you free. If you're feeling sad right now, and you think it is because of who walked out of your life or who didn't text you or who didn't call you, you're wrong. Because even if they did call you, text you and never left you, you'd still be feeling what you're feeling.

 

May we find the joy that comes from knowing ourselves truly and harnessing our gifts and talents. 

 

Man was created to produce that is why if you don't know what you're living for, you don't feel like you're living a life. You want to see progress, you want to see yourself moving and that's what you need to do .

 

Stop thinking about your past and everyone who is not there anymore. Think movement. That's the only way to move. Happiness is in moving.

If you have at any time come across such people in relationship, or you are presently in a relationship with one now, then this article is for you. In this article, we will be discussing the techniques that you should adopt that will help you in your dealings with such people to keep a peaceful atmosphere at home, work or any place you relate with such persons.

If you are in a romantic relationship with a strong willed person or you are presently working with a person who is bull headed and is making your work place hell for you, then here is what you should do;

 

1. Be tolerant and have the ability to control your emotions.

Tolerant means the ability to accommodate other people's excesses, beliefs and ideas even though they may be working against yours. If you want to always keep a peaceful atmosphere with people who are not easy going, then you must learn to be tolerant. Also you should learn to control your emotions as this will help instil peace and calmness in your home or workplace.

2. Practice the characters and livestyles you would want them to live. This means doing unto them what you would want them to do to you as well. Your character is more evangelistic than your words. If you want them to be kind to you, be kind to them as well. Never react negativily towards them as this will go a long way in calming them.

 

3. Apologize when you are wrong and even when you are not just to maintain peace. The word "Sorry'' has gone a long way in settling many disputes amongst couples and friends. If you want to have a peaceful relationship with your partner, friends and colleagues in your work place, you should be willing to apologise when you are at fault and when it seems like you are right. This very attitude depicts responsibility and maturity and also means that the peace and harmony of your relationship means a lot to you.

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A detrimental thing many people do in their dating life is they make love this sacred and magical thing that will solve all their problems.

 

And although love really is a beautiful thing, making it so big and unachievable is what makes you less attractive to others because it sends out desperate and needy vibes.

 

However, the more you view love and relationships as something that is natural and as something that comes naturally to you, the more likely it is for you to attract more matches and be more attractive to others.

 

2. Don't put people on a pedestal.

 

 

When we put people we feel attracted to on a pedestal, we impose an image on them that is not who they really are. Doing this will also make you less interesting to prospective partners because they feel and see that you treat them like some sort of god or goddess whose presence you feel unworthy of.

 

So put them off that pedestal and view them as an equal to you instead.

 

Remember that they too have to go to the toilet and take care of their needs.

 

3. Trying to control outcomes versus having a good time and fun.

Rejection sucks, I get it.

 

But if you approach dating with the intention of not trying to get rejected and thus trying to control outcomes, you have a 90% chance of making a bad first impression and self-sabotaging.

 

Instead, go on dates with no expectations. Go there to have fun, hang out and if the chemistry is right even for s£x.

 

Remember that s£x is as natural as eating and drinking and there is absolutely nothing wrong with having a desire for it. In fact, it is very natural to feel s£xually attracted to someone you like. Embrace this powerful energy and let it make you feel good.

 

4. Look out for red flags and take them serious.

Here are some of the most common red flags:

 

A) Asking you for money early on.

 

B) Lovebombing before and after the first dates.

 

C) They have a ring on their ringfinger.

 

 

 

Now some people may got this ring as a present from their grandparents or whatever but in most cases, it indicates they are married but keeping it a secret or going through a divorce.

 

D) They just got out of a long term relationship.

 

This is a red flag because here it is very likely they just want to use you as a rebound or make their ex jealous. Its up to you to decide if you want to get attached to someone who will drop you once their ex comes back.

 

5. Releasing attachments to ex partners.

Doing this before you start dating again will give you much better results for the following reasons:

 

A) You will be more present.

 

B) Emotional triggers wont bother you.

 

C) Your relationships will be much easier and healthier.

 

D) You are able to trust more.

 

Source: Opera News