5 THINGS HUSBANDS SECRETLY DESIRE FROM THEIR WIVES.
Dear Sisters,
Men are also attention seekers just like us. The difference between our Hubby and us is we make our attention seeking more obvious to our partner, but for them? They really don't know how to show it, all thanks to "being a man".
Let me share some things most husbands secretly desire from their wives:
1. Come to the door when your husband comes home. Many wives are too glued to their phones that when husband walks in the door you hardly ever notice his entrance, that is not right aunty. Imagine you coming home after a long day and hubby doesn't even look your way twice, says a lazy welcome, or ask how your day went, there's going to be violence that night. Sadly It's the same way men feel too.
Aunty, going forward from today, drop your phone and come to the door. Share a hug with him, a kiss or a connection that communicates your care, whatever works for your marriage. A man has been through a lot all day, the first thing he wants to come home to is his peace. But it hurts a man when he walks in and his peace is pressing her phone to pieces, or glued to the TV.
2.. Get your husband involved in your marriage. Most men are not lazy or disinterested in the happenings in the home, Many women have conditioned them that way. Send him a text to please stop by the store and get you something you need in the house.
More like;
"Honey we are out of water, can you stop by for a pack?".
Your husband is not playing romantic with you because you are not pushing him to get involved on the home, so that we can losen up.
An ideal man won't mind; "babe we are out of sugar, can you please?".
Yes I know you can send your help to get it, but that's the problem with you wives. Most of you have allowed house help kill your marriage for nothing. Simple things like this that is meant to bond you and your husband you have allowed the maid steal it from you. How will you create memories together when the maid runs everything.
My apologies to all the women who married a 'Mike Tyson', if you cannot kindly ask your hulk hogan husband to buy you an oridinary pack of maggie from the store without receiving a hot slap then what are you really enjoying in that marriage please? May God be with you because you are missing alot.
3.. Men want their butt to be smacked too, not just women. Some of you have been married for 99years but you don't know the texture of your husband's backside; Soft or hard? Because you don't smack it.
Most women treat their husband's body like a shrine, you only go to play with his temple on some specific days, many of you have timetable for touching your own husband.
Aunty, touch him in passing, men want physical touch too, they won't say it openly. Play with his hair, his chest, jump on him for no reason. This is why many marriages are so boring, because your husband's mind has not been conditioned for foreplay outside the bedroom. Your husband can be at home for a whole day and not anticipate that you will smack his butt or jump on him, so he is not even prepared to receive any vibe from you, let alone give you any.
4.. Invite him to help around the house. Men want to help, trust me aunty. Intentionally Bring the waterleaf to the sitting room to pluck together, we do this with wisdom ma. Call him to help you move something in the kitchen, when he comes, use one gist to keep him for a while. Ask him to help you check if the Meat is steaming, or if the water has dried up in the rice.
Men want to help, but the secret is that they don't want to be forced to do it, or get the impression that it is their duty to do it. Use wisdom woman of God.
5.. Men desire to see you genuinely care about his family, honestly.
Let us start from the minor things; which of his siblings are you close to? Which do you have their numbers? How little do you know how his siblings are fairing, or even their endeavours? Do you check up once in a while?
Call his parents to check on them behind his back. Send them alittle something if it is within your capacity, let him learn about it from their testimonies to him.
Many husbands are too busy to keep up with what's going on in his immediate family, it will be good for him to get to know about some of the things going on in his sister's life from your communication with her.
"Babe did you know that Mariam just got a new job? We spoke today."
That is one definition of peace to any man.
See, I'm not asking you to do eye service, I'm only encouraging you to push yourself beyond to enjoy harmony in your marriage.
1- When you say, "Mom, 3 bread slice will be enough for me.", she will bring you 4.
2- When you're out, she will call you once in an hour, to check up on you if you are okay.
3- When there are 3 apples and your family has 4 members, mom will say, "I don't like apples".
4- When you go to sleep with no blankets, you will definitely wake up with one๐ค
5- When you're going away to another city or country, she will pack you a bunch of snacks specially made for you. Then she will tell you, "Don't give all snacks to your friends. Eat it yourself."
6- When coming back home after a long day, the first thing your mom would say, "Come and have dinner".
7- Gonna study at midnight? Don't worry. Mom will make you tea, coffee with whatever snack you want and she will never complain about losing her sleep.
What not to eat. What vitamins to take and what bras to buy. Allll the prenatal yoga moves to do.
But they forget to tell us how to put ourselves back together once that baby is born.
They forget to tell us how we might feel like we’re drifting.
Afloat. Alone. On a life raft with leaky breasts and sore stitches and a tiny little being dependent upon us for survival.
They forget to tell us how weird and wild it feels to have loose organs shifting about inside of us. How there will be so much softness still.
I get it. You don’t want to startle us. You don’t want us to be scared about what’s ahead.
But….a little heads up would be helpful
We’re brave enough for the truth.
And those things you find so scary- loose skin and leaky breasts and big feelings- we might just be bold enough to welcome them.
To see the beauty there.
So here’s the truth mama-
Your pelvic floor will probably need work and attention. You’ll have to put in some effort to regain that muscle strength, no matter how gentle your birth. Your breasts and belly will probably never be the same. Love them anyway. Love than more than before!! Celebrate them! Buy bras that make you feel sexy. Then move on.
Your identity and sense of self will change radically. Buckle up for the ride. You’ve got this. Your partnership and friendships and general relationship with the outside world might feel foreign for awhile. Or forever. Those relationships might crack and break under the weight of new parenthood. Live your truth. Leave the rest behind. In love.
The whole world might feel shaken up.
You’ll probably feel shaky and raw
That’s normal (they just forgot to tell you.)
You’re new here. In this skin. In this role. In this love. You’ll find your way. You’ll find your rhythm. It will all fall into place- with time.
8 Physical Features Of Guys Most Ladies Are Attracted To
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Below are physical features of men most ladies are attracted to;
# Height: Men who are at least 3-4 inches taller attract women. Though not all women are attracted to taller guys, but in general, most women like or are attracted to taller guys.
# Well built: I donโt really mean muscular but I donโt fancy too lean guys. A tall frame with strong arms ensures a good hug and also provides a nice head rest place for the girl.
# Bright eyes: Having almond shaped hazel eyes would be a treat. but letโs be realistic out here. A guy with bright eyes, whose eyes shine when he talks with enthusiasm can get you charmed for hours.
# Clean-shaven hair: Okay this one varies, some guys can actually sport a nice bearded look but women do prefer clean shaved men.
# Nice hair: A guy with nice hair often get the attention of most ladies. Nice hair which is attracted by women just like men is one of the few male body parts women find attractive.
# Sharp nose: guys with sharp nose are often attracted by women. Males with sharp nose actually look very handsome.
# Clean nails: This is the part where women actually going out with the guys, they will notice it and unclean nails are a big no for them
# Nice smile: It is said nothing disarms a person like a smile. It is contagious, it can charm you up, make you happy lighten the environment and well if the smile is really attractive it can give butterflies in your stomach.