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Tony is a man with a story. Like any regular guy he has dealt his his own portion of loses, failure , disappointment and success, joy and what have you.

Tony has a part of him that is so power drunk that he doesn't regard anyone and holds nothing sacred and he even rides on the people he hates to hurt. 

James is another young man with a different story, he has also had his share of life's problems and the world's pain and laughters.

James has a part of him that is so insecured and scared that he would hide himself away from light.

Now if you ask people to talk about Tony and James they would tell you that Tony is bold while James is timid as such James is suffering from low self-esteem.

If you have been carrying such mindset for long it's time you drop it. We learn to unlearn.

Both cases are victims of low self-esteem just that it is manifesting in different ways. Tony is a man who believes that he is of no value unless he is noticed. So in order to feel he is something he would do anything to do that even as far as hurting people he loves. 

Do not misunderstabd me. Self esteem means the way we see ourselves, low self-esteem is to think lowly of ourselves while High self esteem is to think highly of ourselves. It is only a man that thinks lowly of himself that brutalises people to respect him because he feels he is not enough to be respected for simply being who he is so he needs to exert force to get respect from people. He only sees himself as something when he has money, power or fame so he spends the rest of his life wanting all of these by all means that he doesn't even know what his problem is. Tony is a man who is suffering from low self-esteem.

We have also James on the other hand. A rather reserved young man who hides away from everything because he feels he is not enough and he doesn't have the capacity to do great things. Do we now see that both Tony and James are afflicted by thesame thing? The difference between these two is how they choose to go about it. Life will always be for you the choices you make. Everybody sees Tony as bold and Courageous and sees James as a coward because of how James choosed to deal with his low self-esteem, he runs away instead of facing it.

Everybody has low self-esteem to deal with. It all depends on the people around us and the choices we make. 

If you know you cannot afford a wristwatch of $1000, and you keep hanging around people who buy wristwatch that amount more than 5 in a week, with time, you would start feeling small, inferior and frustrated.

It is always wise for birds of thesame feathers to flock together.

Now, the quickest cure to low self-esteem is to flock with birds with thesame feathers as you. Instead of feeling insecured in their company, you would feel secured and happy.

(By Bayo-David Toluwase.)

Fear has become a normality in lives these days and it has often more than not, deprived a lot of people of their breakthrough to success.

Inspite of the daunting effect that Fear has on life in general, It is a pity that people still take fear with levity. Majority believe that fear is always ordinary, but come to think of it, why do we often encounter fear when we're supposed to be courageous?  

Most times, youths unknowingly throw away virtuous opportunities all because they are afraid either to talk or unable to overcome the spirit of fear. 

How long do we remain this way?

To be continued...

1. After loving my parents, my siblings, my spouse, my children and my friends, I have now started loving myself.

2. I have realized that I am not “Atlas”. The world does not rest on my shoulders.

3. I have stopped bargaining with vegetable & fruit vendors. A few pennies more is not going to break me, but it might help the poor fellow save for his daughter’s school fees.

4. I leave my waitress a big tip. The extra money might bring a smile to her face. She is toiling much harder for a living than I am.

5. I stopped telling the elderly that they've already told that story many times. The story makes them walk down memory lane & relive their past.

6. I have learned not to correct people even when I know they are wrong. The onus of making everyone perfect is not on me. Peace is more precious than perfection.

7. I give compliments freely & generously. Compliments are a mood enhancer not only for the recipient, but also for me. And a small tip for the recipient of a compliment, never, NEVER turn it down, just say "Thank You.”

8. I have learned not to bother about a crease or a spot on my shirt. Personality speaks louder than appearances.

9. I walk away from people who don't value me. They might not know my worth, but I do.

10. I remain cool when someone plays dirty to outrun me in the rat race. I am not a rat & neither am I in any race.

11. I am learning not to be embarrassed by my emotions. It’s my emotions that make me human.

12. I have learned that it's better to drop the ego than to break a relationship. My ego will keep me aloof, whereas with relationships, I will never be alone.

13. I have learned to live each day as if it's the last. After all, it might be the last.

14. I am doing what makes me happy. I am responsible for my happiness, and I owe it to myself. Happiness is a choice. You can be happy at any time, just choose to be!

I decided to share this for all my friends. Why do we have to wait to be 60 or 70 or 80, why can't we practice this at any stage and age?