The plan was to take off for a bit but I got to the office this morning and I started thinking and as always, I want to share my thoughts with you guys.

People argue that feminism isn’t all about splitting bills and some other bla bla bla.

Let us throw back to how men started dominating.

They started dominating because they were the ones with all the money and power.

In a typical Igbo setting, the ones who called the shots were the ones with the largest yam barns and  biggest portions of lands.

They were the ones marrying 100 wives and making laws.

Unoka in things fall apart wasn’t respected cause he didn’t have money.

 

That was why Okonkwo his son vowed to break out from that bondage.  

He started hustling, made money, aquired  so many lands, had the largest farm barns and boom, he became the toast of the whole village.

The sad truth is that money controls almost everything and even the Bible recognized that fact.

Yes I agree.

Respect shouldn’t be based on money.

Eveyone should be respected for being human beings even if they are rich or not.

Now to the present.

Feminism is a social movement advocating for women to be given equal rights and opportunities as men.

However, if you want equal rights then you must be willing to pull in your weight.

I am an adult, same as my boss but we ain’t equals and that is simply because, he pays me salaries so in this context, I am his subordinate.

In a man/ woman relationship, the one who is taking care of the other personal financially, is the one who gets to make most of the decisions. He or she doesn’t even have to take a title for them to be recognized as being the head.

You cannot be forming independent and equality on top person money.

If you want to be treated as an equal then you must be willing to pull in your weight financially because in this fight for equality, whether we like it or not, MONEY is the deciding factor. ( that would explain women who are married to extremely wealthy men do not go about fighting for who is in charge because in ther hearts, they already know).

They are a lot of women who aren’t just talks, they pull in their weights, they are mostly involved in the financial aspect of running their homes.

You cannot in good conscience be dragging headship with a man when he’s the one taking care of all your financial needs. That would be doing yourself a great disservice. Your argument about being equals would hold better standing when you can take care of business whenever you are called upon.

Respect however is what everyone is entitled to.

Even Kings respect their subjects but that doesn’t mean they are equals.

Respect would mean treating their subjects right and always taking their opinions into consideration but the man with the veto power would always be the king.

Anyways, that’s what I think...

Feel free to disagree if you like.

Hey, how are you feeling tonight? 

Are you fine? Is your skincare routine yielding? How's the diet going? Do you still run, until you feel like your heart is skittering away from you? How are your selfies coming out these days? 

Are you done reading that book? Will you finish that story? Have you gotten that mail, or has your heart gotten numb to the pang of rejection letters?

Have you applied for that scholarship? Have you sent that CV? How's the deadline going? Do you still love your job, or have you learnt to assimilate to the things you can't change? 

Have you forgiven yourself, for the things you didn't do differently, or do you still live and die being crushed under the weight of regrets? Are the scars healing? Are you in therapy, or at least talking to someone?

Have you told him that he needs to be more accessible? Do you now demand for the love you deserve? Have you stopped stalking people who broke your heart? Have you healed? Will you get yourself up and go for that date? 

Do you still take your medications? Do you still pray? Are you drinking less? Are you coping better with the pressure, and dealing appropriately with your substance abuse?

Above all, do you still hope?