How much money do we need before we get into relationships? 

I will say “just enough”. Just enough to deal with “immediate” worries. Just enough to meet your needs. Just enough to meet the needs of the one you hold dear. Just enough.

When people say the reason they are single is that they don’t have enough money, I am tempted to ask “what is enough money?” Can money be “enough?”. As our finance grows, so does our needs increase. I don’t think there’s “enough” money out there for one to be satisfied with before he/she gets into a relationship. For when you get that money, you’ll want more. 

When money becomes the unit for measuring affection, then I think there’s a problem. Finance though very important should not be the SI unit for love. Things like compassion, trust, honesty should be the bedrock of relationships and money, an addition.

Everyone needs finance, life itself needs finance. Finance is an integral part of our lives, but should it define what we do with our emotions? Should we let the lack of adequate finance cage our ability to love and be loved? Should a man who hangs on a bus screaming Oshodi from morning till night not experience the warmth of love because he’s not controlling money like Adenuga? Should a lady who sells popcorn by the walk-over bridge at Iyana Oworo not laugh at her partner’s jokes because her account does not read 6 figures at the end of the month?

Everyone has his/her own level of romance. Lounging in Santorini is someone’s reality. Talking deep into the night in a one-bedroom apartment is another person’s reality. The value is the same depending on how you want to look at it, the feeling just the same, only the finance varies. With human beings, our feelings of pain, love, disgust, anger, resentment, happiness or comfort are the same though our financial levels might vary. 

I think we should give people the liberty to feel their feelings and not imprison their feelings because they do not have the finance to express their feelings. If we are waiting to have enough money, when will we have enough? When will we rest and feel our feelings? Do we really have it all? At what point in our lives do we love and be loved? Will we chase money intending to have it so we can love?

There is love for everyone, plenty of money or just enough money.