With regards to connections, there are sure principles that ought to be met in the event that you need to extend your association. With everything in the media, we can undoubtedly overlook what is significant in a relationship and what isn't; we may zero in on shallow parts of the other individual such, as how much cash they need to spend on you or how attractive their body is. In spite of the fact that having cash and being appealing are both acceptable characteristics in an accomplice, a relationship isn't about shallow things. 

The following are a few principles that can help develop your relationship:  

1. Be Real. 

It seems like presence of mind, yet we will in general shape ourselves dependent on the other individual. Since we need to intrigue the other individual, we may get things done or make statements that we typically wouldn't. Being genuine will help decide whether you two are a decent match. Wouldn't you rather discover now if it merits your time as opposed to contributing long stretches of your time and energy? Be genuine with the other individual. Show them the genuine you, not the phony you. 

2. No Games. 

This standard is associated with the principal rule of being genuine. With regards to a relationship, you can either mess about or put yourself in developing the relationship. At the point when you mess around, your relationship will undoubtedly self-destruct. Why put your heart into the other individual, when the other individual is tied in with messing around? This will bring about deceptive nature, absence of trust and contentions later down in your relationship. With regards to fortifying a relationship, it's imperative to create trust, genuineness, compelling correspondence and duty. 

3. Know and comprehend the contrast among people. 

This standard is significant while building up a relationship. People are conceived diversely and mentally, we will in general have various qualities. Most men make the most of their alone time when they are pushed and anxious, though numerous ladies appreciate working out our emotions with the goal that we can allow them to out. At the point when you don't recognize the contrasts among people, you may butt heads and become disappointed. In the end, you may very well surrender since you don't have the foggiest idea what else to do. At the point when you're ready to comprehend the distinctions, you will better comprehend your accomplice and subsequently have the option to reinforce and develop your relationship. I energetically suggest perusing the book, "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus" by John Gray. He has helped me in my marriage in seeing more about myself and my significant other. 

4. Know your accomplice's way to express affection. 

At the point when you are in a serious relationship, it's essential to comprehend the manner in which they feel love, and how they express it. At the point when you comprehend your accomplice's way to express affection, you will have the option to communicate in their language. It's additionally similarly as significant in knowing your own main avenue for affection. How would you feel generally cherished? Possibly it's through fraternizing, or by physical touch. A ton of couples need closeness and love since they are communicating in various ways to express affection to their accomplice. When you're ready to talk easily in your accomplice's way to express affection, you'll be in the groove again of creating and developing your relationship. I propose that you go to your nearby library and take out the book, "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. 

5. Compelling correspondence. 

This returns to the standard of knowing and understanding the distinction among people. At the point when you can comprehend your accomplice, you'll have the option to discuss successfully with them. People respond to pressure and life in an unexpected way, and since ladies will in general communicate a greater amount of their feelings and appreciate talking so as to tackle issues, they anticipate that their accomplice should likewise talk and offer their feelings. Figuring out how to be a powerful communicator with your accomplice will help reinforce your relationship.

I have been following you back-to-back since 2015 and you have been a source of inspiration and motivation to me. Your articles in Saturday PUNCH were timely and served as my moral guide as a teenager. Thanks so much for setting my life on the right path. May God reward you immensely.

My parents have been in the village and my dad died three months ago. I’ve been staying with my sister since 2019 and her husband paid for my SSCE and NECO. My sister and her husband welcomed me into their home as they needed help, treated me well and encouraged me to take UTME. If I do well, they will sponsor my education. My sister’s husband was so supportive, has been taking care of me and would go extra lengths to make me happy not knowing he was doing all that because he had amorous feelings for me! The man defiled me at the age of 17! The first day he took my virginity I was very angry with him and he apologised that it would never happen again. He said that it was a temptation he couldn’t conquer, not knowing that it was the beginning. Now, I’m addicted to sex even when I swore to remain a virgin till my wedding night!

Right now, he’s the only help I have in my life and I can’t afford to deny him. Even when my sister is at home he would be having sex with me. Please I’ve never told anyone in my life. You are the only one I want to tell because of the genuine love and attention I see you giving girls and I don’t know what to do or to go!

I am a 21-year-old lady and I lost my mother when I was 15! She gave birth to two of us and I’m the older. My dad remarried and he has seven children from my step-mum. Due to the maltreatment my brother and I got from my step-mum which included starving us always and making us sleep on the cold, bare floor in our passage every night, the worst of it was that there was a day I peed and she ground and put fresh pepper in my vagina.

Eventually, my aunties had to take us away from her and that was how my brother and I got separated. A year after staying in my aunt’s house, she changed totally. Everything I did was just not okay. I tried everything in my reach to please her, hawk food for her, deprive myself of sleep by fetching drums of water as early as 4am using a well with no one supporting me even though her children are all grown up!

I had to return to my father’s house because there was a day she and her children beat me up because of an ordinary plastic bucket! I just couldn’t take it anymore, so she packed my bags and told me to leave!

Now ma, I really want to be educated as all my life I have only dreamt of getting educated. In order for me to achieve my dreams, I had to take a job of N8000 every month because my dad is not financially buoyant because he has many children to cater for.

The man I’m working for promised to cater for my needs and education because he knows I have no one to fend for me. However, he uses me like his sex slave. He gives me food and buys me clothes but I’m always depressed. My dad has entrusted me to his hands, so there is nothing I can do even if I want to run away. There is no one to cater for my needs. My brother had to drop out of secondary school. The N8000 salary is for our survival ma. I can’t lie to you ma. I’m really depressed and I need your advice before I go crazy.

In my last article, you’d recall I said an average Nigerian girl is into prostitution! I have counselled the ladies to stop sleeping with these men immediately. I am also trying to get them help that will lift them out of their horrible situation. However, who will help us beg men to be more merciful to the female folk? This is so despicable and heartbreaking. I tell you an average girl would remain sexually-pure but for survival yet we still have poor people bringing children they can’t fend for into the world! For everyone reading, I plead with you in God’s name to take care of any under-privileged girl around you. Our daughters are going through hell and if we damage those who are responsible for bringing the next generation into the world, the future will be most unbearable to live in and our children and grandchildren would suffer for it.

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