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10 Positive Signs Of Sexual Frustration

Fed up with not gettin’ any? You are not alone. Take a look at /r/DeadBedrooms on Reddit sometime. People all over the world are having less amounts of sexy time in life than they’d hoped for, or they need, to be happy.

And, this doesn’t just entail having sex with a partner. I’m talking about a severe lack of orgasms- which certainly includes masturbation. Experiencing a lack of sexual outlets is a really difficult thing to deal with, because it can so powerfully and negatively affect us on physical, mental and emotional levels.

Clearly, using some K-Y Warming Liquid and an adult film or some Pjur BodyGlide for Women and the Spicy Little Trickster would make the world a more harmonious place for all of us. I implore you, do us all an enormous favor and be sure to have plenty of orgasms, either by yourself or safely with a partner, using the Durex Pleasure Pack or Lifestyles Ultra Trial. Not only will it feel fantastic, your improved attitude and behavior will be apparent and much very appreciated by everyone around you!

Let’s delve into the top 10 telltale symptoms and signs of sexual frustration:




1. Negatively Overreacting
Have you ever been treated so rudely, unfairly and unjustly by someone that your immediate reaction was, “Man, they really need to get laid?” Well, this assessment is probably right on track. And, if you act this way towards someone else, ask yourself if the same logic applies to you, “Was I just super rude to them because I’m ridiculously horny?” If the answer is yes, grab some Probe Thick & Rick Lube and get busy.



2. Living Vicariously
If you are constantly probing others for the juicy details of their private sexual encounters, it’s likely that you aren’t having enough of your own. This can even go so far as pushing others to hook up, just to hear about how the action went down afterwards. Alternately, if you are single and are the one being pressured by your peers for specific details, this is a clear indication of their seemingly stagnant and unsatisfactory sex lives



3. Giving up on Getting Laid
Does getting laid ever again seem completely hopeless at this point in your life? Have you stopped caring about your level of hygiene, grooming and clothing as a result of this? Feeling as though there is no possible scenario in which you could ever get any again is a sure sign of sexual frustration. Don’t let a lag in the action cause you to spiral out of control and to entirely give up on sex. You always have your trusty hands, or vibrator like the Durex Play Delight, to fall back on! This will keep hope alive and your head in the game



4. Substituting Food and other Stimulants
Sexual impulses can become a form of compulsion. If you have an addictive personality and you love sex, but you’re not having any, it’s common to substitute this good feeling with another one. When you are unfulfilled sexually, you may turn to excessive eating, drinking or other substances to fill the emotional void that formerly sex had satisfied. The next time you want to eat or drink out of frustration, try masturbating instead, and you’ll burn up some calories and feel much healthier than you would after stress eating an entire pizza or downing a handler of vodka.



5. Hypersensitivity
Has your once mega-developed sense of humor flown out the window? Did you used to be able to take a joke and now you fly off the handle when someone yanks your chain (or you frequently imagine that’s what they are doing, even when they’re not)? Feeling ultrasensitive is a sure sign of sexual derailment. Rather than feeling insecure and hypersensitive, why not try a sensitive condom with your partner, like the Lifestyles Ultra Thin or the Durex Extra Sensitive? This will bring your sense of humor back to the forefront and thicken your skin to the opinions and teasing of others.



6. Jealous Rages
When the object of your affection isn’t putting out, it’s highly likely for the more frustrated member of the relationship to fly into a jealous rage when their lover shows someone else attention and/or affection. People who were once their friends, or even their celebrity crushes, may suddenly seem like threat to your sex life, even though they never were before. Talk to your partner about the frequency, quality and duration of your sexual activities in an open and honest way. This will let them know how much sex means to you and how they are making you feel less secure in your own skin by holding out.



7. The Desire to Commit
This may defy logic, but sometimes people end up committing to one another when the frequency of sex wanes. Commitment offers a sense of wellbeing and comfort, just like sex does. If you’re not feeling as close to them sexually as you once were, it is easy to assume that making a stronger commitment to one another will solve this emotional distance problem. Occasionally, couples will commit to each other after the sexual aspects of their relationship have slacked off, as a means of re
8. Depressed Pouting
When you find yourself in the dark, in a fetal position, wearing all black and listening to sad songs, ask yourself, “When was the last time I had a mind-blowing orgasm?” The answer may surprise you. If it has been longer than normal since your last endorphin releasing body quake, hop on the orgasm train and you will be feeling more like yourself in no time. Post-orgasm urges may even include pulling back the curtains to let in the sunshine and cranking up your favorite pop group’s single for a


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9. Flaunting It
You’ve seen them around in bars, clubs, at the grocery store and in restaurants around happy hour. These sexually frustrated people are overflowing out of their two-sizes-too-small clothes like a busted open can of biscuits, are laughing a little too loudly and are constantly scanning the area for wedding ring-less patrons. Sexual frustration can lead to desperation, which unfortunately, isn’t very sexy at all. If you find yourself in this position, tone down the neediness vibe and you’ll be more likely to attract a quality lay, who won't object to wearing a condom. When you feel the desire to excessively flaunt it, masturbating before you go out can be an immense help in taming down this urge

10. Falsifying Information
Did you receive a mass text message or read a post on a social media site about how someone you know went through an entire box of Caution Wear Wild Rose’s last night? Is a person in your life perpetually bragging, in public, about needing Trojan Magnums XLs? Exaggerating or fabricating information about sex can be a telltale sign of someone who is, in reality, very sexually frustrated. While listening to lies about sex can be annoying and eye-roll worthy, realize that these people actually need your compassion because they are most likely extremely sexually frustrated

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This Is How Long Sex Should Last (From A Womans Point Of View)

A lot of people conflate longer sex with better sex, but that’s not always the case.

You came here looking for an answer, and an answer I will give you: Sex should last one hour, 34 minutes, and 22 seconds—the exact runtime of Wayne's World.

Shyeah, right! While I have a lot of respect (and follow-up questions) for anyone who’s regularly managing to bone for the duration of a feature film, of course I’m joking. There isn’t a specific length of time that sex should last, but people tend to conflate longer sex with better sex. Marathon sex sessions are used as a measurement of just how steamy an evening was. And while quickies can be fun, they should constitute a piece of a balanced sex life—not the whole thing. They’re like the candy and ice cream part of the food pyramid—very tasty, just not intended for everyday sustenance.

While there's no magic number, one study back in 2005 in the Journal of Sexual Medicine asked a bunch of sex therapists for their opinions on how long sex should last. Their guidelines separated sex into four categories: adequate, too short, too long, and desirable. They rated penetrative vaginal sex that lasted from 1-2 minutes as “too short,” and sex that lasted 10-30 minutes as “too long.” Meanwhile, “adequate” sex lasted 3-7 minutes and desirable sex lasted 7-13 minutes.

It’s difficult to get good data on the amount of time the average person spends getting freaky—are you keeping track of how long you’re humping and pumping?—especially because sex can be defined in a myriad of ways. For example, some people (and most studies) are only counting penetrative sex, which isn’t a particularly effective way to measure sex, since it’s both extremely heteronormative and not the way most people with vaginas are orgasming.

So I asked a handful of women and nonbinary people how long they’d ideally like sex to last, and with a few exceptions, the answers settled around five to ten minutes of intercourse, and longer for foreplay.

One woman said her ideal was 10-15 minutes of foreplay and 10 minutes of intercourse: “I find I get rather impatient in bed, or perhaps I just haven’t met someone worth taking more time.” Another said, “I feel like this sounds short, but honestly 5-10 mins plus like 15-ish minutes of foreplay.” Another woman said, “I generally like sex to last 15-20 minutes, with intercourse being like maybe a quarter of that.” Two women and one nonbinary woman answered that their ideal sex session including foreplay would last an hour or so—which seems like an endeavor! Good for them!

It turns out people consistently say that they want sex to last longer than it does. Almost everyone I informally interviewed felt that their answers were shorter than average, when in reality almost all of them were either in line with or above the average duration of sex, which is around 5.4 minutes.

So while we’re all self-conscious that we’re shortchanging our down-and-dirty time, sex really doesn’t take that long—even for people who are completely happy with their sex lives. I don’t mean to suggest that shorter sex is better, by any means. But according to a Twitter poll asking, “Do you ever get bored during penetrative sex or want it to just be over already?” Eighty-two percent of the 819 participants said yes. The reason I knew to ask that (possibly leading) question is that I, too, have been bored during penetrative sex, just up there thinking about the fact that I need to check on the status of my car registration or how Joan Cusack hasn’t had a single leading film role (which is a damn shame).

According to another Twitter poll I conducted of 2,380 people who are on the receiving end of penetrative sex, most (61 percent) wanted the actual penetration to last about 5-10 minutes (without counting foreplay). Twenty-six percent said they wanted it to last longer than 11 minutes. For the most part, those who are penetrated don’t think that longer penetration is better, so you can stop thinking about your grandma playing baseball, or whatever it is you’ve been doing to try to avoid coming too soon.

So according to the data, rather than attempting a marathon jackhammer sesh, you should switch things up! In that study, the more sex acts that a couple did, the more likely both of them were to orgasm, and the benefit of multiple sexual acts was even more significant for women than for men.

The lesson here is you don’t need to be having sex longer; you need to be having sex better.