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If You Are Not Ready For These 35 Things Then Do Not Marry
~3.9 mins read
Don't Get Married If You Are Not Ready for These 35 Things, 10 Are Very Important.
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Don't get married...
1. If you don't want to be asked questions, especially stupid questions.
2. I'd you want to have & keep a lot of friends of the opposite gender, marriage needs some level of restraining from such.
3. If you don't want anyone to look you in the face and tell you, "what you did was wrong" when you were wrong.
4. If you don't want to feel like someone is controlling you because that feeling will come in marriage.
5. If you want to do things only your way. In marriage, everything will not go your way.
6. If you don't want anybody to tell you what to do because you're big enough.
7. If you're not ready to handle pressure, because marriage sometimes has serious pressure.
8. If you have to run to your family anytime you face challenges, marriage requires maturity.
9. If you can't take shut from anybody. Marriage comes with a lot of shits.
10. If you want to be treated the way your mum treats you, then stay with mummy.
11. If you want your partner to give you 200% respect but all you do is what does not deserve respect. It will be difficult for your partner to give you what you don't deserve.
12. If you care about yourself not how others feel.
13. If you think your exes are better than the present partner, why didn't you just stay with them?
14. If you think you are more important than everyone else.
15. If you love to keep many girlfriends or boyfriends. Marriage requires faithfulness.
16. If you are a woman beater because you have no value for a woman.
17. If you want to keep secrets. Marriage requires openness & honesty.
18. If you want to live your life like singles. Marriage is a different ball game altogether.
19. If you always desire revenge. Marriage is a place where a lot of forgiveness is needed.
20. If you find it difficult to be faithful and stay with one partner. Marriage requires self-control.
21. If you don't have respect for others. Marriage works with loads of respect.
22. If you can't own up to your mistakes and apologize. Marriage is not a blame game.
23. If you are too full of yourself and want to be treated in a special way but can't treat others the same way. Pride kills marriages.
24. If you have destructive anger. The anger will take a few minutes to pull down what it took years to build.
25. If you have too much ego & pride.
26. If you don't want anyone to touch your phone or get into your personal space occasionally.
27. If you want to have a private life and private phone and private friends. Marriage requires no such privacy.
28. If you want to have intimate conversations with your exes, with no disturbances or interrogation. Your partner deserves to know what you're about.
If you want to live a Free life when you go out, come back home anytime, talk to whoever you want anytime. Marriage has a level of restriction.
30. If you are not mature enough to handle situations with wisdom. Marriage is not for kids or people who can't think for themselves.
31. If you are only there for the good times. Sometimes, things can happen and you may have to start all over again.
32. If you don't have anything going for you. It would be wrong to burden someone else with all that weight. Put yourself together.
33. If everything is white and black to you. Sometimes, some things aren't how they appear. A listening ear and an understanding heart are key for any marriage.
34. If you are not proud of your partner. Don't get married to someone you'll be ashamed of for the rest of your life.
35. If you always want to have the final say. Marriage is a union of two totally different individuals who decide to blend in and work things out. No one is meant to be a bit for another.
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6 Things To Consider Before Going In A Relationship
~5.4 mins read
Being in a new relationship is very dounting as there are so many things that one has to take into consideration. It is easy to fall head over heels in love with your new partner and loose ones sane and rational mind.
It is true that when a person is in love it is as if they have been intoxicated with substances. Before agreeing to the new relationship ask yourself these hard questions about your partner. Have a self introspection and do not hold anything back. Be frank and honest with yourself to these following questions.
Ask yourself these questions when starting a new relationship.
1. Does your partner love you like you do.
It is easy to be in love alone and the feelings are not reciprocated. Be with a partner whom you know that they love you dearly just like how you love them. Do not find your self in a situation whereby your love is unrequited, you are dating the owner of the relationship. One way to see if your partner loves you the way that you love him is check how they treat you. Are they making you a priority in their lives and making concerted efforts to make time for you guys.
2. Will your partner motivate, inspire, encourage, support, help you in all areas of life?
When choosing a life partner make sure to choose some one who has your best interests at heart. Someone who will be your top cheer leader and tell you if you are on a wrong path. They will be an all rounder that will awaken the sleeping giant in one area of your life.Will your partner add value to your life? Likewise the same measure or standard that you are using you should measure it against yourself as well.
3. Will your partner be there when you are terminally ill.
One needs to think about the future as many unpredictable things can happen. You should know if your partner can assist you when you are vulnerable, when you loose your job. Do not be with someone who loves you based on what they see currently.
Be long term thinking, that should you pass on your children are in safe hands with your partner. They will receive the best care, love and support from your partner.
4. Will your partner be there through your failures, downfalls, struggles, mistakes and life's challenges?
Choose someone who will give you unwavering support throughout all the trials of life. Someone who will weather the toughest storms with you and not disappoint you. When thinking about such this will a deciding factor if you want to have children with this person.Will he be there for me emotionally, physically, spiritually, mentally and financially.
5. Will your partner still love you the same way if you become disabled?
No one wishes to be born disabled to to be disabled in life. Significant life tragedies can turn ones world within a blink of an eye. When deciding if you and your partner are compatible you can test the waters in a jokingly fashion by asking him or her if they would still be with you should you loose all your teeth? Their response will shed some light if looks of paramount importance to you guys. Ask yourself if your partner will your pray for you everyday?
6. Check if your partner is physically, emotionally, mentally and financially abusive.
Do not under no circumstances subject yourself to any form of abuse. Equally do not be a perpetrator of abuse of an instigator of abuse. Avoid being involved with people who see nothing wrong in hurting others. Red flags will be there, make sure you will not regret the decision of being with your partner. A relationship is supposed to be enjoyed not to be endured.
In this day and age it is becoming challenging to have a partner who genuinely love you for who you are and not for what you have. When starting a relationship never ever make intimacy your first priority on the list. We found intimacy here in this world and we will leave it here. There are more better things than sex you need to look at.
In sum pray for the spirit of discernment so that you can know if your partner is the right one for you or not. Other people can be the greatest pretenders, have eyes that can pierce through the veil and see the character of your partner.
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