Predestination – Kadara , Ayanmo, Ipin, Or Akose jaye

Culture, Tradition

Yoruba people of the archaic days strongly believed in predestination. They rush to the shrine to confirm a newborn’s predestination/Akose-jaye. That apart, before they embark on any significant task, they would consult a priest to ensure it conforms with their Kadara.

Yoruba people strongly believe each person’s Kadara is unique just as DNA is, they say ‘ori ti taiyelolu yan koni ti kehinde’ ‘ise teni kan se to dolola, elomi se je gbese’ again there is ‘eni o gba kadara, a gba kodoro’

Having said that, some modern Yorubas ignorantly subvert the importance of Kadara, they maintain it isn’t real or that it’s superstitious but they ask their pastors and imams for prayers on important tasks of life such as jobs, investments, relationships etc. Asking here may be to pray over the tasks so as to become suitable or successful and they surmise whatever feedback they get but subconsciously , it is to ask if the mission aligns with their destinies, that’s its metaphysics.

The Yoruba will say ‘Akunle yan ni adaye ba’ meaning we had consciously implored Olodumare of our chosen destinies prior to our arrival on Aye. That quote often goes fully thus ‘Akunle yan ladaye ba, ade ayetan oju nkan wa ‘ the concluding part states upon our arrival, we often want to expedite the good part of our kadara, we put the cart before the horse, we forget that some events serve as precedents for future comfort. We often become impatient of what was agreed to by ourselves and Olodumare.

Kadara comes in two folds, the good and the bad. The good is often referred to as Kadara and the bad as Ipin (sometimes Ayanmo). Ipin is defined as our own fair share of bad occurrence at Ile-aye as no one lives without having their own time of turbulence.

The Yoruba religion believes predestination isn’t changeable (Ayanmo o gbo ogun) other than to exploit and make the most of it as there is always light at the end of the tunnel. It is also believed that enemies can delay Kadara through the use of a sorcerer however, ultimately, Kadara must prevail (Ota o le pa Kadara da, won kan le fowo ago sehin). It is therefore imperative for one to guard one’s Kadara spiritually. Other religions in the likes of Christianity and Islam hold this superficial belief that prayers can change ill-fated destiny into good.

Atheists believe a man should face the world as it is i.e. his skills, ability, society, laws and other fundamental factors (some within his control and some beyond) attached to a man are his supposed destiny which comes as a result of natural circumstance.

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Ps: Kadara, Ayanmo and Ipin can be used interchangeably.

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*WHO IS A PEDOPHILE?*

*A PEDOPHILE IS AN ADULT WHO TAKES PLEASURE IN HAVING SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP WITH MINORS*

. Pedophilia is not written on anybody's face

. A pedophile can leave with you for years and you won't know

. Pedos can  be male or female 

*What are the fruits of pedophiles* ?

They penetrate deep into your heart until you become very comfortable with them

They are usually very friendly with kids

They are always praising the kids they are targeting

They are experts at grooming

They are not in haste

 They take their time to plan and strategize before they act

They are ready to spend on a child what they cannot spend on their wife or any other adult

They hardly show irritation with kids

They are experts at discovering kids love language

 They know how to turn kids against their parents

  They are like chameleon

 In other words they are good pretenders.

 They have no shame and no pity

 That is why a father can molest his own daughter

 And an adult can break into a 6month old baby.

 They are heartless.

The painful and agonizing cry of a child does not move them

When they are before you or just before they have their way with a child, they appear to be the best friends to have

But immediately they get what they are looking for then turn to monsters

*WHERE ARE THEY FOUND*?

 They are everywhere

 They are among the teachers in your child's school

They are among the Sunday school teachers in the church

Your domestic servants are not innocent until they are proven so

 Your colleagues in your working place.

They can be in the public vehicle.

 They are everywhere 

Relatives who spend  some time in your home.

May God help us because one doesn't know who to trust anymore.

 And the worst of it all , some *PARENTS ARE PEDOPHILES.*

*SHOULD WE NOW START SUSPECTING EVERYBODY AROUND US? NO.*

 But importantly, every parents needs an extra pair of eyes.

A parent should be able to see more than meets the eyes.

 A parent should read and understand the body language of a child.

Your primary assignment is parenting.

Your business or official work is secondary

*HOW DO WE KNOW THEM*?

Parenting is not easy task. May God help us.

 Like I do say having children is not as important as watching over them like mother hen.

Watch your child's behavior towards any adult that comes around him or her regularly

Check out for those adults who are always looking for ways to stay ALONE with a child

 Check out for those who like to play ONLY with kids, not that they are naturally very playful but they just like to play with kids.

Be on your guard against any adult that buys unsolicited gifts for a particular child

5. Dig deeper if your husband start picking on your daughter.

 6. If any adult, including teachers in the school suddenly starts taking unusual interest in your child, don't keep quiet 

7. If someone suddenly makes himself or herself  the spokesperson for your child, please be suspicious.

 8. Don't be too comfortable with those young guys who offer to teach your child ALONE without payment.

*THE WORST OF IT IS SOME PARENTS ARE PEDOPHILES.*

How then can we manage this

To manage parents that are pedophiles:

The other parent should be bold enough to speak out on behalf of the child.

There are several government agencies and NGOs that are ready to take up the case of such child.

In some cases the child may be taken away from such parents till they are of age to defend themselves.

 But where the problem lies is that many times the child is intimidated to silence.

You should not parent only your own children.

some mothers may hide in disguise of covering shame for the family.

 If you know of a child that is being abused by a parent or people they are living with please be the voice and speak out on their behalf.

A greater shame or disaster may befall such family if the woman fails to speak up.

*HOW CAN WE PROTECT OUR CHILDREN*?

1. GOOD AND EARLY SEXUALITY EDUCATION

2. INCULCATE  GOOD SELF ESTEEM INTO THEM

3. KNOW AND SPEAK THEIR LOVE LANGUAGE

IF A PEDOPHILE DISCOVERS YOUR CHILD'S LOVE LANGUAGE BEFORE YOU, THEY WILL USE IT TO CAUSE YOU PAIN.

 4. DON'T ALLOW UNNECESSARY ATTACHMENT BETWEEN YOUR CHILD AND ANY ADULT.

5. DO NOT TRUST EVERY ADULT WITH YOUR CHILD

6. TEACH YOUR CHILD TO HAVE SELF CONTROL AND BE SATISFIED WITH WHAT YOU GIVE TO HIM OR HER

7: BE CAREFUL WITH THE KIND OF PERSONS YOU BRING INTO YOUR HOME

8. DON'T BRING A HOUSE HELP INTO YOUR HOME IF YOU DON'T TRUST YOUR HUSBAND

9. YOUR CHILD SHOULD NOT BECOME AN ERRAND GIRL FOR EVERYBODY IN YOUR NEIGHBORHOOD

 DON'T EXPOSE YOUR CHILD THROUGH INDECENT DRESSING

10: PLAN THE SLEEPING ARRANGEMENT IN YOUR HOME VERY WELL

 

*ABOVE ALL, LET YOUR HOUSEHOLD KNOW GOD AND WALK IN HIS WAYS*.

This is to all Parents, especially the mothers.