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Emelie
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5 WAYS TO ASK A GUY OUT
~1.8 mins read
When it comes to who makes the first move in dating, men are often (and expected to be) proactive. On the other hand, most women leave it to chance.
“It is the man’s prerogative to ask a woman out”, some would say. Is it?
There is no better time than now for women to start taking matters in their hands. Some women admit that they would rather die than ask a guy out.
Your love interest may never notice you if you refuse to act. So how do you ask him out?
Don’t worry ladies, here are some tips for you:
Ask Him For Help
Hardly would you find a guy that would say no to a “damsel in distress”. So ladies, ask him for help with a simple task. Not money, please. Even if it is something you know how to do well, you can feign ignorance. That should get you close enough to know him better. Then you can propose a hangout.
Group Date
“Hi. My friend and I plan on seeing a movie this weekend at the cinema. She is coming with her boyfriend. I was wondering if you would like to come with me.”
Make an arrangement with your friends and invite him for a group date. The beach has the perfect ambience for this kind of date.
Drop A Note
Remember those love letters we write back in the days to our crush? Yeah, write him something similar but less emotional or dramatic. A simple “I like you. Call me” note would do.
Slide In The DM
There are instances where your love interest may be on social media or on a dating site. First, make sure he notices you on the timeline before moving to direct message (DM). You can do this by interacting with his content or post. Then you can slide into his DM and make small talk about his post.
Approach Him
This one gives you the jitters but it’s quick and effective. Meet him somewhere you can talk quietly, and tell him you what you like about him. Then ask him if he would like to hang out, could be the cinema doesn’t have to be something fancy.
And if you are still having second thoughts, ask yourself: what is the worst that can possibly happen? If he says no, move on dear.
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Emelie
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3 WAYS YOU CAN MAKE SEX MORE ROMANTIC
~1.9 mins read
Broaching the important topic of sex can sometimes be uncomfortable for many couples because let’s admit it, many of us are embarrassed about being sexually rejected or about our bodies.
Not only that, but society has also encouraged feelings of sexual shame, making romantic and intimate sex a scary endeavor to even talk about.
In an online study of 70,000 people in 24 countries, researchers found couples who have a great sex life make sex a priority rather than the last item of a long to-do list. They create space for intimacy and connection. These couples talk about sex and put the relationship first, despite the demands of work and kids. They discover sexual pleasure through a variety of methods, not just intercourse.
Here are three ways you and your partner can make sex more romantic in your relationship.
Master the art of intimate sex talk
The fact that you and your partner can’t have intimate conversations about sex is not good for your sex life. Having sex talks with your lover helps to deepen your intimacy and emotion connection while also learning your likes and dislikes when it comes to sex.
Redefine “sex”
We all have a unique attitude towards sex usually shaped by our individual life experiences. Sex should be about passion rather than achieving a goal like reaching orgasm or mastering a technique. Goal-orientated sex can create sexual dysfunction when the goal isn’t reached as you are more likely to feel like there’s something wrong with you. When you make your sex about passion, then the pressure and shame of not performing to an expectation is gone as you no longer have to feel self-conscious. In other words, simply enjoy the experience as this will make things more pleasurable for both you and your partner. Ironically, not being stressed about having an orgasm makes it easier to have one.
Have a mental erotic love map
Building a mental erotic love map guides you on your partner’s sexual likes and dislikes to help you create a great sex life. Don’t be shy to ask specific questions about what they enjoy and don’t, what they want to try out and what makes them feel uncomfortable. Sample questions can be, What felt good about sex last time? What did we do that caused you to feel closer and connected to me? What did we do that made you relax? What did we do that turned you on? What do you need to make sex better for you? What makes sex more like lovemaking for you? What are fantasies or thoughts you have during sex?
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Emelie
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3 REASONS YOU FAIL AT ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS
~2.2 mins read
You see yourself shouting “God when” on so many social media posts, admiring the many love stories and pictures. However, your own love life seems to be in a state of chaos.
You have made efforts to ensure you have a better love life but it all seems to be futile. Often, most people want intimacy but always fail at it.
Most people are afraid of being alone and at the same tome afraid of intimacy.
Below are some reasons and ways to tell you are afraid of intimacy. It is possible you are not aware you are.
Your actions are different from your intentions
The way we create distance in a relationship is different for each of us and is typically heavily informed by our attachment history. A person with a dismissive-avoidant attachment pattern may be aloof toward the needs of another person, in particular a romantic partner.
This attitude might often be as a result of past relationships, heartbreaks or even family history. A person who was neglected while growing up might find it difficult to show love to a romantic partner.
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This attitude might often be as a result of past relationships, heartbreaks or even family history. A person who was neglected while growing up might find it difficult to show love to a romantic partner.
Getting to know our attachment history can offer us tremendous insight into our patterns and understanding of our behaviors. Yet, as we’re examining our relationships in real-time, it’s valuable to identify the moments when our actions don’t match our idea of what we want. You can tell someone you love them and your action says otherwise. When this happens, your partner might pull away while you keep wondering what the issues are.
Your feelings always shift
There are some people who get tired of relationships and suddenly change their behaviours towards their partner. One minute, you are on a date with someone, laughing and feeling a sense of excitement, the next morning you are second-guessing and talking yourself out of your feelings. This is often because being connected to someone else also connects us to our fears around loss and the pain of not having felt that love in the past.
You always find excuses for your bad behaviours
When your partner points out issues in the relationship, you always have an excuse or a reason for being difficult. Once you constantly find excuses, it becomes difficult to apologise and this will subsequently affect your relationship. Instead of running away from the major issues, it is important to face them, they also help you get better.
The more we understand our fear of intimacy, exploring its source and challenging the behaviors it inspires, the more we can grow and develop in ourselves and our relationships.
We can expand our capacity to give and receive love. And we can enjoy the lasting closeness and connection we say we want.
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WAYS TO KEEP THE LOVE GOING IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP
~1.6 mins read
No relationship is perfect as it needs constant work to make it work. Putting certain things in place can help you build the chemistry and love you have with your significant.
It does not matter how long you have been in your relationship, these tips will come in handy in building a strong and lasting relationship.
Respect Personal Interests, Opinions and Preferences
As much as you and your partner may be in a relationship, you also need to understand that they still have an identity outside of you. These identities include personal interests, opinions and preferences. Understand which interests conflict and which complement one another. Be open to sharing your thoughts on issues and even if they conflict with that of your partner, disagree respectfully. Preferences and opinions change with time and new information. The more you know about each other’s preferences, the better you know about them and grow together.
Take Vacations Together
Life frustrates us all at one point or the other, the stress gets to us and we need to unwind from it all. Make plans with your significant other and take a soothing vacation together. Planning ahead of time for a vacation or that getaway not only strengthens your bond but spending a romantic time doing fun stuff together also refreshes both your love and you as a person.
Have An Interesting Sex Life
A lack of exciting sex life can affect your relationship with your partner so make sure to always be willing to rejuvenate things. Be open to learning about your partner’s preferences, likes and dislikes and fantasies. Discover each other’s bodies as this will both be exciting and revealing at the same time, and you’ll find yourselves discovering new things about each other. Think of or suggest new ways of handling sexual problems together and you will be one step towards overcoming these issues.
Pay Compliments
Tell your partner the things you like about them. Make a habit of appreciating their personality or little things they did the day before, even the ones they didn’t realise that they were doing. Appreciating people encourages them to do more.
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Sugar Daddy Trends After Girl Uploads Video Of Herself Being Fondled By Him
~0.9 mins read
Sugar daddy trends after girl uploads video of herself being fondled by him
A Ghanaian man is trending after his girlfriend uploaded a video of them having a lovey-dovey time together in a room.
The video got viewers’ attention because of the age difference and the striking beauty of the lady.
Many commenters blasted the man for openly handling the breasts of someone that can very well be his daughter.
The video has rekindled the debate on the influence of money in love and relationships as many argue that the only reason the lady can be in a relationship with the man old enough to be his father is because of the financial benefits she is getting from the man.
Some speculated that the man must have abandoned his wife and children somewhere to be carousing with a girl young enough to be his daughter.
A few saw nothing wrong in the relationship so long as it is not forced.
John Bosco Quarshie wrote: “Eiiiiiih Because of money you are dating your father”
@DeTraplord: “They call it soft life �”
@jeffersondey4: “Holy Moly..Damn!!..Public affair, too bad!!shit”
However, @EdidiongThomas9, who, from his name, is a Nigerian wrote: “Not too old to be her husband.”
Emelie
2 yrs
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This Is Why You Should Never Beg For A Woman's Acceptance!!
~0.8 mins read
Women love to "Accumulate male numbers", she wants to be able to look herself in the mirror every morning and say "50 different men want this". undecided
Here in Nigeria, there is something we call "Crush count", yep, the phrase already gave away it's meaning.
She wants to be able to maintain that intolerable ego, so she can continue being ruthless with men.
This is where simps would of course pose a big problem for men in general.
Basically, whenever you immediately move on after rejection, giving her the impression that she ain't shiit, you also indirectly put value on Masculinity for yourself and every other man she will meet, well until another simp fvvck things up again.
P.S: Never Be A Boost For Her Ego, Learn To Not Kiss A Woman's Feet In Persuasion For ACCEPTANCE.
It Is No Longer Just For You, It Is Also In Respect For the Masculinity Of Your Fellow Man!!
You Have A GOLDEN P€NIS To Uphold, Never Devalue That Privilege!!
Emelie 2 yrs 278
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What I Was Offered By An Occultist While Preaching In A Bus Park
~3.1 mins read
This happened not long after I had returned from the 40-day turned 9 days dry fast I embarked on in the "wilderness", which I shared here early last year, as that gave me the audacity I needed to begin to live the life of the Spirit here on Earth and to boldly preach the Gospel of Christ on the streets of the FCT.
On this particular day, I had come out in the morning as usual and began preaching. In the course of my preaching, i entered into a bus park, and continued to preach at top of my voice (I don't think I had gotten a megaphone yet), "REPENT, AND GIVE YOUR LIFE TO JESUS" or whatever I was saying at the time.
I was in full flow, but as i was preaching, I began to hear a voice screaming, "where is he?" "where hin dey?"
I wasn't sure about what was happening, but as I continued to preach, the voice continued to ask loudly, "where hin dey?" It now become clearer that it was Jesus who I was preaching about that the voice was asking me about, so I sought to know where the voice was coming from and the person behind the voice.
I later saw it was a man who sat by the window of a parked empty bus that was asking the question, so I went towards him to seek what he was about and also to use the opportunity to preach to him.
It was only after i had gotten into the bus he was and sat beside him that I got to realize what the man was about and that he wasn't really seeking for any answers but actually an occultist who appeared troubled by my preaching of the Gospel of Christ in the bus park.
He told me that he was just coming from a midnight meeting (12am - 4am) held atop Zuma rock, located in Suleja, Niger State. He said that he'd not yet had sleep, that I should be able to see it in his eyes.
He also said he knew me, that I could see the way he looked at me while he was entering into the park, and I could remember seeing him passing by and looking at me while entering into the park, but I thought it was just because I was preaching.
He then went on to mention some characters in the Bible using them as reference to what he knew about me. He said that I was strong like Samson and wise like King Solomon.
He said that I should leave what I was doing and join them, that I would become rich. He told me about some of his riches.
He also told me that most of the richest and popular church leaders were part of their group and mentioned some of their names to further entice me.
However while he was yet trying to convince me to join them, something happened that struck me.
As i was trying to show him something in the Bible I was holding while preaching to him, and consequently moved it closer towards him and where he was, I noticed that the guy suddenly dodged and took cover as if I had just pointed a gun or wielded a knife at him.
Lol! I didn't see that coming at all. The way he panicked.
This was still the same guy who's trying to persuade me to join the occult, yet he couldn't even succeed in hiding his phobia for what I had from me. He even made it more glaring, to confirm that it was indeed more powerful and stronger than whatever he or his group had or could muster.
So why would I want to leave what I had for something clearly worse or much less, just because of riches or whatever he was offering in exchange for it?
So that with the so-called riches or whatever he had to offer, I would now start living in fear of those like me as he was?
If anything, he ended convincing me and giving a powerful reason never to join the occult, because he hence proved that POWER pass power, and that GREATER is HE that is in me than he that's in any occultist.
God bless.
Emelie
2 yrs
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I Have No Business With Poor Men – Nazo Ekezie - Celebrities
~1.0 mins read
During the week, an actress, Nazo Ekezie, raised some eyebrows when she stated on Instagram that she had no business with poor men. Expectedly, her comment attracted diverse reactions, with many bashing her over the post, which she later deleted.
In an interview with Sunday Scoop, she said, “I am not in the right position to give anybody relationship advice. I made a post that people were supposed to learn from or laugh about. But, people are now turned it to mean that I was asking men for money.”
The busty actress also noted that she was not looking for a man she could build and invest in. She said, “What I care mostly about is self-care. Women really need to know how to take care of themselves.
I don’t come from a man’s world; I come from a woman’s world. I like talking to women because I am a woman as well. I don’t understand how I made a ‘happy’ post, and people turned it to a ‘bad’ post.
Since then, I have got a lot of ‘nonsense’ messages, especially from poor men. If you are a poor man, I don’t have any business with you. I am not looking for a man I am going to build. I don’t have the energy for that. I will rather build myself. Whenever I write anything motivational, I am talking about myself.”
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