The joy of initiating a relationship is not as sweet as the joy derived from it if it works out, marital joy is in short supply today because many has entered into regrettable marriages which is an offshoot of a toxic relationship.

Meanwhile, many regrets and weeping in marriage would have been avoided if the people involved are vigilant enough to notice the traces of an imminent trouble while in courtship, Instead of experimenting hell in marriage, it is better to break a bad courtship now.

To be frank, breaking a relationship is a serious emotional task that may have a devastating effect on you if not handled very well, but a broken courtship is better than a broken marriage.

A great marriage is not something that just happens, it must be created.

Save yourself of marital trauma by calling it quit if you notice any of these signs:*

1.Distance from God:

God is the inventor of marriage, He knows how to make it work. So, he must be the foundation for it to be fulfilling and rewarding. If you're in a relationship with someone that's not having personal relationship with God, not born again, sees nothing special in attending church or studying the Bible, you need to step on your vehicle brake and stop it instantly.

Although, he or she may not stop you from attending church programs now, but it is a sign of danger to come ahead, because any heart free from divine influence will be influenced by Satan. It is a deadly risk to hang on with an unbeliever in a relationship.

If he or she is not serious with God, such fellow will give you serious headache in your marriage.

Loosing your peace:

If you noticed that you're not your real self whenever you're with your partner, always acting emotionally imbalance and afraid of your partner's reaction to whatever you say or do, you bottled your emotions, reactions, opinions in the presence of your spouse, you're panicked about being judged by him or her, you're not free to express yourself and you feel frustrated in the presence of your partner, that means you're in a controlling relationship. For such to work in marriage, that means you must be a mumu in that union.

3.Always putting you down:

Being in a relationship with someone that always puts you down, destroy your self-esteem and making you feel like a nonentity is a reason to think of backing out. Is he or she fond of insulting you, calling you names and embarrassing you in the public ? To him or her, you're always wrong, you can't please him or her no matter how you try?

You had better be sincere with yourself now and walk away lest you regret in marriage .

4.Twin Game :

Twin games is when your partner is seeing someone else apart from you and the heart is divided between two people. Anyone that's not having 100% love for you in courtship is not trustworthy, don't allow such to waste your time.

Before he or she breaks your heart, be fast enough to give him or her a red card.

5.If he or she Keep putting you in the shadow:

Beware of that fellow that keeps you and the relationship in the dark by not allowing people to know that you're in a relationship and not introducing you to his or her parents, family members, pastor, mentor and friends.

Introducing to people that matters in his or her life is a sign of total commitment to the relationship, but if you have being in a relationship for a while without been introduced to people that matters, it is a sign that something is fishy.

6.Are You Troubled?

There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear, because fear hath torment. "He that feareth is not made perfect in love" I John 4:18-20

Are you worried about his or her behaviours when you are not together? Is your heart bombard with anxiety that something is not right with this fellow?

When you have lost relationship excitement, full of doubts or emotionally drained, take time out to pray for God to reveal the secret things about him or her to you.

7.Frequent Quarrels :

Frequent quarrels in a relationship is a dangerous signal revealing that both of you are not friends, it takes friendliness to build in a successful relationship. Whenever you're with your partner, he or she picked up an offence at every slightest opportunity to the point that you keep malice, report to friends and families before you can settle.

Beware! It is a pointer to problematic marriage of tomorrow.

Relationship is not a rocket science neither are there chemical compounds you react to produce a beautiful relationship. There are basically five stages every relationship passes through:

The first is called the Attraction stage: Every relationship pass through this stage. This is where you only focus on the good things and similarities between each other. You spend a lot of time together and imagine you are made for each other. You avoid fights and it seems nothing will ever cause fight between both of you.

The second stage is the Realization stage: You start finding flaws in your partner. It doesn't mean you don't love each other but things are not as beautiful as in the beginning. You start fighting and doubting if you're really in love. The romance or spark in the relationship seems to be declining.

3. The third stage is the Anger stage: Little or inconsequential issues tends to make you angry. It is at this stage you think of breaking up and leaving each other and blame each other for no reasons.

4. Stage four is Acceptance:

You become certain that both of you are totally different personalities and you have different qualities and flaws but still you have accepted each other. You come to the realization that things cannot be run in the fantasy world for a lifetime. There comes a time when you have to act with maturity.

The final stage is Commitment

You get to understand each other better with time. You also know everything about each other and this sets up a thought in your heart that you don't need anyone in your life as partner. You have fallen in love with your partner forever and this is the most honest and genuine thing in a relationship.