The joy of initiating a relationship is not as sweet as the joy derived from it if it works out, marital joy is in short supply today because many has entered into regrettable marriages which is an offshoot of a toxic relationship.

Meanwhile, many regrets and weeping in marriage would have been avoided if the people involved are vigilant enough to notice the traces of an imminent trouble while in courtship, Instead of experimenting hell in marriage, it is better to break a bad courtship now.

To be frank, breaking a relationship is a serious emotional task that may have a devastating effect on you if not handled very well, but a broken courtship is better than a broken marriage.

A great marriage is not something that just happens, it must be created.

Save yourself of marital trauma by calling it quit if you notice any of these signs:*

1.Distance from God:

God is the inventor of marriage, He knows how to make it work. So, he must be the foundation for it to be fulfilling and rewarding. If you're in a relationship with someone that's not having personal relationship with God, not born again, sees nothing special in attending church or studying the Bible, you need to step on your vehicle brake and stop it instantly.

Although, he or she may not stop you from attending church programs now, but it is a sign of danger to come ahead, because any heart free from divine influence will be influenced by Satan. It is a deadly risk to hang on with an unbeliever in a relationship.

If he or she is not serious with God, such fellow will give you serious headache in your marriage.

Loosing your peace:

If you noticed that you're not your real self whenever you're with your partner, always acting emotionally imbalance and afraid of your partner's reaction to whatever you say or do, you bottled your emotions, reactions, opinions in the presence of your spouse, you're panicked about being judged by him or her, you're not free to express yourself and you feel frustrated in the presence of your partner, that means you're in a controlling relationship. For such to work in marriage, that means you must be a mumu in that union.

3.Always putting you down:

Being in a relationship with someone that always puts you down, destroy your self-esteem and making you feel like a nonentity is a reason to think of backing out. Is he or she fond of insulting you, calling you names and embarrassing you in the public ? To him or her, you're always wrong, you can't please him or her no matter how you try?

You had better be sincere with yourself now and walk away lest you regret in marriage .

4.Twin Game :

Twin games is when your partner is seeing someone else apart from you and the heart is divided between two people. Anyone that's not having 100% love for you in courtship is not trustworthy, don't allow such to waste your time.

Before he or she breaks your heart, be fast enough to give him or her a red card.

5.If he or she Keep putting you in the shadow:

Beware of that fellow that keeps you and the relationship in the dark by not allowing people to know that you're in a relationship and not introducing you to his or her parents, family members, pastor, mentor and friends.

Introducing to people that matters in his or her life is a sign of total commitment to the relationship, but if you have being in a relationship for a while without been introduced to people that matters, it is a sign that something is fishy.

6.Are You Troubled?

There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear, because fear hath torment. "He that feareth is not made perfect in love" I John 4:18-20

Are you worried about his or her behaviours when you are not together? Is your heart bombard with anxiety that something is not right with this fellow?

When you have lost relationship excitement, full of doubts or emotionally drained, take time out to pray for God to reveal the secret things about him or her to you.

7.Frequent Quarrels :

Frequent quarrels in a relationship is a dangerous signal revealing that both of you are not friends, it takes friendliness to build in a successful relationship. Whenever you're with your partner, he or she picked up an offence at every slightest opportunity to the point that you keep malice, report to friends and families before you can settle.

Beware! It is a pointer to problematic marriage of tomorrow.

There are lots of small but heartfelt ways to tell your special one just exactly how you feel without having to verbalize it, and you can cater it to their love language so they're sure to pick up what you're putting down.

These are the ways people express and receive love. Allow yourself and your partner to live your way, happily ever after.

 

1. Giving gifts

Not necessarily based in materialism as you may think, this love language is about the thought and meaning that goes into giving and receiving gifts.

Surprise your special one with tickets to a concert or event you know they would love. Pay attention to the things they mention they want by keeping a secret list on your phone.

Then, when their birthday or a holiday comes along, you have the perfect gift ideas that you know they will love, but will also show you’re paying attention.

 

2. Quality time

Rather than clock watching, this love language is about the quality moments spent together. If you have a demanding job or life commitments and can’t spare very much time, don’t stress.

Quality time individuals don’t necessarily need a lot of attention. They want to see your actions, specifically how you prioritize making time to spend with them and focusing on the relationship.

Make a reservation for dinner somewhere special, just for the two of you, set some time aside every night where you both put your phones away and just catch up on your day.

 

3. Words of affirmation

This way of loving uses words to express care and affection. Small articulations of appreciation and adoration are the key to this love language. Statements such as “thank you for cooking this delicious meal” or “you look amazing today” are the things that make these people tick.

For folks whose love language is words of affirmation, compliments are the most effective way to communicate how you feel, so use your words.

 

4. Acts of service

Usually, it’s not just sending money or giving cheques but providing certain services when your partner needs it most. All you have to do is to place meaning on taking care of something so that your partner doesn’t have to.

 

5. Physical touch

For people who talk this love language, actions such as holding hands, a back rub, a kiss, a hug and sex are all significant expressions of love.

Depending on the type of relationship, varying levels of physical interactions, with consent, are essential. The absence of cuddles and other touch-based expressions of affection can leave people who receive love this way feeling isolated and unloved.