And then we feel guilty and feel guilty about feeling guilty. We try to think it through but we are tired and we are tired of being tired then a part of us begin to break down because we don't feel alive anymore.

 

Those are the days we are in need of an escape route from everything, we try all kind of things. Drinking, smoking, partying, Facebooking, Netflix, Naija Net, we just want anything to distract us from our chaos but how sad it is that the only happiness that can surround you is the happiness that flows from within you. 

 

Happiness inside you is happiness around you but happiness around you can never be happiness inside you. So times like that rather than face our own reflection and ask ourselves the right questions, we start looking around for who is not there and blame their absence for our lack of happiness.

 

I pray this truth set you free. If you're feeling sad right now, and you think it is because of who walked out of your life or who didn't text you or who didn't call you, you're wrong. Because even if they did call you, text you and never left you, you'd still be feeling what you're feeling.

 

May we find the joy that comes from knowing ourselves truly and harnessing our gifts and talents. 

 

Man was created to produce that is why if you don't know what you're living for, you don't feel like you're living a life. You want to see progress, you want to see yourself moving and that's what you need to do .

 

Stop thinking about your past and everyone who is not there anymore. Think movement. That's the only way to move. Happiness is in moving.

What is happening? This question could be answered in different ways depending on who is answering and where they are looking at. A priest would say it is endtime. A feminist would say it is women finally realising their worth and standing up for themselves, a man in his late 70’s would say that today’s generation are morally bankrupt and culture they have recklessly abandoned.

A lot of things we see and hear today has forced us into a place where we do not trust anybody and we do not want to draw undue attention to ourselves by saying something, we are so into minding our business that we no longer see that a smoke from our neighbour’s roof could mean fire bringing down our own houses too.

 We cannot pretend that we do not see that ritual killings are going on rampage and the victims of such killings are not old people but young girls especially. We cannot turn a blind eye because youths are the greatest gift of every nation and a nation losing her youth is losing her strength.

 More sadly is the fact that the perpetuators of this wickedness are also youths, our young man. Is this the desire for money or self-destruct?

You might be asking how does broken marriages and relationships connects with ritual killings. They are all born of the same mother, irresponsibility. We are lacking the zeal to carry on tasks patiently to successful conclusions. 

When we walk into a hall or room, etc first thing we do is look around for the convenience and then the exit door or route before we feel relaxed, it is agonising that we take this same mindset into our relationships.

 As soon as we are getting into a new relationship, we are already checking for the convenience and the exit, we are sizing our chances to see how we can live without this person by our side instead of taking chances to make sure we live with this person by our side. That is why we cannot establish anything, that is why our young men do not have the capacity to build anything from scratch because nobody wants to give so much. 

We forget that for anything to last long, it needs time to develop it's roots, maize and coconut cannot grow at thesame time frame, coconut takes longer time but we see that many time coconut trees outlive the people who plant them. 

What kind of seed are you planting? You'll have to make up your mind then fold up your sleeves to do the work. The way a farm cultivate coconut is not thesame way he cultivate maize.

That it is easy doesn't mean it is lasting and that it isn't easy doesn't mean your efforts are wasted. That is why you cannot measure your progress with that of another. That is why you must not compare your progress with another, because you do not know what seed they sow that they are already in harvest while you're still clearing weed.

Nobody wants to commit time and energy to nurture seed to become trees, we just want the sail without the wind, that is why it is not working.

Be it a business, a relationship or academic, you need to commit to it, make a vision out of it see it in the next 5years and get your strategy right. Progress is not slow because it roots runs deep into time. Invest, build and create that life.