5 THINGS HUSBANDS SECRETLY DESIRE FROM THEIR WIVES.

 

Dear Sisters, 

Men are also attention seekers just like us. The difference between our Hubby and us is we make our attention seeking more obvious to our partner, but for them? They really don't know how to show it, all thanks to "being a man".

 

Let me share some things most husbands secretly desire from their wives:

 

1. Come to the door when your husband comes home. Many wives are too glued to their phones that when husband walks in the door you hardly ever notice his entrance, that is not right aunty. Imagine you coming home after a long day and hubby doesn't even look your way twice, says a lazy welcome, or ask how your day went, there's going to be violence that night. Sadly It's the same way men feel too. 

 

Aunty, going forward from today, drop your phone and come to the door. Share a hug with him, a kiss or a connection that communicates your care, whatever works for your marriage. A man has been through a lot all day, the first thing he wants to come home to is his peace. But it hurts a man when he walks in and his peace is pressing her phone to pieces, or glued to the TV. 

 

2.. Get your husband involved in your marriage. Most men are not lazy or disinterested in the happenings in the home, Many women have conditioned them that way. Send him a text to please stop by the store and get you something you need in the house. 

 

More like; 

"Honey we are out of water, can you stop by for a pack?".

 

Your husband is not playing romantic with you because you are not pushing him to get involved on the home, so that we can losen up. 

 

An ideal man won't mind; "babe we are out of sugar, can you please?". 

 

Yes I know you can send your help to get it, but that's the problem with you wives. Most of you have allowed house help kill your marriage for nothing. Simple things like this that is meant to bond you and your husband you have allowed the maid steal it from you. How will you create memories together when the maid runs everything. 

 

My apologies to all the women who married a 'Mike Tyson', if you cannot kindly ask your hulk hogan husband to buy you an oridinary pack of maggie from the store without receiving a hot slap then what are you really enjoying in that marriage please? May God be with you because you are missing alot. 

 

3.. Men want their butt to be smacked too, not just women. Some of you have been married for 99years but you don't know the texture of your husband's backside; Soft or hard? Because you don't smack it. 

 

Most women treat their husband's body like a shrine, you only go to play with his temple on some specific days, many of you have timetable for touching your own husband. 

 

Aunty, touch him in passing, men want physical touch too, they won't say it openly. Play with his hair, his chest, jump on him for no reason. This is why many marriages are so boring, because your husband's mind has not been conditioned for foreplay outside the bedroom. Your husband can be at home for a whole day and not anticipate that you will smack his butt or jump on him, so he is not even prepared to receive any vibe from you, let alone give you any. 

 

4.. Invite him to help around the house. Men want to help, trust me aunty. Intentionally Bring the waterleaf to the sitting room to pluck together, we do this with wisdom ma. Call him to help you move something in the kitchen, when he comes, use one gist to keep him for a while. Ask him to help you check if the Meat is steaming, or if the water has dried up in the rice. 

 

Men want to help, but the secret is that they don't want to be forced to do it, or get the impression that it is their duty to do it. Use wisdom woman of God. 

 

5.. Men desire to see you genuinely care about his family, honestly.

 

 Let us start from the minor things; which of his siblings are you close to? Which do you have their numbers? How little do you know how his siblings are fairing, or even their endeavours? Do you check up once in a while? 

 

Call his parents to check on them behind his back. Send them alittle something if it is within your capacity, let him learn about it from their testimonies to him. 

 

Many husbands are too busy to keep up with what's going on in his immediate family, it will be good for him to get to know about some of the things going on in his sister's life from your communication with her.

 

"Babe did you know that Mariam just got a new job? We spoke today."

 

That is one definition of peace to any man. 

 

See, I'm not asking you to do eye service, I'm only encouraging you to push yourself beyond to enjoy harmony in your marriage. 

 

Extracted from the novel 

AUNTY TONIA 

 

 

 

APOSTLE

1. A woman's hips are strong enough to carry a child for nine months

2. A woman's heart is strong enough to believe in love even after being disappointed over and over again

3. A woman's arms are strong enough to multi task and raise a home with ease

4. A woman's womb is strong enough to house a baby/babies for months no matter how the child/children growing in it stretches it

5. A woman's mind is strong enough to be strong willed no matter how much people say she will not make it

6. A woman's vagina is strong enough to let in the hardness of the husband she loves no matter how hard he pumps in

7. A woman's faith is strong enough to be relentless in prayer no matter how tough the storms she faces are

8. A woman's resolve is strong enough to keep pushing on no matter how unfair a male dominated society tries to demean her

9. A woman's love is strong enough to still believe in people and care for them despite their weaknesses

10. A woman's hug is strong enough to squeeze away the stress in life

11. A woman's care is strong enough to keep doing good, nurturing and building even with little or no appreciation

Blessed is the man who sees and appreciates the strength of his woman

Apostle