Anyone can be happily married whether they're young or old.  

Age is not a license for a proper marriage. Marriage requires maturity, good character, self-assuredness, and proper mentorship.

Most ladies in their thirties and guys in their forties tend to change their prayer point from, “God, send me the right person” to “God please just bring anybody.” 

At this phase, people may not want to take the person seriously in a relationship because they believe he or she is desperately in need of a husband or wife.

At this stage, the pressure seems to be higher. Your parents that should encourage you are making it tougher. Your best friends disowned you the moment they got married because they believe you are no longer their mates.  

Never be so disappointed, and discouraged to a point where you loose faith in God.

Never forget to always seek the Holy Spirit for proper discernment in choosing rightly, and follow proper mentorship, no matter how old you are. Follow the right process.

In as much as you’re praying to get married, don’t forget to build a friendship with that person. Don’t ignore dangerous warning signals. The first stage of a relationship can be overwhelming. For some people, talking about marriage at that stage without getting to know them better and establishing a strong emotional connection with them may send the wrong message and drive them away.

Some ladies would take some guys for granted because he’s old and all he’s concerned about is getting married.

Some men will never apologize whenever they’re wrong because they feel entitled, and proud. They may start misbehaving because she’s old and more concerned about marriage. Such a lady may start feeling insecure, having low self-esteem; always begging, and may never want to work out of the relationship even if she sights any dangerous warning signal, thinking, If she doesn’t marry this one, she may never marry again. Therefore, even if a man abuses her, she could protect the relationship in order not to lose it.

Note: It doesn’t happen to everybody, it only matters how you present yourself from the beginning. Don’t start what you cannot finish. 

If you present yourself so low and cheap, pampering the person, not setting good standards, always apologizing even when the person is wrong, and giving them your body, just because you’re old, all your friends are married except you, and you want to run things ‘sharp sharp’, They may take advantage of you, or take you for granted. As a lady, don't tie him down with pregnancy so that he would marry you. He won't value you.

No matter how old you are, be happy and complete in yourself. Don’t clear your standards. It’s also important to have spiritual authorities and mentors that can guide you. They may easily detect warning signals if you are blinded by love.

If you wait so long and finally marry someone that won't give you rest, what will you gain?

If despite the mockery, in the end, you didn’t choose wisely, what will you gain? 

You can see it's not by age but by choosing rightly.

Be happy, and content with your singlehood, and build a proper friendship. Don’t make the other person feel that without them, you’re finished.

*Husband:* Honey I will buy a new mattress on my way home. The one we are using is no longer comfortable. 

*Wife:* That's my Love ! But wait o, where will you get the money?

*Husband:* I heard that Mr. B will pay our arrears today. 

*Wife:* I always know that man will perform. Please Darling, don't forget the wristwatch you promised me o. 

*Husband:* With all pleasure My Love. 

5 hours later, the man arrived home in his car. Pin... Pin... Pin he blared his horn. The woman ran out to meet her husband.

*Wife:* Honey welcome (collecting her husband's briefcase, leading him into their sitting room). 

*Husband:* You are always wonderful. 

*Wife:* Where is the mattress and my wristwatch? 

*Husband:* Which mattress? Abeg gimme my food. I never see alert o, the thing na rumour o.

The woman broke down weeping profusely. 

*Wife:* Honey please forgive me......huuu huuu .

*Husband:* (loosing his patience) Dear what's all these now, what happened?

*Wife:* Honey please forgive me oooooo..... I I I I... 

*Husband:* (perceiving some odour, and looking out of the window). What's smelling like this, where is this smoke coming from?

*Wife:* (still weeping) Huuu, I have burnt our mattress, I thought you would buy a new one truly, you know it is no longer good. 

*Husband:* (furious, with a changed countenance). What ! You did what? You must be joking.. You will go back to your father's house today if this is true. You burnt the #500,000 my contribution money I hid in the mattress for us to roof our house. 

*Wife:* Yepa ! You mean you have such huge amount in this house and you didn't tell me? 

*Husband:* If I get you today, I will show you who I am. (With this, he ran to the backyard where the smoke was coming from. Seeing the ashes of the burnt mattress, he fainted. 

*Lesson 1:* Never hide anything from your wife, she's your better-half. 

*Lesson 2:* Never run faster than your husband, he's your head. 

*Lesson 3:* Don't rely on arrears or unpaid income to plan your home. 

*Please send to all married men and women on your list.*

And those who plan to *Marry* in future take note.

Also to those of us waiting for allowances/arrears.