The joy of initiating a relationship is not as sweet as the joy derived from it if it works out, marital joy is in short supply today because many has entered into regrettable marriages which is an offshoot of a toxic relationship.

Meanwhile, many regrets and weeping in marriage would have been avoided if the people involved are vigilant enough to notice the traces of an imminent trouble while in courtship, Instead of experimenting hell in marriage, it is better to break a bad courtship now.

To be frank, breaking a relationship is a serious emotional task that may have a devastating effect on you if not handled very well, but a broken courtship is better than a broken marriage.

A great marriage is not something that just happens, it must be created.

Save yourself of marital trauma by calling it quit if you notice any of these signs:*

1.Distance from God:

God is the inventor of marriage, He knows how to make it work. So, he must be the foundation for it to be fulfilling and rewarding. If you're in a relationship with someone that's not having personal relationship with God, not born again, sees nothing special in attending church or studying the Bible, you need to step on your vehicle brake and stop it instantly.

Although, he or she may not stop you from attending church programs now, but it is a sign of danger to come ahead, because any heart free from divine influence will be influenced by Satan. It is a deadly risk to hang on with an unbeliever in a relationship.

If he or she is not serious with God, such fellow will give you serious headache in your marriage.

Loosing your peace:

If you noticed that you're not your real self whenever you're with your partner, always acting emotionally imbalance and afraid of your partner's reaction to whatever you say or do, you bottled your emotions, reactions, opinions in the presence of your spouse, you're panicked about being judged by him or her, you're not free to express yourself and you feel frustrated in the presence of your partner, that means you're in a controlling relationship. For such to work in marriage, that means you must be a mumu in that union.

3.Always putting you down:

Being in a relationship with someone that always puts you down, destroy your self-esteem and making you feel like a nonentity is a reason to think of backing out. Is he or she fond of insulting you, calling you names and embarrassing you in the public ? To him or her, you're always wrong, you can't please him or her no matter how you try?

You had better be sincere with yourself now and walk away lest you regret in marriage .

4.Twin Game :

Twin games is when your partner is seeing someone else apart from you and the heart is divided between two people. Anyone that's not having 100% love for you in courtship is not trustworthy, don't allow such to waste your time.

Before he or she breaks your heart, be fast enough to give him or her a red card.

5.If he or she Keep putting you in the shadow:

Beware of that fellow that keeps you and the relationship in the dark by not allowing people to know that you're in a relationship and not introducing you to his or her parents, family members, pastor, mentor and friends.

Introducing to people that matters in his or her life is a sign of total commitment to the relationship, but if you have being in a relationship for a while without been introduced to people that matters, it is a sign that something is fishy.

6.Are You Troubled?

There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear, because fear hath torment. "He that feareth is not made perfect in love" I John 4:18-20

Are you worried about his or her behaviours when you are not together? Is your heart bombard with anxiety that something is not right with this fellow?

When you have lost relationship excitement, full of doubts or emotionally drained, take time out to pray for God to reveal the secret things about him or her to you.

7.Frequent Quarrels :

Frequent quarrels in a relationship is a dangerous signal revealing that both of you are not friends, it takes friendliness to build in a successful relationship. Whenever you're with your partner, he or she picked up an offence at every slightest opportunity to the point that you keep malice, report to friends and families before you can settle.

Beware! It is a pointer to problematic marriage of tomorrow.

It's not a big deal to sometimes reconsider some old, selfish ways and show a willingness to meet your partner halfway.

It's a cool way to show that you are ready to pitch in with effort on your part, in order for the relationship to work for things to sync perfectly. But then, there's a limit to how far you can possibly take this.

There are things you cannot overlook in a relationship, some grounds you should not shift, and some compromises you really don't have to make. If you have ever wondered what the line to never cross is, here are part of those things you should never compromise for the sake of relationship:

1. Boundaries

There are boundaries that need to be set in every relationship. What you'll take and what you won't. Some boundaries are off limits and cannot be encroached, there are personal, positive values you hold tightly and should not let go of. You absolutely have to express this before the relationship begins or before you go too far into it and experience a lot of misunderstandings.

Knowing, understanding and respecting these boundaries helps the relationship run smoothly, helps you avoid conflicts and makes you both look like a match made in heaven.

And most importantly, it makes you retain your identity. You won't have to feel like you gave up too much of yourself just to make the man or woman stay, or to make the relationship work.

Engage only on things, and be with only people that make you happy, and make you feel comfortable with yourself.

Do only things, and be with only people that make you happy, and make you feel comfortable with yourself. 

2. Your self-respect

Can there be love and happy relationships without respect? It is highly impossible for a relationship to last or be happy when one partner does not understand how respect works, or shows an unwillingness to live by it.

If you are with someone who shows regular signs of disrespect, don’t try to make excuse for them. It's probably just going to get worse. Do not live with constant, intentional disrespect for the sake of a relationship. Because, really, is it even a relationship if it lacks mutual respect?

Also don't beg to be loved. It is never worth it.

If your partner regularly disrespects you, you need to address it. Disrespect is not something to compromise on, really. 

If your partner regularly disrespects you, you need to address it. Disrespect is not something to compromise on, really. 

3. Great friendships

Never let go of great friendships because of a relationship and try to call it compromise.

The healthy, productive friends you've had before should be kept. They have their space and roles in your life and your partner has to get used to that.

If you're with someone who tries to block all the great friendships you have, that's a red flag you shouldn’t ignore.

4. Dreams

Your long-held dreams and aspirations are valid and deserve to be actualised. Don't give them up for the sake of a relationship.

5. Your family

Nothing, I repeat nothing should make you want to give that up. No one should make you give up your family.