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Benedicta
DATING POLL
~5.0 mins read
The dating landscape is not changing neither is it about to change, it has changed already. Women are no longer properties for men to purchase. As the world around us is evolving, millions of women all over the world are becoming more self-aware, they want equal rights and keep proving that their thoughts and opinions are valid with every chance they get.
The have a two-fold effect on the dating pool, first of which is woman having to choose who they want and creating standards, secondly it means men would have to meet these standards. Women are finally vocalising what they want in a man, what they require from him, how they want to be treated in their relationships and queens are determined not to settle for less.
If you are a guy and you are wondering why it has been hard for you to keep a woman lately, you barely get through a month in every new relationship before getting dumped, it might be because you were so engrossed in life that you did not noticed when the ground you were standing on shifted.
If you have not been able to adjust or catch up with the speed at which the dating world is moving, this is the right gear to use as we would be exploring on some of the traits women see as unattractive in a man.
EMOTIONAL IMMATURITY
It is really a sad thing that we pay less attention to our emotions when in essence, it is the bedrock on which every other aspect of our lives would thrive. You cannot build a thriving career when you keep breaking down, neither can you succeed as an entrepreneur when you cannot stand rejection and do not know how to handle pain.
Your level of emotional maturity shows in how well you are able to express yourself at every given time under different circumstances. It is our emotional maturity that helps us separate ourselves from our situations and stay reasonable no matter what.
Over the years, woman have experienced or seen their mothers, sisters, neighbours, etc suffer pain and sabotage themselves because they are married or dating men who cannot control their emotions. They get wild when they are angry and do things they regret but the harm or injury had already been inflicted.
Our society has so many men that do not know how to say what they really want to say in the best way that would communicate their true feelings without offending another person. And because they see that they are constantly being misunderstood, they choose to remain silent and let whatever thing that bothers them remain unspoken.
When you are with a child, you look out for them, you try to interpret what every frown mean and what they are trying to say when they cry but when you are with an adult, you expect them to communicate because they are old enough. That should explain why woman dump men who behave like children because a 30 years old baby is not cute at all.
UNRELIABILITY
Isn’t it a shame that in most families and societies women have become the strong men. While men are always looking for an exit. The reason is quite simple, when a woman is raising her child she focuses on the moment, what the child needs to grow and be better.
She is less concerned about whether the child might grow up one day and walk out on her while she is yet speaking, she is not bothered about that child being a pain in her life one day. She just focuses on building the child to the best of her ability. That is what men need to know and develop the habit of establishing and not running.
A man might meet a woman he wants but cannot make the commitment because he is afraid of losing himself to her, he is scared of the vulnerability that love demands, he is afraid she might dump him one day and that would be the end of him.
You keep thinking that way you will never build anything in this world because as soon as you enter into anything and find out that you would have to commit yourself to it, you would run away. No woman wants a man who she does not know his stand.
No woman wants to tolerate a man who is not sure of himself, no woman wants a man she cannot rely on to be there all the way. She wants to be sure that when you say you are in, you are in all the way.
LAZINESS
Tyler Perry’s Acrimony does justice to this point. How the woman was getting fed up with her husband sitting at home all day while she is out there in the streets working her butt out day and night trying to provide and keep everything together and going on.
Nothing is more attractive to a woman than a man who can provide. That is what keep birds glued to trees because it provides shelter and security for them, anything that would keep your woman glued to you is what you can provide for her. Even a woman with money wants a man who is willing to spend his money on her.
INSECURITY
The worst kind of slavery a woman can experience is being married to an unsecured man. Because he will always be threatened by your success especially if it keeps you in a better position than him. Women wants to be supported and all they want to hear when the clapping ends is the voice of their beloved saying I am proud of you.
That is why they work so hard because they want you to see them and acknowledge them, they are not doing all they do to make you feel less of a man but because somehow, they do not feel enough. Ever wondered why a woman with so many clothes keep buying more? Or why they spend so much money on skin care products?
It is because they do not feel they are enough and they do all they can just wanting somebody to approve them. Whether you know it or not your woman needs you to endorse her daily and not be threatened by her.
LEADERSHIP
No woman wants to be with a man she cannot respect or look up to for help when she is in distress of any kind. So as a man, sharpen your leadership skills, learn how to fix some things around the house yourself, learn how to calm an angry person down, learn how to console people and how to confront people.
Being able to lead is what would people follow you and not just the ability to lead but the discipline to lead correctly would keep them loyal.
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Benedicta
THIS STREET CALLED DATING
~2.0 mins read
So I asked my friend why she is breaking up and first was the long pause followed by the award winning " I just want us to focus on our lives".
The amazing thing is she says thesame thing before every break-up that she just wants to focus on her life then 2weeks later she forgets the plan was to focus on her life when she meets a new guy.
If only we say exactly what we mean and mean exactly what we say this street called dating would not be so dirty littered up by our lies, unfaithfulness, deciet, and this dating street would not be soaked up by tears rather unnecessary.
Now she says the right thing all the time but she does not know how to handle the distraction. When you decide to focus on your life, the first thing you should try to eliminate is distraction. Focus does not mean that the street is long and lonely. Focus means that this street is full of people who are willing and able to entice you but it's up to you to decide what you want to be distracted by.
If we really want to look into this street we see that the people here all share a bond. As if they have same history and a common goal. N this street everybody goes by one name "Exes" everybody knows each other and live very close to each other that many people have become so comfortable in this community of boyfriends, girlfriends and exes that they do not want to move out of the street. They have become so used to the street that they do not even notice how dirty it is.
They just live life as it comes to them, wild and ecstatic to obssess and crazy to depressed and unhappy. And they are normal with this flow.
In this street you live your lust and pursue your fantasy. After living like this for a long time you hear them say there is no love in the street.
And after seeing the people in this street and the kind of perceptions they are forced to live with and how they have very little regard for what is true and what is pure then you will agree with me that love is too serious to be played as a street game, and love is too pure to be found in all the wrong places.
Before you say another I love you and right before you say another yes know the street they are coming from.
There is a dating street that is too dirty and whoever comes from there is afflicted by lust and are disabled from doing what is right and a burning desire to destroy what is good.
Love can never be a street game.
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