*Bro Samson's Mistake*

Growing up, my mentality about our big brother from scriptures, was that he was a womanizer. He was always jumping from one woman to another.

 Many times, he had been used as an example to warn us young men from been womanizers. But going through judges chapters 13 - 16, I didn't see that as the lesson to be learnt from Bro Samson's life.

 Rather, I think King Solomon would have been a more suitable example to deter believing young men/women from womanizing. But please don't take my word for it, let's go through scriptures and look at the later years of Samson's life.

 From scriptures there are only three instances where Samson had encounters with women. 

The first can be seen in Judges chapter 14. Samson found a woman that *pleased* him and decided to marry, so you could say this was where his womanizing spirit started from, but we see in Judges 14:4 that his whole scenario had the finger of God in it. Plus from scripture, we can infer that there was no pre-marital affairs. His marrying the philistine lady and every other thing that followed was part of God's restoration plan for Isreal.

 We know that in God, there is no variables nor shadow of turning, so we can't count this as a womanizing incidence after all he was serious with marrying the lady.

The second instance an affair was mentioned was in Judges 16: 1, _he slept with an harlot_, this is the first and only time we were told that bros did this kind of thing but again, was this enough to make him a womanizer?? 

I thought a womanizer means someone that sleeps around, sleeps with anything in skirt. 

The third and final instance that eventually led to the fall of our brother can be found in Judges 16:4-31. 

But verse 4, using KJV says, _*he loved a woman in the valley of Sorek, whose name was Delilah*

Now that was his mistake, he fell in love with the wrong person. 

He wasn't going around sleeping with anything in skirt, he had control to a certain degree over his emotions but *his mistake was he loved the wrong person*.

 Bro Samson doesn't strike me as a man who womanized, he strikes me more as someone who have had bad experiences with love or be unlucky with love.

 If there is any message that should be resounded again and again amongst the gathering of young people in the body of Christ today with Samson's story, it should be, _the dangers of falling in love or marrying wrongly_.

Personally, there is no worst mistake than marrying the wrong person. 

If Delilah was the right person, she probably would have bought shampoo and perfume to make sure his hair is always shining and scenting but instead she sold him out.

This year alone, we have recorded the weddings of some young generals in the body of Christ and there has been a lot of expressions of surprise most especially amongst the ladies.

 As though this fire tonguing, spiritual brothers were never going to get married.

_True many of our sisters hope to get married to spiritual, tonguing brothers but have you built yourself to be the right person for him._

_Can you protect those spiritual traditions and principles that he abides by that gives him the grace for the public anointing display that you see._

Shifting a little away from the spiritual aspect, there is no lady who doesn't want to get married to an already successful or prospective successful man.

 But the question to you, young ladies is, _*Have you built yourself enough to be a solid support system? To be a protector of his visions, dreams and principles*_

Every young man wants to get married to the right lady, a virtous lady but my question is, _*Have you built yourself to be an Husbandman?*_,

 _*Have you trained yourself to hear God, to be able to recognize the right lady?*_

 _*The truth is, not any type of girl can marry you, not every girl can marry a minister, businessman, politician, doctor, academican etc*_, _*Please brother, before you go ahead to ask that girl out, have you discovered YOUR PURPOSE?*

Dearly beloved in Christ, realise that marriage is highly spiritual and it's a serious business.

 Please for the sake of the advancement of God's kingdom, make sure you don't marry wrongly.

Thank God for our brother, Evang. Markblessing Oriabor that God is using richly in the relationship ministry, please feel free to visit www.fulfilpurposeblog.com

Shalom

God bless.

*B. Ofure Ikheloa*

Sex is not a proof of love in a premarital relationship.

 When it's engaged in it's  called sexual immorality.

It's not a love test to have sex in a relationship, it's a quest for sin which is fired by lust.

If they say they will leave you because you choose not to have sex with them, let them go and I will suggest you help them carry their bags out of your life.

It's better you let them leave you than for you to separate from God and His great  plans for your life because of a sinful relationship.

Being on the side of God means He will lead you to a spouse that will love, honor and respect you.

Choose today to live in purity and receive His Grace to empower you to live in purity.

I celebrate you🙇🏿‍♂️