Tony is a man with a story. Like any regular guy he has dealt his his own portion of loses, failure , disappointment and success, joy and what have you.

Tony has a part of him that is so power drunk that he doesn't regard anyone and holds nothing sacred and he even rides on the people he hates to hurt. 

James is another young man with a different story, he has also had his share of life's problems and the world's pain and laughters.

James has a part of him that is so insecured and scared that he would hide himself away from light.

Now if you ask people to talk about Tony and James they would tell you that Tony is bold while James is timid as such James is suffering from low self-esteem.

If you have been carrying such mindset for long it's time you drop it. We learn to unlearn.

Both cases are victims of low self-esteem just that it is manifesting in different ways. Tony is a man who believes that he is of no value unless he is noticed. So in order to feel he is something he would do anything to do that even as far as hurting people he loves. 

Do not misunderstabd me. Self esteem means the way we see ourselves, low self-esteem is to think lowly of ourselves while High self esteem is to think highly of ourselves. It is only a man that thinks lowly of himself that brutalises people to respect him because he feels he is not enough to be respected for simply being who he is so he needs to exert force to get respect from people. He only sees himself as something when he has money, power or fame so he spends the rest of his life wanting all of these by all means that he doesn't even know what his problem is. Tony is a man who is suffering from low self-esteem.

We have also James on the other hand. A rather reserved young man who hides away from everything because he feels he is not enough and he doesn't have the capacity to do great things. Do we now see that both Tony and James are afflicted by thesame thing? The difference between these two is how they choose to go about it. Life will always be for you the choices you make. Everybody sees Tony as bold and Courageous and sees James as a coward because of how James choosed to deal with his low self-esteem, he runs away instead of facing it.

Everybody has low self-esteem to deal with. It all depends on the people around us and the choices we make. 

If you know you cannot afford a wristwatch of $1000, and you keep hanging around people who buy wristwatch that amount more than 5 in a week, with time, you would start feeling small, inferior and frustrated.

It is always wise for birds of thesame feathers to flock together.

Now, the quickest cure to low self-esteem is to flock with birds with thesame feathers as you. Instead of feeling insecured in their company, you would feel secured and happy.

you wake up each morning put down a list of things you want to do for the day and never get to do them not because you did not want to but because you did not have the inspiration to do them through out the entire day.

planning is one major aspect of our lives and our entire life is built on plans, someone rightly said if you fail to plan, you plan to fail. but of what use is planing when we do not follow the plan, it is just like an Engineer who has a blueprint but goes ahead with the construction ignoring the design on the blueprint. he will certainly not see his desired result.

sticking to plans is an art that is learned with so much discipline and dedication.

people are different and so are their lives and the decisions they make. some people are able to make a plan and stick to it and achieve their desired results. These are the ones that live a self-inspired life, they do not need any external stimulation to do what they have planned to do. Such people are scarce anyway the higher population are the passive ones.

If you ask many people what kind of life they are living they are most likely to tell you that they are very active people even though in their hearts they doubt their own capacity. and the to-do list they wrote months ago judges them and they know they lie.

When you are asked if you are male or female, you do not have to think to answer that, you know it even when you are sleeping what gender you are. Are there not ladies who do men's job? would they call themselves males, no way. Simply because you do a man's job once in a while does not make you a man if you are a lady the same way being active once in a while and overindulging does not mean you are an active person.

A passive person has an obsession for not being involved. they just want to move with impulse and do things when they FEEL like doing them. For a passive person, they can ignore their to-do list and procrastinate to when ever they feel ready to do it. 

These people depend on external stimulation to do anything.If you want them to cook they need to be inspired by something from the outside to do that like maybe a new recipe or a very important person coming over else they would not bulge.

A passive person when stimulated is a very productive person who can solve problems very quickly and perfectly. These people are blessed with skills and many talents and this is one of the reasons they are passive because they know that when the stimulation comes, they will overdo what they want to do so they just sit down all day waiting to be inspired.

If you have this article to this point and you are beginning to realize or you know already that you are a passive person, there are ways you can improve your production level and one of these ways  is by over-tasking.

Many passive people work well under pressure, so when they are over tasked the pressure is high and they are forced to leave their comfort zones. Accepting more responsibilities than they can handle is the best way for a passive person to increase productivity.

Working with people you can help works too. When passive people are surrounded by very active people, they become very useless to even themselves, the knowledge that there is someone or people to do things they ought to do cripples their zeal and they are relaxed.

An unproductive mind cannot attain its fullest potential. Depression comes in when we are not engaged with anything that keeps challenging us to be better. 

Man is wired to produce so lack of it makes him a walking-dead.