1Start a new attitude.

View a stubborn person as an opportunity to become a better version of yourself. You’ve heard, You can’t change anyone else, you can only change yourself. Well, here’s your chance. Change the way you view that challenging person.

2. Take a pause.

Resist the urge to engage in an argument. Impulse control is a character strength that will help you. Don’t give in to your defense impulse. Excuse yourself to go to the bathroom.

3. Get them to listen to what you have to say.

Sit down, don’t talk to your boyfriend if he’s in the bathroom while you’re sitting in bed. Take it to a table. Try to keep the conversation business-like. 

4. The right time

Wait for the opportune moment to make your point. If you’re talking to a man, feed him first. If you’re talking to a female, before you talk, check out her mood stats. Is she stressed out and annoyed or smiley and calm? Ask yourself, is this the best time to present my case?

5 Go slow.

This is a process. Learn to wait, discover how patient you can be. It takes time to open a closed mind.

We’re all terrified of being banished from the crowd and looked at funny, so most of us put energy into appearing wonderful, flawless, and virtuous.

Go against the grain and tell us something you dislike about yourself.

This immediately puts you in the minority and shows us something cool: you’re human.

2. Smiling less.

There is a mystery to those who don’t always smile when you expect them to.

 

We are intelligent beings and can sense insincere grins.

We’re also tired of fakeness. If someone smiles at everything, it takes the power out of any single smile.

Being sparing with your smiles can show discernment, a thoughtful mind, and authenticity.

3. Repeating their words.

Most people are hell-bent on emptying out everything they want us to know about their lives and problems.

Few take a moment to turn it around and help others feel heard.

A powerful way to do this is to repeat back some of what people say. This reinforces a strong bond between you.