Now, this morning me was getting ready an article I titled "WHY ARE THEY UNHAPPY" then I saw that I didn't actually believe many things I thought I believed. And I began to question my own sincerity.

 

Get what you NEED and not what you WANT is not a good thing to preach because while basically we need food, clothes and shelter we are still not satisfied. Things we need sustains us but truth is it is what we want, those things we categorize as secondary list. Those are things we call less important but those are the things that truly make us happy.

 

So while looking for the things you need do not ignore the things you want.

 

Is true for anything and all purpose 

 

Even as you desire a partner, these little things would always matter to you. They could put in all the efforts and give you all the good loving they can give and all the right treatment they can would but you still feel that void, an empty space that seems to swallow everything and cannot be filled.

 

So when you meet such a person, settling because they are good in every way you need is a good thing but probably not the best thing to do because somehow they can never be what you want.

 

Maybe at this point you'd want to think you'd never see another person like them again but the positivity we preach is "what if you do?"

 

Settling for a dissatisfactory relationship simply because it's healthy and believing that with time they'd be everything we want is one of the reasons they are unhappy because it is how they break their own hearts.

As he spoke, his words kept coming at me and I felt heaven must have shown to him a trailer of my life story.

But I know I wasn't the only one in that room feeling that way, we all have thesame issues just that they come to everyone in different bags.

I remember there was a moment of my life I was so angry. Wait a minute did I say moment? No it was a long time I carried that anger.

Nothing is more painful than investing yourself into people and things that would not give you and return. 

Could it be true that the problem is not people but us? That we should not focus any longer on "they" than we focus on "me"

We give too much to a short term investment plan that was what the man said 🤦🏼‍♂️

There are long term goals and also short term goals now it is not their fault that you did not recognize that they are not your long term plan.

So you keep doing everything you're doing for these people hoping that they'd do thesame for you but they did not come into your life to take up space .

So you created a big space for people who just sit at a corner and you're angry at them for choosing to fill just a small portion of all that space you've created for them to fill.

You expected them to come with their beds, kitchen utensils, mops and brooms but they only came with the clothes they have on them and you're angry because you know they'd have to go back to their own homes if they'd have any need to change clothes.

Isn't that our problem? We expect a visitor to become our house mates.

You're angry at them for deliberately choosing not to play huge roles in your life but you forget there's so small you should expect a visitor to do in a home he does not stay.

You want them to know you more and desire you more but you forget visitors don't leave the sitting room .

STOP EXPECTING SO MUCH FROM PEOPLE WHO DO NOT COME TO STAY 

And say they broke your heart. And one more thing, Ladies if he's married, leave him alone!