MY MOTHER DOESN’T WANT ME TO MARRY MY CURRENT GIRLFRIEND BECAUSE SHE DRINKS ALCOHOL. 

I’ve been seeing this lady for three years now and I only introduced her to my family a year ago and well they stalked her and found out that she drinks and gos out, and they said that she’s not an ideal woman to marry well I disagree because most of the times, we go out together and I’m the one who buys the drinks for her, I’m the one who takes pictures and videos of her while drinking. She’s an amazing woman, she is one of the best things to ever happen to me and she really makes me happy in all the areas. She’s hard working and ambitious, she’s great with kids, she’s like a professional chef in the kitchen, she knows how to manage money, she’s not too materialistic, she’s organized and clean, she knows how to take care of me and herself, she knows how to handle conflicts and she knows how to calm me down. She knows what to say to make me smile when I’m having a bad day and most importantly, she prays for me and with me. I’ve tried to convince my mother but she still doesn’t want her to be her daughter in law. I love my mom and I love my woman. I just want her to accept her for me. What can I do?

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My husband's friend paid him (1)million naira, to donate his sperm to his wife for IVF, an arrangement that was agreed upon and carried out without my consent. She became pregnant around October 2017 and we were happy for her.

I celebrated the pregnancy with her, she never disclosed anything to me, let alone how she went for an IVF that produced twin daughters in August 2018.

In mid - November 2018, one of the babies fell from a rocking chair in the sitting room, at a time they just turned 3months old. She was bleeding, so they took her to the hospital, after series of medical test were carried out on her, it was discovered she was SS genotype. A test was also conducted on the other baby but came out to be AS. The next day, my husband's friend called him out at about 2:00AM, early hours of the morning, asking him to come to the hospital but I asked to go with him, because I was also worried for the baby.

What shocked me on reaching the hospital, was the striking resemblance of that baby to my daughters, while they were about their age, she has the big eyes of my husband and my 5 kids, then, my husband was asked to donate blood as he is O negative blood group like the child, because she has lost so much blood.

After spending some time with the couple in the hospital, we left for our home, while at home, I couldn't sleep anymore and was worried, because of what I saw in the hospital, then I confronted my husband and asked him, if there is something about his friend's child, that he is not telling me but he said no, I said OK and slept off.

When I woke up from the sleep, my husband wasn't in the house, so i thought he already prepared and left for work, then I quickly dressed up and left for the hospital, to see the wife of my husband's friend, surprisingly, my husband was there with them. Immediately, I was bold enough to confront them and asked if those babies were my husband's, only to be told that it was done through an IVF process.

My husband is AS genotype, like his friend's wife, he knew all this and kept mute, because he wanted the (1)million naira. The wife to my husband's friend said she wanted telling me, while they were planning it, but my husband kicked against it and his reasons were that I would never agree to it.

I called his family members, together with my uncles(because my parents are late) and demanded that, the 2 daughters of my husband's friend be given back to me, or be paid (2)million naira, else I quit the marriage. They are my husband's children and mine as well, I may sound a bit crazy, but am sorry, I can't think straight anymore.

I need advice on what to do next, Thanks.