Safety is a cornerstone of loving relationships. A partner who loves you won’t physically hurt you or damage your possessions. They also won’t threaten or pressure you into doing things you don’t want to do, make decisions for you, or cut you off from your social support.

Feeling safe also means feeling free to make your own decisions and express yourself without fearing their response. When you share opinions and goals, you receive encouragement, not putdowns or criticism.

Everyone experiences annoyance and anger on occasion, but it’s possible to express anger in safe, healthy ways. A partner who loves you won’t threaten you or use anger to punish you or make you afraid.

If they do have an angry outburst, they might agree right away to get help — not just to improve for themselves, but also because they saw your fear and want to help you feel safe again.

They listen

A partner who loves you will take an active interest in the details of your life.

They’ll listen actively by asking questions and waiting their turn to share instead of immediately diverting the conversation toward their own experiences. You get the sense they really care, instead of feeling brushed off with a distracted “Uh huh” or “Wow, that sucks.”

While they may not hear or remember every word you say, they’ll generally have a pretty solid awareness of the things that matter most: your likes and dislikes, hopes and fears, friendships and family relationships, and so on.

In a healthy relationship, partners acknowledge the bad as well as the good. When you bring up concerns or relationship problem, they’ll consider your feelings instead of ignoring you or trying to minimize your distress.

They acknowledge your differences instead of trying to change you

No matter how much you and your partner share, you’re different people, so you won’t feel the same way about everything.

Someone who loves you will accept your individual ideas and feelings as part of who you are. They might engage in some respectful debate, but they’ll show interest in your perspective instead of insisting you take their side.

A loving partner may offer guidance and advice when asked, but they won’t try to control your choices or behavior. They also won’t withhold affection or criticize you until you agree with them.

Generally speaking, you’ll feel comfortable when agreeing to disagree.

You can communicate easily

GLove requires open, honest communication. This doesn’t mean sharing every thought you have. Everyone has some private feelings, and there’s nothing wrong with keeping these to yourself.

Your partner will probably do a thing or two that frustrates you over the course of your relationship, whether that’s snoring or getting so caught up in a TV show they forget to pick you up from work.

Sometimes, you might find it more productive to vent to a friend about these minor irritations instead of picking at every little annoyance.

Still, you probably can’t read each other’s minds, so to help your relationship thrive, you have to talk through the issues that really matter. A partner who loves you will acknowledge the need to communicate and show up, physically and mentally, when it’s time for a conversation.

Good communication might involve:

discussing emotions

identifying and addressing areas of conflict

connecting through physical or emotional intimacy

checking in about relationship boundaries

tuning in to signals in body language

Communication doesn’t come easily to everyone. Instead of assuming a partner who has a hard time expressing thoughts and emotions doesn’t love you, look at their willingness to learn and practice better communication skills.

They encourage you to do your own thing

Certainly, partners should enjoy each other’s company. A loving partner, however, will also recognize you have a separate identity outside the relationship and support you when you want to spend time seeing friends or pursuing your own hobbies.

They’ll also maintain their own friendships and interests instead of looking to you to entertain them or fulfill all their social needs.

Your partner may not always agree with the way you spend your time. When you do something that worries them, like spending a lot of time with a toxic friend or drinking too much, they might express respectful concern: “I’ve noticed [X] isn’t very nice to you sometimes,” for example.

They might also set boundaries for themselves, such as, “I don’t want to hang out when you’re drunk.” Still, they won’t try to control your friends, your choices, or your behavior.

You trust each other

Trust often develops along with love, and you typically won’t find one without the other.

A partner who loves you will likely trust you, unless you betray them. They won’t question you when you see friends, follow you, or go through your phone or computer.

If they have no reason to believe you’ve been dishonest, they won’t accuse you of lying or cheating, or insist you go everywhere together.

Trust also means they feel safe enough to share opinions and emotions, open up about challenges they face, and ask for help.

This trust might not hold if you mislead, deceive, or betray them. Love often remains where trust has shattered, so you can sometimes rebuild this trust — but not without time, transparency, and hard work.

They make an effort

Attraction might happen in an instant, but lasting love requires more time and commitment.

It might seem romantic when someone immediately decides you’re “meant to be” or says “I think I love you” after just one day. But this sometimes suggests a controlling or manipulative personality, not true romance.

With so many people in the world, the idea of one-and-only instant love can seem pretty flimsy. Sure, soul mates could exist, but it’s important to recognize that love typically doesn’t happen in a flash.

Someone who truly cares will want to build your love from the ground and shore it up at the seams by:

prioritizing time together

expressing an interest in getting to know you

being prepared to talk through disagreements or conflict

agreeing to try new things together

expressing their commitment to mutual growth as partners.. 

It's becoming alarming and we see it as Normal.

I don't know when abnormal becomes normal, 

I don't know when seduction becomes a way of life.

I don't know when HARLOTRY and INDECENT dressings become a norm even in the church. FIXING LONG NAILS, LONG EYELASHES and EYEBROW, TAINTING OF THE HAIR on the HEAD to DIFFERENT COLORS is now normal even in the Church.

We are comfortable with it and no one is pointing at the evil of HARLOTRY, IDOLATRY, CARNALITY and WORLDLINESS taking over the Church of God.

We started from, "THE WAY YOU DRESS DOESN'T MATTER" since we serve God with our heart, not our dress, now we are moving toward "YOUR CLEAVAGE IS NOTHING" as far as you cover the nipples.

Haaa, when did harlot dresses start fitting our sisters?

Can someone explain to me how we claim we serve God on Sunday/ Saturday with *SEDUCTIVE* *HARLOTRY DRESSING*, even the weekend is nothing to write about. 

Come and see our Born again spirit filled sisters at occasions, dress to kill. 

 *Sister, who are you trying to kill.* 

Do you mean your body is still the temple of God or a den of thieves or an altar of seduction?

Understand very well that *NO DECENT MAN* *WILL EAT UNCOVERED FOOD*. Because it has become an *OPEN BALLOT SYSTEM*. Free and easy to get a meal for Every creature.

We started from CROP TOP, we are moving to OFF SHOULDER, from off-shoulder our sisters are now going out with TUBES.

 The tube is outdated, the new order is a cloth that exposes all the CLEAVAGES but covers the NIPPLES and we claim we are born of God. 

 *Maybe I need enlightenment, is breast still part of the PRIVATE PART or a PUBLIC PART?* 

Many ladies walk around shamelessly without caution, bending down is difficult or else the breasts will fall, we celebrate indecency and encourage Nudity.

Some of us are part of the problem, we are promoting people we ought to rebuke, a daughter in Zion posted a half-naked pictures, and you wrote, "keep it up", Do you mean, she should keep growing in mediocrity, you mean she should ride on in nudity, you mean she should progress in harlotry?

Have you ever seen Muslim sisters in the mosque open their breasts? 

Never, you can't see.

But it has become the order of the day to our Christian sisters, even it's now competition in the church, our General overseer, Bishop, Senior Apostle, Senior Pastor, Senior Evangelist, Most Reverend, and Rev Fathers, are merely looking at them, no more words of God in the church again, they are just after *tithes, offering and seven, eight, nine* and *tenth-anniversary*, whosoever can *sow the seed of one hundred thousand nairas*, l am going to anoint him or her, Yahoo Yahoo boys, Cultists, Ritualist, kidnappers are now the personal assistant and special assistant to most of our pastors nowadays. 

Hah!!, an abomination in the house of the Lord, where are we going? 

Very sad!!! As we have allowed the Devil to be The Managing Director of our Lives.

Haaa, where are the ladies, like Esther, that kingdom dressing manifested through them? Kingdom principle was not far from them. 

They were conscious of how they lived their lives even in a strange land NOT an environmental Christian who dresses nicely at home but naked on the Campus.

No matter where You are, You should wear what pleases the FATHER and bring glory to the Kingdom, not clothes that bring reproach to the Kingdom You claim to represent.

Our sisters dress half naked to attract, seduce, for likes and lovely comments on social media, because they lack purpose. 

A lady of PURPOSE works according to plan and pattern with divine assignment conscious and careful of her garment.

 *If you like, dress to kill, no one will die but remember the ultimate death and curse attached to seduction. Read Rev 2:20 - 22* 

When will you start dressing Godly and from a glance, we can say, truly she is of the Lord and not of the world?.

 *Say no to indecent dressings.* 

A lady that has intimacy with the holy spirit will not dress half-naked because she is conscious that her body is a temple.

Temples are sacred, honoured, preserved, protected and kept.

DON'T FORGET THAT YOU CAN RETURN TO DUST WHERE YOU CAME FROM ANY TIME THAT YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW.

Amend your ways today. Tomorrow can be too late for anyone.

Be wise today and avoid had I known

Protect your valuables for it is worth it. 

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