10 REASONS WHY YOU SHOULDN'T RUSH INTO MARRIAGE JUST YET

•  So, most of your friends are getting married... except for you and your partner. To complicate matters, friends and family are already asking, "When is it your turn?". Sure, you're both in love and marriage seems to be the next logical step, but before you jump into a hasty decision, here are some reasons why you shouldn't give in to the pressure to tie the knot just yet:

1. You only get to experience the special time between falling in love and getting married once. Allow room for you and your partner to grow as individuals and for your relationship to grow naturally as a couple. 

2. Speaking of which, consider your priorities in life before deciding on marriage. Make sure you are both on the same page about each other's career goals as well as personal achievements and experiences. In short, live your life to the fullest before thinking about settling down. 

3. Rushing into marriage does not guarantee that the relationship will not fall apart. You don’t want to have regrets and wonder what things would have been like if you hadn't rushed into settling down so quickly with your partner. 

4. Just because you haven't tied the knot, that doesn't mean your relationship is "incomplete". Not being married does not mean you are alone or that you don't have somebody to trust and to count on in times of need. 

5. There are certain things you have to reflect upon before getting marriage. For one, the compatibility of you and your partner's characteristics and personalities. You might have known each other well enough to a certain extent, but are you ready to stand beside your partner in his or her ugliest phase of emotions? 

6. Weddings can be expensive, so the both of you should evaluate your financial situations before deciding to get married. You don't want to spend your married life in debt, and you'd be surprised by how often couples fight because of money. 

7. Marriage is a life-long commitment that comes with responsibilities, money, children, and routines which require maturity, hard work and compromise from both sides. Are the both of you mature enough to deal with all that? 

8. Marriage is not just a union between you and your partner, it's a union between both your families. This is especially true for the Asian society, so you will have to be ready to face both positive and negative responses upon your relationship becoming official. 

9. Trust is essential in any relationship, and it goes without saying that it applies in making a marriage work as well. Being married means you will be sharing almost every aspect of life with your partner, which includes - like it or not - coming clean about your emotional baggage with your partner and vice versa. 

10. Ultimately, marriage is a decision that will last for you and your partner's entire life. Take all the time you need to really think about it and ask yourselves if you are both physically and emotionally ready to take the next step in your relationship. 

May God help us to make the right choice in marriage🙏

 5 Categories Of Men If You Want To Live Long.

Women, avoid this 5 categories of men if you want to live long.

Dating can be a very tricky game if not done properly and carefully. If you don’t choose wisely, you are bound to make mistakes. And it’ll be more worse if you marry that person.. Marriage means being with someone for life. Every day the husband behaves well or badly. That’s why it’s so important to meet a good person who truly loves, supports and cares for you. If you meet a good enough person, you might want to get married. But there are some men you should never marry. Better to be alone than to date these 5 types of men:

1. The one who is abusive:

Why would you want to be with someone who was abusive in the first place? Never work with someone who cannot control their anger or irritability. It’s fine if your partner gets furious now and again, but if you’ve seen that he gets angry about the most insignificant things and vents his frustrations in an abusive manner, you should leave.

Eventually, you will also become depressed. If your partner is verbally abusive now, he may be physically aggressive in the future. So don’t marry an angry man:

2. “The ‘work is life’ man:

This is one that should definitely be avoided. It’s good that your partner is career-oriented, but if he thinks about his job all day, you should reconsider your options. A fully engaged person does not give advice or opinions about anything.

They listened quietly, nodded and said “whatever you want”. They don’t plan, they don’t discuss the future and they don’t take initiative. If you marry such a person, You will be lonely because he will not be able to connect with you emotionally:

3. The one who can only think of getting married:

So you’ve only met this guy a few times. Your partner knows, but he acts like he’s known you for years and talked about getting married. Marriage and children are his only topics of conversation. Such a person cannot be trusted, because he only talks out of turn. After all, it gives you plenty of reasons to stop doing something. If your partner is always talking about marriage, how much he loves you and can’t wait to live with you, he’s probably man full of empty words.

4. The over possessive man:

So this person doesn’t like what you’re doing. What you wear, who you chat with, how long you chat with other people, why you post on social media. Imagine that your husband talks about every little thing about you and you have to deal with it for the rest of your life. You may think they are kind and loving, but they are poisonous. No matter how hard you try, you will never earn the man’s trust.

5. Casanova:

If you are just one of his intrigues, you will see it in his behavior. A playboy will stick around only as long as he is enthralled by you or believes you can be the new sensation in his life. If you try to talk about something important to him, he will ask you to change the subject because you are ruining the moment.

Before you know it, he’s bored and looking for another woman. Why would a woman be with an adulterous man?

Antony Burgess

Very inspired story: A Year to Live.

Anthony Burgess was forty when he learned he had a brain tumor that would kill him within a year. He had no money at the time and nothing to bequeath to his soon-to-be widow, Lynne.

Burgess had never been a professional novelist in the past; but he was always aware that he had the talent to be a writer in him. So, just to be able to leave at least the copyrights to his wife, he put a piece of paper in the typewriter and began to write his first novel. It was not even certain that what he had written could be published; but he couldn’t think of anything else to do.

“It was January 1960,” he said, “and according to the diagnosis, I had a winter, a spring, and a summer ahead of me. That year, when the leaves began to fall, I would have died too.” With that speed and haste, Burgess had managed to write five and a half novels before the year was out. E. M. Forster could only write so many in almost an entire lifetime; J. D. Salinger, one of America’s greatest writers, managed to write only half of it in his entire life.

However, Burgess did not die. His cancer first regressed; then it disappeared altogether. In his long and full life as a writer, he produced more than seventy works, most famously A Clockwork Orange. He might not have written even one of these novels had it not been for the death sentence that cancer had inflicted on him.

Most of us are like Anthony Burgess; we hide a great talent waiting for an emergency to emerge from within us.

A useful exercise in self-motivation is to ask yourself what you would do if you were in Anthony Burgess’s place and found out that you would die of cancer within a year… 

“What would change in my life, how would I live my last year if I had learned that I would only live one more year? ? What exactly would I do? Considering the brevity of life is a useful exercise; it often brings up surprising thoughts in your mind that will reveal your unused talents that have not yet surfaced.

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Some of the difficulties you are currently facing is meant to wake you up, it's meant to bring out the hidden potentials in you.

Stop seeing that condition as a death sentence, how you see your situation is more important than the situation. Put your abilities to use as if you are dying tomorrow.

If you are not in any difficulty now, don't wait for problem to wake up, you might not survive it, be disciplined with yourself, make that hard decision now.