*My mum finally joined WhatsApp LAST LAST, and this afternoon she started complaining to me.*

She said, “chai

this WhatsApp registration dey chop money o.”

“Mummy I no understand… how?” I asked.😳

She sighed and said: “Since wey I tell

your brother to register me on WhatsApp, na so-so money I dey spend.”

I was confused, 🙄I didn’t understand what my mum was talking about. 

But after a while I got a clue and then asked:🤪 

“Oh ok,

Mummy na MB dey chop your money?”

She raised eye brows😲 and said: 

“Ah, which one be MB nah? 🙆‍♀️

I hope say I no go pay for that one o,

Because I don pay 8k for chatting permit,

7k for friend request fee,

3k for posting fee,

6k for profile picture permit.

And this evening again, your brother don talk say WhatsApp say make

I bring 5k for international WhatsApp passport.,

I don tire! 😞Na so una dey spend money for this thing?”

Me, I come say she go need WhatsApp Verification Number (WVN).

And that one is N35k only!!!, 

but make she try bring N30k make I help her add the remaining 5k as a good child.🤪

I cannot come and miss out!..🤔

Mummy was happy 😊to hear this with a joyful laugh and now said to me that all these good thing you my children are doing to me, your children too will do more than that to you by God's Grace...🙏

Then I waka comot as the situation don enter prayer...

🚶🏾🚶🏾🚶🏾

For 3 hours now mummy have been calling me to come and take the N35k for the number...

To go house now na wahala because I no want take the money make my children no go do worse things to me oh....

😂😂😂😂😂😂

🏃🏾🏃🏾🏃🏾🏃🏾🏃🏾🏃🏾...

A few years ago, my friend had just crossed age 50.  Just about 8 days later she was struck with an ailment ... And she died swiftly.

In the group we received a condolence message  that smsaid ..."Sad .. she is no more with us"...  *RIP* 🙏

Two months later I called her husband. A thought crossed my mind ..he must be devastated as he had a travelling job. Till her death she would oversee everything.. home.. education of their children... Taking care of the aged in-laws.. their sickness.. managing relatives..   _*everything,  everything, everything*_ 

She would express at times.." my house needs my time, .. my hubby cant even make coffee tea, my family needs me for everything, but no one cares or appreciates the efforts  i put in. I feel they all take me for granted ".

I called her husband to see if the family needed any support, as, i felt her  hubby must be feeling lost.. to suddenly have to handle  all the  responsibilities,  for evetything.. aging parents, Kids, his travelling job, loneliness at this age.. how must he be managing?

The cell phone rang for some time..no response... After an hour he returned the call.. He apologised that he could not answer my call..as he  had started playing tennis for an hour at his club and meeting friends etc. To ensure he had a good time.

 He even took a transfer to Pune. So as not to travel anymore.

"All well at home? " I asked, 

He replied, he had appointed a cook .. he paid her a little more and she would buy the groceries and provisions. He had appointed *full time caretakers* for his aging parents.

 "Managing well...kids are fine. Life is returning to normalcy...he said.

I barely managed to say a couple of sentences and we hung up.

Tears welled up my eyes.

My friend remained in my thoughts... She had missed the school reunion for a minor ailment of her mother in law. She had miss her nieces wedding because she had to supervise the repair  work in her house.

She had missed so many  fun parties and movies because her children had exams she had to cook she had to take care of her husband's needs...

She had Always looked for some appreciation and some recognition.. which she never got.

Today I feel like telling her..

No one is indispensable.

And no one will be missed.. it is just the play of our mind.

Perhaps it is the consolation.. A symbol of our understanding if you would like to call it that... That's the problem of putting others first.

You have taught them that YOU COME SECOND 

 *Reality bites* :

 _After her death *two more maids* were hired and the house was in order_

We only measure our respect and our value.. ain't that true?

Then do enjoy life.. Remove the frame of mind that I am indispensable and without me the house will suffer..🙏

🧕🏼👮🏻‍♀️🤱🏻👩🏼‍🎓👩🏻‍🔬 🙎🏻‍♀️👱🏻‍♀️👩🏻‍🦱 🧑🏻‍🦱👩🏻‍💻👵🏻

💟 🆘 🚺 My message to all Ladies : 

Most importantly make time for *yourself* .. the *ME* time.. the time for the self..🏃🏼‍♀️ 🚶🏻‍♀️

❤️ Get in touch with your girlfriends... Talk, laugh and enjoy

🧡 Live your passion, live your life  🎧🎻 💃🏻🚲 🎤🎼🎶 🚴🏻‍♀️🎨

💛 Once in a while do things that love to do ...

🏃🏽‍♀️🧎🏻‍♀️🤳🏼🧘🏻‍♀️🎼 🛀🏾 📝 🎨🖌️ 🎸🎹♟️🎲🎳 

💙 Don't look for your happiness in others, *you too deserve some happiness* because if you are not happy you cannot make others happy 🤩😃

💚 Everyone needs you, and you too need your own care and love 🙇🏻‍♀️💆🏻‍♀️💅🏼👯🏻‍♀️ 🧎🏻‍♀️🚶🏻‍♀️🏃🏽‍♀️

💜 Women should come forward to help and guide other women who are unable to handle their personal stress and give them a hand to uplift their confidence 🤗👩🏻‍🦱

🤎 💖Let us HELP Ourselves and make this *LIFE WORTHWHILE* 💝 

💓 we all have only one life to live ❣️