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Anne Boleyn And Henry VIII
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When the Tudor king fell for a young lady-in-waiting, Anne Boleyn, who possessed eyes "black and beautiful," he was long married to a Spanish princess. But Anne refused to be a royal mistress, and the king rocked the Western world to win his divorce and make Anne queen. Ambassadors could not believe how enslaved the king was by his love for Anne. "This accursed Anne has her foot in the stirrup," complained the Spanish emissary. 


To comprehend the king's passion, one need only read his 16th century love letters, revealing his torment over how elusive she remained: "I beg to know expressly your intention touching the love between us…having been more than a year wounded by the dart of love, and not yet sure whether I shall fail or find a place in your affection." (Their love affair ended when he had her beheaded.)
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Predictions About Men And Marriage
~1.8 mins read
It's a major decision—selecting one person, out of many possible candidates, with whom to spend the rest of your life. Marriage is a gut-deep commitment—and not one to be taken lightly.
Choosing poorly could lead to years of protracted pain, emotional suffering, and a long ledger of divorce court-related expenses. The cost of a poor choice is enough to cause some individuals to become anxious and avoid deep relationships altogether. Choose wisely, however, and you have a wonderful soulmate. A frequent source of joy, comfort, and inspiration.

Sounds good, yes? But here's the rub: Picking the right spouse is hard—really hard. This is due, in large part, to the following: The qualities that first attracted you to someone are, very often, not the qualities that make for a wonderful marriage.
“What ho?” you say (channeling a little bit of Bertie Wooster). Yes, it’s true. A moment’s reflection will convince you. Consider, for example, the qualities that you hear friends gush about when they first fall deeply "in like" with a new romantic interest:

“She was gorgeous, the most beautiful woman at the party.”“He was just like a little lost puppy. So cute and shy. But then when he had a few drinks, his real self-came out, and he was the center of attention. No one could ignore him at that point because of his sheer presence…What a dream. I think I can help him come out of his shell.”“I cannot remember ever meeting a woman so smart, but also such a flirt…I mean she flirted with everyone, but I was the guy she left with at the end of the night! Oh yeah, baby, big win. She is so into me.”“We both love collecting Hummels! He even has a photo collection of every Hansel and Gretel Hummel ever made.”“Can you believe it? She loves the Raiders…how gnarly is that? We can wear matching Raiders gear all winter and tailgate in our own driveway.”
In the long run—by which I mean over the course of 30 to 50 years—none of these qualities is likely to help you form a deeply stable and rewarding marriage.
Let there be no misunderstanding. Of course, it’s important to feel attracted to your spouse. Likewise, you should share at least some common interests.
But mere attraction and mutual interests do not provide the ballast, or stability, needed to help a marriage grow year over year. This is important to keep in mind: Healthy marriages grow. Unhealthy marriages remain the same. They become stagnant. Or, worse, they deteriorate and die.

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