Sometimes it’s hard to come up with questions to ask your crush and still sound casual. That’s why I came up with this list of questions. Hopefully it will help you strike up a conversation and get to know your crush a little bit better.

Everyone is different and everyone likes talking about different things. So pick and choose which questions you think you and your crush will like.

A great plan of action is to find out what your crush is interested in and talk about that. Everyone likes talking about their interests. So a lot of these questions are for finding out what kinds of things your crush is in to. Other questions are for finding interesting experiences and viewpoints that you can both talk about.

Just remember these questions are just conversation starters so you’ll need to carry on the conversation with lots of follow up questions. Good luck! I hope you’ll find this list of questions to ask your crush useful.

List of questions to ask your crush
What do you find hilarious but most people don’t find funny?
What was the best of year of your life so far?
What’s your favorite thing to do on the internet?
What fad have you held on to, even though it isn’t popular anymore?
What do you spend most of your time doing?
What do you spend way too much money on?
What event small or large has changed the course of your life the most?
Who do you have a hard time taking seriously?
What do you judge people for most often?
What was the most beautiful view you have ever experienced?
What is something you have read or heard that has stuck with you for a long time?
What’s your favorite thing to shop for? Why?
What’s the best compliment that someone can receive?
What’s something that people go on and on about, and you just can’t take sitting through?
What’s something you can do that most people can’t?
How do you calm yourself down when you are angry?
What is your worst getting trolled story?
When was the last time you tried to do something to look cool and it ended in utter embarrassment?
What is the most cringe worthy thing you have seen someone post on social media?
What is the most ridiculous rule you have to follow?
What bullet have you recently dodged?
What country do you not know the location of even though you should?
What do you have a hard time with but most people find quite easy?
What’s the most impressive skill you have?
What’s a huge story in the news that you care absolutely nothing about?
Well that’s it for questions to ask your crush, but we’ve got a few things that might be useful to you!

Some more questions to ask
Funny questions to ask – Keep the conversation light and full of laughs. Use these questions to start up a conversation that will have you both busting out in laughter.

Questions to ask a guy or girl over text – Did you get your crush’s number but now don’t know what to text them? Try this list of questions!

If your crush is guy try our questions to ask a guy list and if your crush is a girl, try our questions to ask a girl list. You are sure to find some great questions to ask on either of those pages.

Need something to talk about on your first date? How about some first date questions.

Looking for somewhere to go on a date with your crush? Try out date ideas lis

The Psychology of Romantic Love
By Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT

Most everyone wants to fall in love, especially codependents. To us, love is perhaps the highest ideal, and relationships give our lives meaning and purpose. They enliven and motivate us. A partner provides a companion when we have difficulty initiating action on our own. Being loved also validates our sense of self-esteem, overcomes shame-based doubts about our lovability, and soothes our fears of loneliness. But too often a beautiful romance turns sour. What was a wonderful dream becomes a painful nightmare. Ms. Perfect or Mr. Right becomes Ms. or Mr. Wrong. The unconscious is a mighty force. Reason doesn’t seem to stop us from falling in love, nor make it any easier to leave! Even when the relationship turns out to be toxic, once attached, ending the relationship is as hard as falling in love was easy!

The Chemistry of Romance and Falling in Love
Our brains are wired to fall in love — to feel the bliss and euphoria of romance, to enjoy pleasure, and to bond and procreate. Feel-good neurochemicals flood the brain at each stage of lust, attraction, and attachment.  Particularly dopamine provides natural high and ecstatic feelings that can be as addictive as cocaine. Deeper feelings are assisted by oxytocin, the “cuddle hormone,” released during orgasm. It’s directly linked to bonding and increases trust and loyalty in romantic attachments.

The Psychology of Romantic Love — Whom We Find Attractive
Psychology plays a role, too. Our self-esteem, mental and emotional health, life experiences, and family relations all influence whom we’re attracted to. Experiences, both positive and negative, impact our choices and make someone appear more or less attractive. For example, we might find commonality attractive, but avoid someone who cheated on an ex if that has happened to us before. We’re attracted to subtle physical attributes, albeit unconsciously, that remind us of a family member. More mysterious, we can be attracted to someone who shares emotional and behavioral patterns with a member of our family even before they become apparent.

The Ideal Stage of Romance
It’s true that we’re blinded by love. Healthy idealization is normal and helps us fall in love. We admire our beloved, are willing to explore our partner’s interests, and accept his or her idiosyncrasies. Love also brings out parts of our personality that were dormant. We might feel manlier or more womanly, more empathic, generous, hopeful, and more willing to take risks and try new things. In this way, we feel more alive, because we have access to other aspects of our ordinary or constricted personality. Additionally, in early dating, we’re usually more honest than down the road when we become invested in the relationship and fear speaking our truth might precipitate a breakup.

Although, healthy idealization doesn’t blind us to serious warning signs of problems, if we’re depressed or have low self-esteem, we’re more likely to idealize a prospective partner and overlook signs of trouble, such as unreliability or addiction, or accept behavior that is disrespectful or abusive. The neurochemicals of romance can lift our depressed mood and fuel codependency and love addiction when we seek a relationship in order to put an end to our loneliness or emptiness. When we lack a support system or are unhappy, we might rush into a relationship and become attached quickly before really knowing our partner.  This is also referred to as “love on the rebound” or a “transitional relationship” following a breakup or divorce. It’s far better to first recover from a breakup.

The Ordeal Stage of Romantic Love
After the initial ideal stage, usually starting after six months, we enter the ordeal stage as we learn more things about our partner that displease us. We discover habits and flaws we dislike and attitudes we believe to be ignorant or distasteful. In fact, some of the same traits that attracted us now annoy us. We liked that our mate was warm and friendly, but now feel ignored at social gatherings. We admired his bold and decisive, but learn he’s rude and close-minded. We were enchanted by her carefree spirit, but are now appalled by her unrealistic spending. We were captivated by his unfettered expressions of love and a promised future, but discover he’s loose with the truth.

Additionally, as the high wears off, we start to revert to our ordinary personality, and so has our partner. We don’t feel as expansive, loving, and unselfish. In the beginning, we may have gone out of our way to accommodate him or her, now we complain that our needs aren’t being met. We’ve changed, and we don’t feel as wonderful, but we want those blissful feelings back.

Two things happen next that can damage relationships. First, now that we’re attached and fear losing or upsetting our partner, we hold back feelings, wants, and needs. This puts up walls to intimacy, the secret sauce that keeps love alive. In its place we withdraw and breed resentments. Our feelings can come out sideways with sarcasm or passive-aggression. As romance and idealization fade, the second fatal mistake is to complain and try to turn our partner into who we first idealized him or her to be.  We feel cheated and disillusioned that our partner is now behaving differently than in the beginning of the relationship. He or she, too, is reverting to their ordinary personality that may include less effort made to win you and accommodate your needs. Our partner will feel controlled and resentful and may pull away.

In some cases, we might discover serious problems — that our partner has an addiction, mental illness, or his abusive or dishonest. These are issues that require a serious commitment to change and often years of therapy to overcome. Many codependents, who get quickly involved for the reasons stated above, will sacrifice their own happiness and continue in a relationship for years trying to change, help, and fix their partner. The dysfunctional family dynamics of their childhood often get repeated in their marriages and relationships. They may unconsciously be contributing to the problem, because they’re reacting to an abusive or controlling parent. Change requires healing our past and overcoming shame and low self-esteem to feel entitled to love and appreciation.

Getting to the Real Deal
We might not want to continue a relationship that involves addiction or abuse or has other serious problems. (See Codependency for Dummies for a list of both minimal and optimal ingredients for successful relationships.) Lacking major obstacles, getting past the ordeal to the real deal requires self-esteem, courage, acceptance, and assertiveness skills. It necessitates the ability to honestly speak up about our needs and wants, to share feelings, compromise, and resolve conflict. Rather than try to change our partner, our efforts are better placed on learning to accept him or her. (This doesn’t mean accepting abuse.) This is the struggle for intimacy, and requires a commitment by both partners to get through the ordeal stage with mutual respect and a desire to make the relationship work.

Steps You Can Take to Make Love Last
We will attract someone who treats us the way we expect to be treated. As we value ourselves more, whom we are attracted to will also change, and we will naturally avoid someone who doesn’t treat us well or meet our needs.

Know yourself, your needs, wants, and limits. 
Take time to get to know the person you’re dating. Learn who they really are and how you both resolve conflict.
Remember that sex releases oxytocin and increases bonding (though it can occur without it).
Be honest from the start. Don’t hide who you are, including your needs. Speak up when you dislike something.
Talk honestly about what you want and your expectations in a relationship. If the other person doesn’t want the same things, end it. (This may not be easy, but the relationship wouldn’t have worked or satisfied you.)
Research shows that relationship outcomes are predictable based on the partners’ self esteem. Read “Codependency: The Effect of Low Self-Esteem on Relationships.”  Self-worth is essential to healthy relationships. It also enables you to receive love and be repulsed by abuse. Get How to Raise Your Self-Esteem.

Boundaries and intimacy are essential to relationships. Learn to be assertive to express your feelings, needs, and wants and set boundaries.