Here are phrases that negatively impact the mental development of children and changed them for the better.

7. "You need to listen to adults."

When the child hears this, he thinks, "All adults are sensible and good. I must do as they say." This phrase is dangerous because the child begins to trust all adults, including strangers, and expects nothing bad from them.

 

The correct phrase: "You must listen to your parents." It helps the child to develop critical thinking and a healthy distrust of strangers.

6. "Stop crying."

When the child hears this, he thinks: 'It's bad to show emotion. I'm just being scolded for tears. ' He might be quiet and withdrawn. Latent emotions will sooner or later manifest themselves in aggression or tears.

The correct phrase: "Tell me what's bothering you." "Why are you crying?" If the baby falls or gets bruised, try "Are you crying because it hurts, or are you scared?" This will provoke a conversation that will help the child identify their feelings.

5. "Do not be greedy!"

When the child hears this, he thinks, 'I have to share everything. There is nothing that is mine. ' Over time, these thoughts will develop in the victim's behavior. He does not protect his own values ​​and possessions and thinks he is not worthy of them.

The correct phrase: "Do you want to let this boy play with your toys a little?" "Would you like to exchange toys for a while?" Give your child the opportunity to control their own things. Do not insist if he does not want to share.

4. "Who taught you that?" (about an evil)

When the child hears this, he thinks, "My parents do not know that I came up with this." Such a child would think that he could go unpunished after expressing the blame on others.

The correct phrase: "Why did you do that?" This will help you find out if the child did it themselves or after someone's encouragement. Give him the opportunity to explain his actions.

3. "Look at this sweet girl."

When the child hears it, he thinks, "I'm worse than others. It makes no sense to try something. It does not work." By comparing him to others, it affects the self - esteem of the child and makes him believe that he will never achieve anything.

The correct phrase: "I love you. You can do that too." Point out your child's abilities and show that you believe in him. Remember, your child is unique and has his own talents.

2. "We talk at home."

When the child hears this, he thinks, "My parents can hurt me. They do not like me. I do not want to go home." The parents are no longer loving but threatening and the home becomes a place where the child expects punishment.

The correct phrase: "Let me tell you what bothered me." When the child hears your point of view, he learns to consider your emotions when considering his future actions.

1. "You're too young to think about it."

When the child hears this, he thinks, "I want to know. I want to ask someone else!" If your child asks you unpleasant questions but does not receive information, he will receive it from other sources - much less competent.

The correct sentence: "I am not ready to answer now. I need time." Do not fire the child. Try to answer it when he asks you a question. This way you will remain an authority in his eyes and not lose his trust.

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It is true that parents should not spare the rod and spoil the child but there are certain situation where this notion does not really work. In other words, it is not everything children do they should be beaten or disciplined for.

When you shout on your children or beat them at every slightest provocation or misbehavior, you might not likely be able to handle the consequence of your action in the long run.

 

If you are too harsh with your children, these are what you may likely get in return as a result of your harshness on them:

1. When you are harsh on them, they may grow up to become bullies. You will just realize that your children treat other children like trash and with disrespect.

In other word, they will see it normal to be harsh with people. Respect will be far from their dictionary.

2. When you are too harsh with your children, they will become very aggressive. The only thing they will understand as a means of settling any difference is by being aggressive. Before you know it, they will become aggressors in their school or wherever they are.

3. When you are too harsh with your children, you should be ready for trouble every time. They will always trace them home to report or square up with you as their parents.

You will always be invited to their schools to settle issues and apologize for their wrong deed. There are times when you will even need to be invited to the police station to write a statement on behalf of your child who had committed an offence either in school or neighborhood.

As parents, you have to strike a balance between training your children and disciplining them.