Keep your marriage intact!

If your spouse is used to pressing the toothpaste from the middle, press your own from the bottom, it will balance. This shouldn't cause breakup.

If your  spouse is used to leaving the toilet seat up, close it or put it down, it shouldn't cause problem.

If your spousefartwhile you're eating, carry your food and go elsewhere. This shouldn't cause brouhaha. 

If spouse snores, so noisily you can't sleep, carry your pillow and go spend the night in the guest room, that should be after the show sha. And besides, snoring is treatable. It can also be controlled. All you need do is see a doctor. This shouldn't cause a breakup. 

If your spouse has a bad breath , otherwise known as mouth odour, book an appointment with a dentist. It can be treated. Sometimes it is negligence that causes bad breath or a bad oral hygiene. Bad breath is treatable. It shouldn't cause divorce. 

If your spouse has body odour , its treatable. He/she needs to be more hygienic. Invest in good body spray and roll on, (not anti perspirant) if it's a man, bath well and use perfume or deodorant. If it's a woman, it's only when going out that you can't use perfume. 'Bastadise your housewears with perfume. Increase your hygiene. Bath two or three times a day. Bath especially before bed time. Body odour shouldn't cause wahala . Something that has a cure is already solved.

If your spouse cannot cook or can't cook to your taste, enrol her in culinary class. If you can, you can teach her. Food/cooking shouldn't cause breakup.

If your spouseis lazy or lethargic with house chores, if you can, get modern gadgets to ease her task. Gone are the days when a woman's wifeliness is in her physical strength. Stress can easily wear a woman out and make her look twice her age.

If your spouse is mannerless , correct him/her with love and patience. It's hard to live with a mannerless person but marriage is not a bed of Roses.

If your spouse is temperamental , know him or her for whom s/he is. Don't cross the line. Be patient. 

 Divorce should be the last resort but nowadays new couples don't want to tolerate one another. They resort to divorce at the first challenge.A woman should buy a bag separately and stock it with tolerance before marriage. A man should also fill his heart with tolerance before marriage.

The little things that causes divorce nowadays is ridiculous. Most of those things can be controlled or managed. But shaytan keep having upper hand when spouses get divorced because of something as trivial as pressing toothpaste from the middle or snoring.

Sometimes, age is not a factor in marriage. Maturity and intelligence takes upper credit.

The news we hear nowadays is appalling. May God save our marriages from falling apart like the wall of Jericho.

A DOZEN QUESTIONS THAT CAN TRANSFORM YOUR MARRIAGE IF ANSWERED SINCERELY

1. Will your children wish their marriage to be like yours? 

2. Is you marriage preaching to the people around you?

3. Will your spouse be willing to marry you again if given an opportunity to remarry?

4. Is God happy and gloried about your marriage?

5. Is your marriage a blessing to your spouse or a source of bitterness?

6. Since you got married to your spouse, is his/her life better than you met him/her?

7. When last did you deliberately appreciate your spouse for the sacrifices he/she has been making in your marriage?

8. Are you always seeing your spouse as the problem of your union and seeing yourself as the saint?

9. How much sacrifice have you made in your marriage in order to make it work?

10. If you die today, do you think your spouse will really miss you or will your death be like a relief to him/her? Are you praying for him/her to die so that you go on your mourning clothes for just three months? Chai!!

11. Are you always thinking about and threatening your spouse with divorce and separation?

12. Are you seeing and thinking about someone else as a better spouse if you had been married to him/her?

The answers to these questions will X-ray  how healthy your marriage is. If I ask you to submit the answers to me you may lie but you cannot lie to your conscience. If your answers are not favourable please repent. 

I hope I am talking to someone here!