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Why Your Date Bailed Out On You? Here’s The Reason Why
You Meet Someone Or Start Talking To Them On A Dating App And Things Seem To Be Working In Your Favour. The Person Is Overtly Show...
Guest Fatim Jarju
5 yrs
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Guest Fatim Jarju
Why Your Date Bailed Out On You? Here’s The Reason Why
~2.2 mins read
You meet someone or start talking to them on a dating app and things seem to be working in your favour. The person is overtly showing interest, you could even call it flirting, both of you plan on taking it forward, and a date is set.
While both of you are excited and you can already judge the sparks flying between you two, they suddenly back out. This comes as a plain shocker knowing that they were on the same page with you just a few hours ago.
1. A common occurance on dating apps than in face-to-face interactions
A thing to note is that it can happen to anyone, but it is more likely to happen to people on dating apps than face-to-face interactions. What gives them the power to take the call despite showing interest in the first place when it comes to online dating? Anonymity. The faceless attribute of the internet gives people the safe space to shirk off accountability. It is natural to not feel much connection with people online. You can share a few pictures and exchange a few texts and still not feel the loyalty, commitment or responsibility that would stem out of real-life conversation.
2. Fielding a lot of options can be one reason
Since you cannot be sure you’re the only one they are talking to on the internet, they can easily forget a few dates here and there, out of which you might be one too. Decisions made while casually chatting like “let’s catch up for coffee” might not be followed up. You can keep waiting for them to set a date and place, but they might never come through. Maybe they are busy, genuinely, or that was just said in the moment and the third we already know---they are fielding a lot of options. Also, one shouldn’t be doubtful of everyone they meet on the internet, your date could just be getting the nerves and that is the reason they cancelled or ghosted you. They were just trying to calm their feelings of anxiety.
3. The chills are real when you’ve hyped yourself too much on the internet
The thought of taking a screen conversation to a table can be daunting for some. Some of the people are online to get over their fear of dating and flirting, but the reality hits them one day. Here’s where the idea of staying home can come as a huge relief. They aren’t selfish, they have just built themselves up on the internet and are afraid to let you down or come across as less attractive.
4. Maybe it is just an empty confidence boost
Truth be told, not everyone is looking for a serious relationship or even a relationship on dating apps. They are there for the ego boost or to derive confidence out of someone who shows interest in them. It is more of something like a novelty where you feel good when someone likes you back, or maybe “super likes” you back.
By Idiva
While both of you are excited and you can already judge the sparks flying between you two, they suddenly back out. This comes as a plain shocker knowing that they were on the same page with you just a few hours ago.
1. A common occurance on dating apps than in face-to-face interactions
A thing to note is that it can happen to anyone, but it is more likely to happen to people on dating apps than face-to-face interactions. What gives them the power to take the call despite showing interest in the first place when it comes to online dating? Anonymity. The faceless attribute of the internet gives people the safe space to shirk off accountability. It is natural to not feel much connection with people online. You can share a few pictures and exchange a few texts and still not feel the loyalty, commitment or responsibility that would stem out of real-life conversation.
2. Fielding a lot of options can be one reason
Since you cannot be sure you’re the only one they are talking to on the internet, they can easily forget a few dates here and there, out of which you might be one too. Decisions made while casually chatting like “let’s catch up for coffee” might not be followed up. You can keep waiting for them to set a date and place, but they might never come through. Maybe they are busy, genuinely, or that was just said in the moment and the third we already know---they are fielding a lot of options. Also, one shouldn’t be doubtful of everyone they meet on the internet, your date could just be getting the nerves and that is the reason they cancelled or ghosted you. They were just trying to calm their feelings of anxiety.
3. The chills are real when you’ve hyped yourself too much on the internet
The thought of taking a screen conversation to a table can be daunting for some. Some of the people are online to get over their fear of dating and flirting, but the reality hits them one day. Here’s where the idea of staying home can come as a huge relief. They aren’t selfish, they have just built themselves up on the internet and are afraid to let you down or come across as less attractive.
4. Maybe it is just an empty confidence boost
Truth be told, not everyone is looking for a serious relationship or even a relationship on dating apps. They are there for the ego boost or to derive confidence out of someone who shows interest in them. It is more of something like a novelty where you feel good when someone likes you back, or maybe “super likes” you back.
By Idiva
Guest Fatim Jarju
5 yrs
1013
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Guest Fatim Jarju
Cheating Is Good For You! Just Cheat On Your Diet, Not Your Partner
~1.9 mins read
All of us have tried out different diets at some point or the other in our lives. Diets go in and out of fashion just like clothing styles do. In the ’80s and ’90s, fat-free diets were all the fad, now very opposite is true with the high fat keto diet. In fact, the keto was so popular that it was Google’s most searched diet last year.
The thing with diets though, is that they are hard to stick to. We start out all motivated and willing to see it through, but somewhere along the way, we start faltering and then we break down and go on a junk food binge. Human willpower can only go so far.
Cheat days are the answer
How do you deal with this pesky problem of losing the will to continue on a particular diet? Cheat days. For once in your life, cheating will actually be good for you.
We need to remember that we are not machines. We can’t just readjust our settings and recalibrate how we live our everyday lives. Human beings are adaptable but we’re not automatically so. We need time and space to adjust to changes, especially to lifestyle changes.
This is why having a designated cheat day (or two) is the best way to avoid ruining a well-set diet plan. Give yourself a day where you can eat what you want. It could be a Friday where you want to celebrate the end of the work week or a Saturday so you can enjoy a night out.
A cheat day lets you blow off steam. By the time we’re almost done with a week on a regimented diet, most of us are like a pressure cooker ready to blow its lid off. Instead of letting ourselves explodes, we should gently release the pressure. A cheat day does exactly that.
Another important reason to observe a cheat day is that it keeps you motivated to stay on a diet. If you expect yourself to follow a strict diet every single day 100% of the time, when you do crack and end up binge eating, you immediately end up feeling demotivated. Most people give up on a diet as soon as they slide and end up junk food bingeing.
You shouldn’t let one setback make you quit altogether. As clichéd as it is, failure is a stepping stone to success. We’re human and we should cut ourselves some slack. Nobody can be perfect, especially a person on a diet. So, give yourself a cheat day and chill.
By Idiva
The thing with diets though, is that they are hard to stick to. We start out all motivated and willing to see it through, but somewhere along the way, we start faltering and then we break down and go on a junk food binge. Human willpower can only go so far.
Cheat days are the answer
How do you deal with this pesky problem of losing the will to continue on a particular diet? Cheat days. For once in your life, cheating will actually be good for you.
We need to remember that we are not machines. We can’t just readjust our settings and recalibrate how we live our everyday lives. Human beings are adaptable but we’re not automatically so. We need time and space to adjust to changes, especially to lifestyle changes.
This is why having a designated cheat day (or two) is the best way to avoid ruining a well-set diet plan. Give yourself a day where you can eat what you want. It could be a Friday where you want to celebrate the end of the work week or a Saturday so you can enjoy a night out.
A cheat day lets you blow off steam. By the time we’re almost done with a week on a regimented diet, most of us are like a pressure cooker ready to blow its lid off. Instead of letting ourselves explodes, we should gently release the pressure. A cheat day does exactly that.
Another important reason to observe a cheat day is that it keeps you motivated to stay on a diet. If you expect yourself to follow a strict diet every single day 100% of the time, when you do crack and end up binge eating, you immediately end up feeling demotivated. Most people give up on a diet as soon as they slide and end up junk food bingeing.
You shouldn’t let one setback make you quit altogether. As clichéd as it is, failure is a stepping stone to success. We’re human and we should cut ourselves some slack. Nobody can be perfect, especially a person on a diet. So, give yourself a cheat day and chill.
By Idiva
Guest Fatim Jarju
5 yrs
1015
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Guest Fatim Jarju
25 Habits To Let Go By The Time You Hit 25, Cuz YOLO Only Looks Good In Texts
~2.2 mins read
Turning 25 is a year of many milestones. You are now a true adult who is expected to hold a job, have completed at least your graduation if not your masters. While a lot of things are expected of you, there are a few you should expect out of yourself as well. Here’s a list of habits and things you should let go off by the time you reach 25. Because you might feel like a kid, but you’re not. You’re closer to 30 now than you are to 18.
1. Binge-drinking your face off at open bars and making a complete fool out of yourself.
2. Thrift shopping, because the key to adulthood is--buy little but buy good. Shopping at Sarojini Nagar is affordable, but not sustainable.
3. Your entitlement. You don’t “deserve” something unless you have truly worked for it.
4. Believing in cheat days rather than having a balanced diet all throughout the year.
5. Believing that your body is okay without any physical activity.
6. Thinking that not responding to someone is sweeter than politely rejecting.
7. Live in a bubble that everyone has “the one” assigned to them. No, sis!
8. Being proud of your attitude rather than fixing it.
9. Asking for money from your parents despite being employed. High time you became financially independent.
10. Financial independence also means it is high time you start investing and saving money for a rainy day.
11. Wanting people to react or act the way you want them to.
12. Attaching yourself to your partner so much that you both are left with a MIA friend circle.
13. Being rude to someone because you don’t like them. Suck it up, girl, life is not your parents’ home.
14. Not tipping at parlours and restaurants.
15. Living your life on your parents’ terms.
16. Thinking that your clock is ticking and you need to get married.
17. Not packing a tiffin for work. You’re not just saving money, you’re getting up early and ensuring you eat home-cooked food.
18. Comparing anything in your life to that of friends and influencers on social media.
19. There is no pride in staying up late at night, except for some occasions.
20. Thinking short-term is the biggest hindrance to your goals. Have patience.
21. If you’re making excuses, then you probably didn’t want it that bad in the first place.
22. Don’t expect people to stick around if you cannot agree to let go of your controlling behaviour.
23. Your dependency on social media, phones, television and everything you while away hours at, because it is a form of addiction at the end of the day.
24. Delaying a task. Get your work done now so that you are free later and the next day, or even the whole week.
25. Overall give up on an unhealthy lifestyle all together--eat healthy, stay fit, think good.
By Idiva
1. Binge-drinking your face off at open bars and making a complete fool out of yourself.
2. Thrift shopping, because the key to adulthood is--buy little but buy good. Shopping at Sarojini Nagar is affordable, but not sustainable.
3. Your entitlement. You don’t “deserve” something unless you have truly worked for it.
4. Believing in cheat days rather than having a balanced diet all throughout the year.
5. Believing that your body is okay without any physical activity.
6. Thinking that not responding to someone is sweeter than politely rejecting.
7. Live in a bubble that everyone has “the one” assigned to them. No, sis!
8. Being proud of your attitude rather than fixing it.
9. Asking for money from your parents despite being employed. High time you became financially independent.
10. Financial independence also means it is high time you start investing and saving money for a rainy day.
11. Wanting people to react or act the way you want them to.
12. Attaching yourself to your partner so much that you both are left with a MIA friend circle.
13. Being rude to someone because you don’t like them. Suck it up, girl, life is not your parents’ home.
14. Not tipping at parlours and restaurants.
15. Living your life on your parents’ terms.
16. Thinking that your clock is ticking and you need to get married.
17. Not packing a tiffin for work. You’re not just saving money, you’re getting up early and ensuring you eat home-cooked food.
18. Comparing anything in your life to that of friends and influencers on social media.
19. There is no pride in staying up late at night, except for some occasions.
20. Thinking short-term is the biggest hindrance to your goals. Have patience.
21. If you’re making excuses, then you probably didn’t want it that bad in the first place.
22. Don’t expect people to stick around if you cannot agree to let go of your controlling behaviour.
23. Your dependency on social media, phones, television and everything you while away hours at, because it is a form of addiction at the end of the day.
24. Delaying a task. Get your work done now so that you are free later and the next day, or even the whole week.
25. Overall give up on an unhealthy lifestyle all together--eat healthy, stay fit, think good.
By Idiva
Health and Lifestyle
Stop Dieting If Have Any Of These 12 Symptoms
Dieting Is Great If You Want To Lose Some Inches, Cut Down Cholesterol Or Increase Your Energy Levels. But Hey, If You Are Dreadin...
Guest Fatim Jarju
5 yrs
1020
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Guest Fatim Jarju
Stop Dieting If Have Any Of These 12 Symptoms
~1.8 mins read
Dieting is great if you want to lose some inches, cut down cholesterol or increase your energy levels. But hey, if you are dreading your diet routine, maybe it's time to give it a break. Here are 12 legit reasons you need to stop trying to lose weight, because truly your body will thank you for it.
1. You are hungry all the time.
This is a sign that your diet isn't fulfilling your body's nutrition. It makes you hungry and sometimes weak too. So quit starving yourself for a while.
2. Unhealthy relationship with food.
Is your relationship with food becoming a stressful one that you've begun to obsess over? This is proof that you've got to give yourself a much-needed break.
3. You binge-eat. All the time.
If you are binge-eating all the time, you are obviously not following your diet and end up starving yourself too. So why not take a break from it for a while.
4. You don't feel healthy or balanced.
Your diet is supposed to have a positive effect on you and your body and if that isn't happening then you need to stop.
5. You feel irritable and moody.
Feeling irritable and dabbling with mood swings is a sign that your diet is backfiring due to deprivation of essential nutrients.
6. You are having troubles with your periods.
Your menstrual cycle gets affected when there is a drastic change in your body and skipping your period is a negative sign.
7. You've lost your appetite completely.
Losing your appetite isn't a good thing. This means you're constantly anxious about what you put into your mouth and that's keeping you stressed.
8. You are getting depressed.
Depression is the result of less carbohydrates in your body which is needed for serotonin - the neurotransmitter that keeps you happy.
9. You feel like you are punishing yourself.
When you start feeling like you are punishing yourself is the time you need to stop your diet and start eating because otherwise you'll be miserable all the time.
10. You feel tired all the time.
This means the food you are eating isn't sufficient enough for your body and doesn't give you any energy.
11. Your diet becomes your life.
If you've begun to obsess over your diet to another level it's time to give yourself a break and indulge.
12. Your weight fluctuates.
If you can't come to a constant, balanced weight maybe it's time to look into your diet.
By Idiva
1. You are hungry all the time.
This is a sign that your diet isn't fulfilling your body's nutrition. It makes you hungry and sometimes weak too. So quit starving yourself for a while.
2. Unhealthy relationship with food.
Is your relationship with food becoming a stressful one that you've begun to obsess over? This is proof that you've got to give yourself a much-needed break.
3. You binge-eat. All the time.
If you are binge-eating all the time, you are obviously not following your diet and end up starving yourself too. So why not take a break from it for a while.
4. You don't feel healthy or balanced.
Your diet is supposed to have a positive effect on you and your body and if that isn't happening then you need to stop.
5. You feel irritable and moody.
Feeling irritable and dabbling with mood swings is a sign that your diet is backfiring due to deprivation of essential nutrients.
6. You are having troubles with your periods.
Your menstrual cycle gets affected when there is a drastic change in your body and skipping your period is a negative sign.
7. You've lost your appetite completely.
Losing your appetite isn't a good thing. This means you're constantly anxious about what you put into your mouth and that's keeping you stressed.
8. You are getting depressed.
Depression is the result of less carbohydrates in your body which is needed for serotonin - the neurotransmitter that keeps you happy.
9. You feel like you are punishing yourself.
When you start feeling like you are punishing yourself is the time you need to stop your diet and start eating because otherwise you'll be miserable all the time.
10. You feel tired all the time.
This means the food you are eating isn't sufficient enough for your body and doesn't give you any energy.
11. Your diet becomes your life.
If you've begun to obsess over your diet to another level it's time to give yourself a break and indulge.
12. Your weight fluctuates.
If you can't come to a constant, balanced weight maybe it's time to look into your diet.
By Idiva
Guest Fatim Jarju
5 yrs
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Guest Fatim Jarju
4 Tips To Deal With That Colleague Who Is Always Complaining
~1.6 mins read
We all have good and bad days at work, right? But then working in an atmosphere where a coworker constantly keeps cribbing and complaining about work, the system, protocols, and bad management gets a tad difficult. We all have that one colleague who does it on a regular basis, making the environment toxic and intolerable.
Here we are with a few tips and tricks to tactfully deal with such coworkers without being rude.
1. Try talking to them and make them understand
If their constant cribbing is really bothering you and affecting your focus and performance at work, it’s advisable to have a chat with them about the same. Things are better when communicated. Perhaps, if you try to make them understand how it’s not helping them or the cause anyway and is affecting the rest and putting their morale and confidence down might do the trick.
2. Don’t give any reaction to constant cribbers
If the situation still doesn’t improve, ignorance is bliss. You stop responding to their constant complaints once or twice and pretend you are busy doing your work and too occupied to give a damn about the things going wrong, and you see the difference yourself. Trust us, this trick really helps you keep from unwanted extra fuss in life. The colleague will also realise when they stop getting any reaction from you or the rest every time they crib.
3. Don’t invest yourself in validating the complaints
At times, things do get unavoidable. So, what do you do in that case? You just smile and nod. The best you can do is to not invest yourself in trying to justify or validate their complaints, because you know it’s not going to serve the cause or make any difference to help improve the situation.
4. Try to keep the conversations limited
This trick helps big time. The less opportunity you give them to interact with you, the more relieved you are from the constant grumbling. You know what we mean right? Talk about matters that are actually important and work related, and keep the conversation really short.
By Idiva
Here we are with a few tips and tricks to tactfully deal with such coworkers without being rude.
1. Try talking to them and make them understand
If their constant cribbing is really bothering you and affecting your focus and performance at work, it’s advisable to have a chat with them about the same. Things are better when communicated. Perhaps, if you try to make them understand how it’s not helping them or the cause anyway and is affecting the rest and putting their morale and confidence down might do the trick.
2. Don’t give any reaction to constant cribbers
If the situation still doesn’t improve, ignorance is bliss. You stop responding to their constant complaints once or twice and pretend you are busy doing your work and too occupied to give a damn about the things going wrong, and you see the difference yourself. Trust us, this trick really helps you keep from unwanted extra fuss in life. The colleague will also realise when they stop getting any reaction from you or the rest every time they crib.
3. Don’t invest yourself in validating the complaints
At times, things do get unavoidable. So, what do you do in that case? You just smile and nod. The best you can do is to not invest yourself in trying to justify or validate their complaints, because you know it’s not going to serve the cause or make any difference to help improve the situation.
4. Try to keep the conversations limited
This trick helps big time. The less opportunity you give them to interact with you, the more relieved you are from the constant grumbling. You know what we mean right? Talk about matters that are actually important and work related, and keep the conversation really short.
By Idiva
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