I did not shade him. I critiqued his acting. But if insist on saying that I shaded him, then so be it.

(I also want to point out that to critique and to criticise are not the same thing)

According to Ramsey’s biography, he was born to a Lebanese father and a Nigerian mother from Ondo state in Nigeria. And he was born and bred in Lagos.

He never went to school abroad, lived abroad, or worked abroad.

And, even though his father was a foreigner, he wasn’t rich enough to enrol him in foreign schools in Nigeria. This is also why Ramsey struggled to further his education and had to begin acting to raise the necessary funds.

The man was 100% Nigerian-made.

So, where did he get his accent?

I wrote Aba because that was the distribution centre for Nigerian home videos back in the day. Or maybe I should have written Onitsha instead, as in 51, Iweka road, Onitsha. But I doubt that would have stopped you from saying that I shaded him.

These same people also claim that Ramsey was a better actor than Majid. 

Sorry, but I beg to differ.

If as an actor you cannot act any role that is given to you, then you are not a good actor. You are mediocre at best.

In his prime, Ramsey only shone when he was playing the city lover boy or the well-to-do/educated bachelor or married man. Because those were the roles that fit his aesthetics and accent.

Any time he stepped out of those roles - which he barely did - he was not believable. 

In those days we would say, “This role nor fit am”. 

Moreover, it’s funny that these same people agreed that Majid could act any role and in the same breath want to argue that Ramsey who couldn’t drop his phoney to act the village boy was a better actor. 

Can’t you see your bias? And the easy pass you give to mediocrity?

No wonder our storylines have barely evolved. And that little growth is thanks to social media and globalisation. If it were left for the average Nigerian consumer, we’d still be stuck at movies where Patience Ozokwor brings a village girl into her son’s matrimonial home because his wife hasn’t conceived yet. Or where Rita Dominic enters prison with one wig and spends 18 years there still wearing that same wig. Or where a maiden from the 1800s has acrylic nails.

To make matters worse, Nigerian movie makers have indentified the existence of this bias and are milking it.

For example, Toyin Abraham’s movies are terrible and have no business being released in theatres but she does it anyway because she knows that her hardcore fans will go and watch them.

Was it not Mercy Aigbe that released a movie last year and the people who paid to go and see it started complaining afterwards that the movie was terrible and more suitable for YouTube? 

Tomorrow, you will still use your hard-earned money to go and buy tickets to watch one low-budget movie by with your fave and starring your faves and start crying afterwards that you wasted your money.

With that being said, Ramsey could have been a great actor. In fact, he could have been a legend but he never became so. And he never did because he never stepped out of his comfort zone. All he did was act the same role over and over again in different formats and settings.

The only reason we remember him today is because he was in A LOT of movies: in fact hundreds of them. Plus he is fine man. But talent wise? Sorry, but he was not close to being among the best.

And if Beverly Naya and Osas Ighodaro insist on following the same path and holding on to an accent that does not allow them to merge with the character fully, they will end up with the same legacy: remembered for appearing in plenty of movies but not for their memorable roles.

And if that bothers you, then so be it.

Peace ✌🏽.

 

Every Man irrespective of who they are must read the book by a German writer Esther Villar In her book "The Manipulated Man" 

 

This book has caused outrage and *hostile criticism* from women, it explains how women since the earliest times have manipulated men and turned them into their slaves, they have *pretended* to be the oppressed sex while in the real sense they are the oppressors. 

 

She explains how a woman manipulates a man skillfully by steps like *courtship* and finally *marriage* , hence the saying “ *a man chases a woman until SHE catches him”* .

 

In her book she explains how the man is *tricked* to care for the woman all his life and her offspring. 

 

He rolls the stone like *Sisyphus* and in turn gets rewarded by a few minutes of sexual pleasure. 

 

We can, by observing Esther Villars assertions that a man is a slave of his desires and the woman uses and has used it for thousands of years as a stick and carrot to keep the man chasing vanity and commit his life to serving her.

 

She goes ahead to explain the *rivalry of women* , how each woman feels the powerful urge and need to own a male for herself. 

 

Like a *slave owner* she detests any move the man would make to offer his services to another woman. She uses all means to keep the man to herself and her offspring alone.

 

Esther Villar's sentiments are captured by Nigerian Poet, critic and writer, Chinweizu Ibekwe in his book, “The Anatomy of Female Power” (AFP) and Will Farrel's, “The Predatory Female”. 

 

They all push the theory that all societies are matriarchal and not patriarchal as we are pushed and forced to believe. *Matriarchy has ruled not through brawn but wits and tricks;* women feigning weakness to be protected etc. Thus the male becomes the most exploited sex in human history, (in wars the man is always ready to die for the woman; he has been trained to do that).

 

Chinweizu calls the idea of *dating* and *courtship* , *training* , like that of a horse. It is during this time that a woman having kept the man on a leash by denying him sex and getting him addicted to her by false charms, trains and breaks him to whatever she wants him to become.

 

The marriage celebration becomes a celebration for the *woman and her friends,* and they all congratulate her for having succeeded in getting herself a *slave* . 

 

A man on that *wedding* day waves goodbye to his independence and his coalition of males and commits himself to a *Sisyphean* life, rolling the stone, an act he cannot abandon having *society* and the *government* checking on him and always ready to *jail* , *shame* or *exile* him for absconding his duties of slavery. 

 

Thus the government and society helps the woman in keeping her *slave*(man) in check.

 

Chinweizu gives a narration of how women are trained by older matriarchs to *tame* men. He explains how a man is trained to rely on women by his own mother. 

 

A man is *shamed for cooking* for himself and other domestic chores by his *own mother* who is an agent of the global matriarchal rule.

 

By getting the man to hate *domestic* works and having it enforced by culture which warns men against going into the kitchen, doing *laundry* etc. 

 

The mother trains his son for the woman who will captivate him and when the time comes she takes hold of the man's stomach and by getting the man addicted to her body she holds him by the two, in *bed* and in the *kitchen* . 

 

With those two weapons she manipulates the man and turns him into her plaything.

 

In the “Myth of the Male Power”, Esther Villar's “A Man's Right to the Other Woman”; “The Polygamous Sex”, the authors of those books challenge the narrative that men oppress women, and by detailed research across African, Western and Eastern both in ancient and modern societies, the authors unravel the hidden power of the ruthless matriarchal power that rules the world. 

 

Also Helen E. Fisher did anthropological research of ancient human societies and wrote the book "The Sex Contract, The evolution of human behaviour" 1982. She too came to the conclusion that Marriage is a selfish creation of a Woman, where she uses sex to manipulate a man to take care of her and her offspring. Other male animals do not carry the same burden and responsibility.

 

 *Presidents* , *Emperors* and *Kings* are all puppets of the matriarchy forces that rule the World by pulling the strings from behind the curtains

 

A noble piece which is a must read for every Man under the globe...