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How To Get Your Boyfriends Attention
~7.1 mins read

1. Surprise Him: Walk, Talk, and Dress Like a Diva

Look at any of the popular women's magazines and you will find airbrushed pictures of dazzling divas on one page after another. Such flawless looks may not be possible in real life, but you will make your boyfriend want you more if you manage to pull it off once in a while. Don't confuse this with putting on kilos of makeup and displaying model-like behavior all the time. Just give him a glimpse of what you can transform into if you desired. Your sexy look will be engraved into his mind for a long, long time.

2. Take Charge: Ask Him Out for a Date Once in a While

It is no secret that the 21st-century woman still loves a chivalrous man. However, you'll probably surprise him if you make the first move and ask him out on a date for a change. This could go either way—he could feel relaxed and happy giving you the reins of planning your romantic rendezvous, or he could feel weirdly surprised watching you take charge. Either way, you will get his attention. Reserve the tables, drive him there, drop him off at his home, and look into his eyes as you say "I love you" and kiss him goodnight—do whatever it takes to show him that you can wear the pants, too.

3. Learn a Dance Move

Don't confuse this with learning how to dance—not all of us are comfortable shaking a leg. All you need to do to get your boyfriend's undivided attention is to learn a single dance move and bust it out at the right time. Whether it is a sexy twist or an elegant twirl, make sure to do it when he least expects it. You are likely to see raised eyebrows and a priceless look on his face.

4. Stop Calling Him Those Mushy Names

It's great to call your partner mushy and cute names, but you could risk falling in the "comfort zone" trap if you overdo it. No matter how sensitive your guy is, deep down inside, he is still a guy. He could possibly be turned off if you keep using cute names all the time. Think of how he would want to hear his name from a girl and call him by it often.

5. Put on a Stellar Performance in Bed

Making your guy want you is all about striking the right balance in the world of love, relationships, comfort zones, emotion, sex, pride, and success.
Making your guy want you is all about striking the right balance in the world of love, relationships, comfort zones, emotion, sex, pride, and success. | Source

6. Support Him and Massage His Ego

Ego plays a massive role in a guy's personality, and so does the presence of a supportive partner. Just like you love to lean on his shoulder, make sure that yours is available when he needs one. Be supportive of the things he does and what he believes in. Give him compliments when he is feeling down to give his confidence a slight boost. Slowly but surely, he will be addicted to the kick he gets every time he is with you. And as a bonus, this feeling will make him miss you every time he is away from you.

7. Learn How to Say No

Just like how women may not want to be with men who are pushovers, men will love it if the woman in their arms is not one either. Show him that you know when to put your foot down and say no in both your personal and professional life. Not only will you make him want you more, but he will also have high regard and respect for you as an individual.

8. Focused on Your Own Life and Be Successful

Guys like girls who have focus, whether it is in their studies, sports, career, or any other activity. Show him that you are a woman with dreams, passion, and ambition. Focus on your own life and vigorously pursue whatever you are doing at the moment. Men are naturally attracted to successful women—if you manage to become one, there is little more you will need to do to make him want you more and more.

9. Carry a High Level of Confidence

We all love to hang out with people who are confident and have high levels of self-respect. A confident personality automatically attracts attention and over time, garners respect. Your boyfriend will beam with pride when he walks alongside you.

10. Be Attached, but Don't Be Needy

The best thing about being in love is that you get to share your life with somebody you care about. Being in a relationship itself is all about depending on each other, but things can take a frustrating turn if one partner becomes too needy. Would you like it if you had a possessive boyfriend to deal with? Assuming the answer is no, if you find yourself heavily depending on your guy for just about everything, you should take a time out and give your relationship a fresh twist. Show him that you are an independent person who can get things done on your own.

11. Show Him That You Have a Life of Your Own

It's good to be absorbed in your partner's life and spend hour after hour cuddling and doing all the naughty things a couple is supposed to do. But at the end of the day, people like to be around folks who have a life of their own—partners included. It is fine if you can't talk to him for a few days because you have been busy with a group project at college. It is ok if you chose to skip a date just because you have to stay back at work to finish something on a tight deadline. Making him want you more is all about making him realize that you are a passionate girl who has a fire in her heart and a plan in her head, living life on her own terms.

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How To Say 'I'M SORRY' To Your Partner
~3.8 mins read
Step 1: Be sincere.
There’s nothing worse than hearing I’m sorry and knowing the other person doesn’t mean it—they simply want to bypass whatever tension has arisen in the relationship. But a true apology is one that’s sincere and well thought-out.
“You want an apology to actually carry weight and not just become a throw-away comment or conversation ender,” Ross says. “Sincere apologies are validating and help you let go and move on, but hollow apologies are just momentary filler.”
Step 2: Act quickly.
Once you realize you’ve made a mistake and need to apologize, it’s important to act quickly, says Gabrielle Usatynski, a licensed professional counselor based in Boulder, Colorado.
“Quick repair is a hallmark of successful long-term intimate relationships,” Usatynski says. “The longer you wait to clean up a mess you made with your partner, the more you threaten the well-being of your relationship.”
Step 3: Watch your words.
Word choice is incredibly important when delivering an apology. Using the wrong words can make the entire apology come across as dismissive and insincere, says Caitlin Garstkiewicz, a therapist based in Chicago.
Garstkiewicz says it’s important to use “I” versus “you” statements. For example, instead of saying, “You seem mad at me,” opt for, “I hear you saying that you feel hurt.”
“When we use ‘I,’ we are making a statement of ownership,” Garstkiewicz says. “When we use ‘you,’ it can be perceived as a displacement of responsibility and feel very dismissive to our partner.”
Garstkiewicz also recommends avoiding the words “if” and “but,” as they can also come across as dismissive. For example, saying “I’m sorry if I made you feel that way… ” or “I’m sorry, but you… ” doesn’t feel as genuine as saying, “I’m so sorry I did that and made you feel that way.”
When choosing your words, be as specific as possible. Ross recommends the following phrases to get started:
  • I realize I hurt you by…
  • I misunderstood you and…
  • I understand that…
  • I wish that I had…
  • In the future, I will try to…
  • Step 4: Consider your delivery.
    Words matter, but so does body language, tone, volume and eye contact.
    “A smile, soft expression and gentle tone of voice are all important cues that signal to your partner that you’re non-threatening and truly regret what you did,” Usatynski says. “Words are important, but the best words in the world will not be meaningful if they’re delivered with an angry expression, eye-rolling or a lack of sincerity.”
    Usatynski says the importance of these signals reinforces the fact that apologies should always be done in person—not via text, email or phone call. “Ninety-seven percent of our communication is non-verbal,” she says. “Your partner needs to be able to see your face, your expression and your body language in order to know you are sincere.”
    Step 5: Look for cues you’ve been forgiven.
    When you apologize well, you’ll know it, Usatynski says. You’ll see a noticeable change in your partner’s face and body language that indicates they’re starting to relax. They might take a deep breath, smile a little, give out a sigh of relief or visibly loosen their shoulders.
    Step 6: Be patient.
    If you don’t notice any of the above cues following an apology, there’s a good chance your partner isn’t ready to forgive you right away. And that’s OK.
    If your partner isn’t ready to forgive, you need to figure out why by asking open-ended questions. “Focus on the feelings and the emotional experience, not the content of what happened or who said what,” Ross says.
    Remember that just because your partner isn’t ready to forgive you right away doesn’t mean they’re holding a grudge. “Forgiveness can’t always be immediate,” Ross says. “It has to come after some sort of process you go through together as a couple, and the timeline can vary.”
    Even if you feel irritated or angered by the fact that your partner isn’t ready to forgive you, it’s crucial to not act on these impulses, Garstkiewicz says. Don’t challenge your partner if they aren’t ready to forgive, as this can cause additional hurt instead of putting you on the path to repair.
    “Picture the process of forgiveness like riding a wave,” she says. “The wave can feel unsettling, bumpy and turbulent, and at the same time we can feel content, patient and hopeful. Instead of fighting the wave of forgiveness and the uncomfortable feelings it can create, we can choose to sit with it and understand that the current uncomfortable feelings will not last forever.”

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