There is a perception that tags along with being a man..

The orientation comes with the disillusion and fallacies  that  men are super humans, they  have no emotions, they have a heart of stone, e.t.c

How these are established takes away the reality that stares us in the face. Rather than cry out, a man is encouraged to bottle up his feelings, straighten up his tie, walk headlong and act like he has no cares in the world, while he continues to break down inside.

This narrative continues to put the man in boxed up shell,  as he remains constrained by these standards that he can't possibly attain, afterall, they are humans with real issues, real challenges, real fears, real concerns, and projections.

 

I guess more often, it's the narrative established by the nuances of 'Native intelligence' that misconstrues these realities, then we go ahead in our 'subconcious' to tag men as 'SUPER HUMANS'

 

There is a subtle narrative that is transferred from one generation to the next that goes thus:

 

YOU ARE A MAN OH! MEN DON'T CRY O!

 

I beg to differ, the blood that runs in a man's vein is not pink, is it?

 

The moment women begin to realise that the man is also human, first...then, man..then we might just appreciate that the entire picture goes beyond 'The gender question'

 

Life should be about mutuality...

 

If he talks..listen (Don't be all about 'How he talks- we all have different dispositions, so let's chill..)

 

When he cries..give him a shoulder.(yours, should be the softest he can lie on- quit giving him pillows with rocks)

 

Be his mistress (Lure him- it's allowed..give him a treat in the other room, always make it like you just met him)

 

Quit comparing him with other men.(Trust me, everyone has shortcomings, it's not about the grass on the other side, the question is: Have you pruned yours, lately?🤷🏾‍♀️).

 

Turn off the mic, once in a while* (Just breathe! Talk, don't shout, it helps).

Every woman should identify her man's love and emotional language, from the words he wants to hear to how he wants to hear it. These are a few:

Some men feel loved when you can connect with them intellectually, others connect physically.

Enter a room of people, you will find different connections playing out, this is not farfetched from the various kind of personalities involved.

Avoid throwing words, carelessly..

Your man is not a robot...

Build a wall of confidence around your man

Be ready to introduce him to new horizons that can enhance your relationship beyond the regular routine, by so doing, you would have successfully created spark in your union.

Seek his opinion on matters, regardless of how knowledgeable you claim to be- a man needs to know his place in your life.

By and By, take baby steps to understand your man, better.

You will be amazed what you've been missing!

 

...E PLUS The Storyteller

(Creative Writing Skills, Visual Art Communication, Blogging, Voice Over, Content Creator and Storytelling)

 

Still looking outside the window, Brenda could see people walking down the pathway, and whilst she couldn't come to terms with her reality, she wondered why life had become so cruel to her, as tears ran down her cheek, she held on firmly to her head and shook uncontrollably, turning away and heading for the couch. And as soon as Brenda settled down, slowly she laid her back on the couch, closed her eyes and began to reflect.

 Suddenly, a voice called out...

"Brenda! We have so much to write about, let's be on our way!" Brenda shook her head in dismay.

"I'm not sure... definitely not today." Brenda whispered, her eyes still closed.

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So, your world is spinning and looks like you are losing grip of everything, including yourself! Nothing seem to make any sense as your heart continues to pound and you are constantly swamped by the unending grief of the moment, heavy with anxiety and as far as you are concerned, it's all over! 

The fun memories, the exciting moments, and even Writing as a passion is all over! Or so you think! Because every time you attempt putting down words, the grief takes over, and your heart continues to scream! Words have become your greatest challenge with your nose stuck in oblivion, and for a second, you ponder if you will ever write again, if you will ever follow your passion????????

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Every moment, every stage, and every phase in life is a defining experience, what you make of it is part of the 'Unfolding Story' (Good, bad, ugly, beautiful) even in your briefing moments, your reactions, your responses are all part of the narrative that play out in the course of event with lessons, themes, sub themes, so when you don't feel your best, write about it, feel free to express it, even in  silence your heart still speaks -Nothing beats the ingenuity of an #unscripted plot!

Don't be afraid of telling your #story just the way it is, eventually the dots will connect to more interesting series ahead.

YOUR SILENCE IS A STORY

YOUR GRIEF IS A STORY

THE DOWN SIDES TO LIFE IS A STORY

THE PROGRESS IS A STORY

There have been no better time to write, put down every bit of your experience, not worrying about how it looks, rather focus on the details that reflects the reality of the moment.

Being able to continue writing in the midst of grief/anxiety...Written by E PLUS The Storyteller.??