Are you currently contemplating a tough decision?

Making a tough decision is a brutal process, especially when it feels like your entire life is going to change because of it.

What if I choose the wrong path? And there is no going back?

I don’t want to regret not doing something or doing something I will regret.

The process of choosing can be so painful that it prevents you from deciding at all. You’d rather be stuck in limbo, waiting for someone to make a decision for you or until you get to a breaking point, hitting rock bottom where there are no choices left.

Whether you’re deciding to switch jobs, start your life with someone, have kids, move across the country, you will only experience one choice.

Think of the decisions you’ve made in the past and how each of them led to something else.? Every moment you have lived thus far has led you to this moment, sitting here, reading this blog post, to this sentence.

Period.

Take a few seconds to marinate in that thought.

Time moves forward, consecutively, without stopping.

Then make a decision. There is no right or wrong life decisions, only a decision. You will never be able to experience the exact path that you did not take, even if you decide to choose it after the fact.

Time would have passed; people would have changed.

Environments would have evolved; social landscapes would have transformed.

And most importantly, you would have changed.

Reflect on who you were a month ago, a year ago, 5 years ago…how have you changed?

But really, it doesn’t matter what choice you choose.

Regret is for those who don’t want to or believe they can’t learn from the past.?

The one thing that is certain will happen

During life changes like getting married, getting divorced, starting a relationship, ending one, leaving a job, starting one, moving to a new city…you get to see the true colours of people. It’s like a litmus test for filtering out the authentic relationships from the inauthentic ones.

Be bold! Be brave! Make those scary life decisions. ?

Those who support you and want you to shine will be there, cheering you on. ?Those who can’t stay for your metamorphosis are only holding you back.?
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You do you and your true tribe will appear.

The terms compatibility and chemistry are often used interchangeably, but they’re not the same thing. A lot of people use the words loosely to try to define that thing which exists in the space between two people—the unspeakable and unseen connection (or lack thereof). But they’re not the same thing at all, and understanding the difference is crucial if you want a happy, healthy, and long-term relationship.

Compatibility is the natural alignment of lifestyle choices and values of two people. A youth minister and a drug dealer are probably incompatible and I doubt many end up dating each other.

If I value women who are intelligent and educated and I meet a high school dropout who is attracted to guys who have big muscles and like to hunt deer, then we have a fundamental incompatibility that will probably never be overcome and we will never date one another. At least, not for long.

Compatibility is about the long-term potential of two people. High compatibility comes from similarities in lifestyles and values. Generally speaking, educated liberal people usually date other educated and liberal people. Hedonists usually date other hedonists. Insane religious nuts usually date other insane religious nuts.2

Chemistry is made up of subtle behaviors and dispositions that mesh with behaviors and dispositions of the other person. What’s created is a kind of closed karmic loop in which chemistry is felt by both parties equally. The most important rule about chemistry is that whatever you’re feeling, he or she is most likely feeling the same way. You almost become empaths with one another.

The artist Alex Grey once said, “True love is when two people have pathologies that complement one another.” He was only half-joking.

High levels of chemistry usually come from opposite yet complementary qualities in people. A woman who is highly-strung, energetic, and slightly neurotic will tend to have a high degree of chemistry with a guy who is relaxed, mellow, and open. Introverts often have natural chemistry with extroverts. People who are orderly and intense planners sometimes work best with people who are spontaneous and unorganized.

Unlike a lack of compatibility, a lack of chemistry doesn’t repel—it simply results in a lack of emotional intensity. Things just feel kind of dead and boring.

Chemistry is also reflected in the bedroom. A lack of chemistry will mean boring, emotionless sex. A high degree of chemistry will mean intense, life-altering, heart-pounding sex that causes your mind to cosmically splatter itself on the walls of your consciousness. Good times.