My roommate broke my phone because of a little misunderstanding between us. My phone was my everything. Since ASUU strike started, I was using my phone to create content, write blog posts,manage pages, and also do other online jobs to get paid.

As a student, I went hungry on some nights just to save to buy the phone. I bought it for 95,000 naira. I went for that grade because of the kind of jobs I was getting. 

I was using it to get jobs that were sustaining me. He knew this. Sometimes it's the money I made from working for people that we fed on. Yet, he chose to break my phone. 

We had a little misunderstanding and he threatened to break my phone. When the argument became heated, he went to where I plugged the phone, unplugged, and smashed it beyond repair. He knows how important my phone is to me, not just me, but us. I never expected that from him. Now I will have to use the money I'm saving to buy a laptop to learn coding, to buy another phone. 

All that kept coming to my mind at that point was how to revenge and fight back.

I noticed that the more I tried, the more broken and damaged I became. It was really a hard time for me. I was going through a lot of pain and I was losing myself.

At some point, I couldn't fight it anymore. All I wanted at that time was to get myself back. I wanted my normal life back but with all the bitterness and quest for revenge that had built up in me,I couldn't. I kept failing.

My last option was to forgive and let go of everything. It was really hard, but I encouraged myself to do it. I forgave and let go of everything that caused me pain. 

I let go of that pain,let go of the anger and hatred. I pray that God provides for me."-

#Lagos

Two of my friends have advised me several times to have kids and forget about marriage because women of this generation do not have good character, but I have refused to listen to them.

I met this lady on Facebook. She is in Nursing school in the East and will graduate in November. She will be 25years old in November while I will be 40years old in September. I told her I'd be coming home for Christmas. I will also organize a remembrance party for my late parents and brother, and open my house this Christmas.

She asked me my age and when I told her, she said I was too old for her. I tried convincing her that age is just a number and besides, older men are more caring in marriage.

I have been assisting her with money to feed in school even though I have not met her in person, but I've seen her through video calls.

I am beginning to think that what my friends told me is the reality and it would be best to follow their advice. I may just have kids and when they're old enough, I'll bring them over to join me if I am still living abroad. 

I get discouraged by the day, but I will wait till the end of the year to make a decision. "