Sex is not just about the man alone, women too have sexual needs. Failing to acknowledge this has led to many women feeling sexually starved and frustrated. What do you do as a wife when your husband doesn't last an erection, doesn't make love to you to your satisfaction, thinks only about his sexual needs or doesn't make love to you as often?

1. DON'T CHEAT: Do not break your marriage just because you are looking for an orgasm. Another man's penis cannot compare to the full package of your husband.

2. PRAISE HIS PENIS: A man is most vulnerable when he lets you have his penis. When you make him feel good about it, he will sexually approach you with confidence. It is an ego thing.

3. MASTER HIS PENIS AND BODY: Different men have different sensation points. Study his body to make his arousal maximum so that he uses it to give you pleasure.

4. BUILD FRIENDSHIP AND NON-SEXUAL INTIMACY: Love making is easier, sweeter and more intense when you two have a strong emotional connection. Don't be strangers who only come together for sex.

5. SPEND MORE TIME TOGETHER: The more quality time, the more sex.

6. FLIRT WITH HIM OVER THE PHONE: When you randomly flirt with each other, you heighten your sexual compatibility.

7. CHECK IF HE HAS A HISTORY OF MASTURBATION: A man who has engaged in alot of porn and or masturbation might struggle to hold an erection or, his mind might register pleasure as that got using his hand, not a vagina. Tell him "Honey, you have me, keep your hand away from the penis that I am to satisfy".

8. HAVE THE SEX TALK: Be safe and free with each other to talk about anything sexual.

9. AVOID MASTURBATION: Masturbation will take your concentration away from your husband making you need him less.

10. ATTEND TO HIS SEXUAL FANTASIES: When you cater to him, he will be more responsive to cater to you. Don't be that woman who just lies naked in bed wanting to be done.

11. REVEAL TO HIM THE SECRETS OF YOUR BODY: You are the one who knows how you like pleasure served. Tell him how to please you.

12. KNOW THAT SOME WOMEN TAKE LONG TO GET TO THE O ZONE: Know your body. Some women take long to get wet or even get to an orgasm. If you are that kind of a woman, make him feel good and compliment what he does to you and in your body to encourage him.

13. DON'T ENTERTAIN OTHER MEN:

Once your husband perceives or knows you are giving attention to other men or another man, he will be less interested to make love to you.

14. AVOID STRESSING HIM: Sex starts in the mind. When you give your husband no peace, constantly complain and give him pressure, his penis will find it difficult to get hard for you or even want you.

15. SEDUCE HIM: Be sexually assertive. Don't just wait for him to make a move, he is there to satisfy you. When you're in the mood, let him know he is needed for service.

16. DON'T PLAY MIND GAMES: Don't fake a headache, bang doors, lie you are on your periods, act like you don't need him and push him away today then the next day you want him to make passionate love to you. Some wives confuse their husbands with their hot then cold behaviour.

17. COMMUNICATE YOUR NEEDS AND DESIRES: He is not a mind reader, let him know what is on your mind.

18. WORK ON YOUR FOREPLAY AND HINDPLAY TOGETHER: Foreplay is the art of building up pleasure before sexual intercourse through touching, rubbing, licking, sucking or whatever does it for you as a couple. Hindplay is how you two make each other feel special after the climax through cuddling, kissing, a prayer or words of affection. This makes love making memorable.

19. DON'T MOCK HIM OR EMBARASS HIM TO YOUR FRIENDS: Never attack your husband's sexual ability or the size or look of his penis to himself or to others, this will discourage him in bed.

20. DON'T MOCK OTHER MEN GOING THROUGH WHAT HE IS GOING THROUGH: When you attack men who don't last as long in bed, he will see it as an indirect attack on him.

21. LEARN TO HELP HIM RELAX AND HOLD AN ERECTION: Some men just need a little help to control the excitement of an incoming orgasm. Teach him to control the muscles in his penis by pausing the pumping action or withdrawing when he feels an orgasm is coming.

22. STOP OVERTHINKING: You might be difficult to please sexually because when your husband is making love to you, you are busy thinking about whether your vagina is tight enough, whether your breasts are that attractive, whether your vagina has a foul smell, whether your children have done their homework, whether you gave your boss that very important file or whether your favourite supermarket still has that sale on the ceramic plates. Relax

and enjoy being pleasured.

23. SEEK COUNSELLING: This will help you two to understand each other better. Counseling takes couples through a guide including sex quiz for husbands and wives to help couples nourish their intimacy.

24. BE PATIENT: Sex is an art, and practice make perfect. In marriage, two different bodies are coming together to know each other. The sex today may not be so great, but as you patiently interact physically, sexually, emotionally, mentally and spiritually, it will get better. 

Don't panic.

Sex not only feels good. It can also be good for you. Here’s what a healthy sex life can do for you.

1. Helps Keep Your Immune System Humming

“Sexually active people take fewer sick days,” says Yvonne K. Fulbright, PhD a sexual health expert.

People who have sex have higher levels of what defends your body against germs, viruses, and other intruders. Researchers at Wilkes University in Pennsylvania found that college students who had sex once or twice a week had higher levels of the a certain antibody compared to students who had sex less often.

You should still do all the other things that make your immune system happy, such as:

Eat right.

Stay active.

Get enough sleep.

Keep up with your vaccinations.

Use a condom if you don’t know both of your STD statuses.

2. Boosts Your Libido

Longing for a more lively sex life? “Having sex will make sex better and will improve your libido,” says Lauren Streicher, MD. She is an assistant clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Northwestern University’s Feinberg School of Medicine in Chicago.

For women, having sex ups vaginal lubrication, blood flow, and elasticity, she says, all of which make sex feel better and help you crave more of it.

3. Improves Women's Bladder Control

A strong pelvic floor is important for avoiding incontinence, something that will affect about 30% of women at some point in their lives.

Good sex is like a workout for your pelvic floor muscles. When you have an orgasm, it causes contractions in those muscles, which strengthens them.

4. Lowers Your Blood Pressure

Research suggests a link between sex and lower blood pressure, says Joseph J. Pinzone, MD. He is CEO and medical director of Amai Wellness.

“There have been many studies,” he says. “One landmark study found that sexual intercourse specifically (not masturbation) lowered systolic blood pressure.” That's the first number on your blood pressure test.

5. Counts as Exercise

“Sex is a really great form of exercise,” Pinzone says. It won’t replace the treadmill, but it counts for something.

Sex uses about five calories per minute, four more calories than watching TV. It gives you a one-two punch: It bumps up your heart rate and uses various muscles.

So get busy! You may even want to clear your schedule to make time for it on a regular basis. “Like with exercise, consistency helps maximize the benefits,” Pinzone says.

6. Lowers Heart Attack Risk

A good sex life is good for your heart. Besides being a great way to raise your heart rate, sex helps keep your estrogen and testosterone levels in balance.

“When either one of those is low you begin to get lots of problems, like osteoporosis and even heart disease,” Pinzone says.

Having sex more often may help. During one study, men who had sex at least twice a week were half as likely to die of heart disease as men who had sex rare.