Coming from an angle where things are hardly seen or heard, the ghetto where i reside, "Nobody sees or hears anything' so many outrageous criminal offense the government doesn't know about and we're clamouring for a better Nigeria?

 

 Actions that kills Nigeria is the amount of Negative words we speak daily without weighing it. Many times my friends speak of how terrible things are, the uncomfortable nature of provisions, and basic amenities for livelihood, makes them end up saying "Nigeria no be better country" "Nigeria no fit good again"

 

To be sincere, I have fallen victim to saying such things but looking at it, my heart wishes things were better, so i tell them to speak positive things to Nigeria, rather say " Nigeria will be better" " Nigeria just needs to wake up" "Nigeria is responsible for my wellbeing and it wont make me uncomfortable" 

 

Endeavor to keep Nigeria clean and neat always, make sure you little surrounding looks that "Yankee" or "ogbodoyinbo' you've been wishing to travel to, avoid throw objects outside your vehicle or even on public properties, rather look for a trash bin and if you don't find any, put it in your pocket for a while, that way, we're building an environmental friendly Nigeria free from hazards and little did you know that the biscuit wraps you throw carelessly is also capable of carelessly blocking the drainage ? 

 

The eyes of the government are the citizen, therefore report to the police at any given opportunity case that might be harmful to either your society or the country at large. Let's play our part right as citizens, we're not divided Nigerians, we're one.

I for one could personally relate with this because growing up as a creative teenager made me feel a whole lot of emotions. From seeking love where ever i could get it to losing my confidence, I slowly slipped into depression because it felt as tho nobody understood where i was coming from. Sometimes I would listen to music on the radio or surf the internet to ease my never ending worries, trying hard to get rid of my emotions, every night felt darker that the previous night and them my hormones became really active. I wanted to feel touched differently, i wanted it so bad. It took over me completely.

I remember vividly seeing a the opposite sex on the internet for the first time. That was on a Sunday night. My mother didn't let us have phones at an early age so she rather would give us her phone to browse and do assignments with till and ad with a naked body jumped up. Out of curiosity, i clicked on it and there it was in full. ( well my brother caught me that night and i was dumbfounded😂😂😂😂😂 ) 

 It aroused me so bad i wanted more. I remember how I would tell my friends about what i watched last night and how it made me feel, of course they too did the things i saw as exciting and it went on and on. From skipping classes to watch pornography to becoming an addict, sexualizing the skirts in school, it felt right to me but deep down, i was in pain.  Being in conflict with myself everytime never felt peaceful.

And then the family at home. Everytime i went home, I felt everyone went against what i wanted.. I mean, sagging my pants to dreading my hair and flying my collars, i went totally irresponsible. So i locked myself up, avoiding everybody just to please myself for the moment... Soon it reflected in my results. I slipped from 3rd to 16th to the last number in the class. I withdrew from my family because i didn't see the love. I remember one time i told my mother i was going to run away from the house, she took a pause and looked me in the eye and said "when you're ready, let me know because i need to cook" 

Apparently she knew i was just having my teen years and i just needed time to heal. 

When i look back now, i just laugh at the silly old me.  

In all of this, i just needed the right set of people to talk to. 

My school organized a seminar highlighting Teenagers and issues we are most likely going to face.. Oh lord, it was as if the speaker knew me from scratch. He spoke in detail everything that he went through and for a second I could relate so well. 

At the end of the seminar i felt too shy to meet him in person so i asked for the tape. After that day, i totally forgot all that was said and slipped back to my normal self. But then, it was like i could hear his voice over and over again, more like hos voice saying "there's a better me behind messing up"... So i took that phrase and channelled it positively. Instead of being so worried, i took a look at the mirror to admire the fine young man i was becoming, i would challenge myself to write lyrics even if my voice sounded like a crying frog, I stopped talking to the friends that highlighted porn as a "big boy doings" and spoke to people about what they were facing at home and if i could be of any help. By encouraging them, i felt at peace with myself. Maybe this is the better me Mr. Speaker saw. 

Many Teenagers in my shoes are facing a lot of societal problems, some even running faster than their shadows, peer pressure really affecting our teenagers. Some are losing inspiration to their future ambitions, the streets are taking over the teenagers.

According to statistics, the modern society shows that there a lot of problems, especially problems related with teenagers. A lot of factors come into play in this situation. For example, some teenagers felt lack of love from their parents so they turn to drugs for help to feel "alive"  

Drugs between teenagers is the most serious problem, because it causes a change in the behavior of any person and a physical change too. Most of the teenagers used them as an escape from their problems or sometimes they used them because of their friend's influence.

Alcoholism is a society's sickness that affects all people, from teenagers to older ones. I remember my first alcohol, i felt i was a bug boy and i just wanted more. 

It is consider as a modern way to have fun and if you drink alcohol you are accepted between your "friends"

Slowly it was killing me.

People who drink alcohol think that they can forget their problems and go out from reality if they do that. But the truth is it is very bad to drink alcohol because it can turn in an addiction and when a person drinks, he or she isn't in their 5 felts to take any decision. 

Another problem is the prostitution. Most teenagers have to do this because they don't find a good job and they need money to do a lot of things. With this problem they can became sick with diseases. Another consequence can be teen pregnancy because they don't have a good education and they don't know way to carry themselves.

What do we do to help Teenagers? 

Correct them in love regardless of how they might appear. Do not forget we all went through the phase. So do not cast them away, rather draw them close to you. 

Get involved with the things they love to do as well, as long as it's not illegal. 

Be creative with them as well. 

Just like i needed help then, i wanted someone to see my creative side, someone who would invest in me, but nobody was there to help me. 

We can do a lot of saving if we believe in our teenagers today. 

Remember, they're the leaders of tomorrow, and we need to secure our today to have a better tomorrow. !!

Thanks for reading.