I have an issue that's really bothering me. It's bothering me so much that it's what's keeping me awake at this time of the night. I had to create a new account to post this because I want to keep my identity hidden since some Nairalanders already know my other account.

I'm currently in a relationship with a guy I've been friends with for a while. We are both university undergraduates. We've been dating for almost 7 months. I'm still a virgin. The reason I agreed to date my boyfriend is because I enjoy his company and I wanted to preserve our friendship. It's kinda complicated. I'm not ready for sex and he understands.

Few months ago, I met another guy who is also an undergraduate. He's very interesting and very good looking. I'm very sexually attracted to him. He told me he likes me, but hasn't asked me out. Whenever we are together, he is fond of flirting with me, telling me how sexy I look, touching me, and grabbing my ass. The last time we were together he even squeezed my breasts. I told him that he should stop because I'm sensitive to his touch, which is actually the case. I already told him that I can't date him because he doesn't look like the type to stick to one girl for a long time. My statement didn't even faze him and he responded that he doesn't do relationships because he gets bored easily.

He always tells me how he'll like to have sex with me and the things he'll do to me. He doesn't even seem bothered that I have a boyfriend and never brings it up. He has invited me over to his place once and I declined because I don't know if I'll be able to control myself being alone in his apartment and I don't want to cheat on my boyfriend.

The problem is sometimes this guy just ghosts me for days and sometimes he doesn't even reply my texts, then out of nowhere he'll return and act all flirty and touchy. Our friendship is affecting my relationship with my boyfriend. I'm becoming more attracted to this new guy and I'm not comfortable.

I'm thinking of blocking his number and ceasing communication with him. Is this the right step to take? I'm confused and I don't know what to do.

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I'll make it straight and simple...

I met this girl age 22 some months ago, she said she had a crush on me since her childhood, we got talking but I wasn't really giving her the green light in her defence so she got close to my friend within that same month of meeting me (online due to Covid-19)..things didn't work out between them, I met a friend of hers and we got talking which made her jealous but honestly nothing is going on between us..

now the main wahala started about a month ago when I got to know her for real, she loves me thou and I have equally fallen in love with her but don't want to show it too much to avoid being heartbroken or used. I was talking with her and found out she has slept with about 10 guys and had three abortions at just 22 yrs, now this is scary for me cos i have had sex once after which I promise to keep it clean till I find the person I was going to spend the rest of my life with( to avoid Baby mama or having a kid raised by a single parent)...she also made mention of sleeping with men for money and that got me mad cos I don't think sex should be all a lady has to offer.

She apologized for all she said and did in the past and I forgave her sincerely cos I know life wasn't easy for her. I think everyone deserves a second chance, even Hosea was asked to marry a prostitute, Mary Magdalene was a repentant LovePeddler and so on.

I'm madly in love with her and want to relocate to the u.s or Canada with her to start a family.. I'm 27 yrs, I make a decent income for myself, I have a small business, I'm good looking, and think is time to settle down.

My fear is will she run back to men in my absence or when I don't have the money?

Will she be a good mother to our kids?

Will she be a good wife?

Will she leave me?

Am I making the right decision? Etc.

We're currently not in talking terms cos I need some time alone to think or even get over her but I'm honestly in love with her.

Please read and advice him in the comments section.

THANK YOU