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10 Was To Control Your Sexual Temperament
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When someone confesses or is caught in an affair one of the first things they say is something to this affect, “I didn’t mean it.†Or “She/he meant nothing to me.†In other words they end up in a place they never wanted to be. Most people don’t set out to cheat on their spouse. It all starts small. It begins with a thought that goes uncontested, perhaps even nurtured into a fantasy. Those thoughts grow into an attitude and then the attitude grows into a disposition. That disposition erodes boundaries and clouds our sense of right and wrong.
This is difficult for most men. Our DNA is pre-loaded with the strong instinct to feel attraction and desire, yet life and morality demand that we are able to control those instincts. So how do we do that? For the sake of our marriages, relationships, or just spiritual well-being, we need to be able to find the answer. You are in a battle against sexual temptations and it’s important to win early. Here are 10 ways to battle sexual temptation.
Winning early means staying away from traps. The last thing you want to do is find yourself alone with the object of your unhealthy desires, whether it is images or actual people. If contact with that person is a must, then make sure it is always in a public space and others are around. Set boundaries surrounding your phone, the computer, and TV. Find a partner who is willing to help you with accountability.
While pondering the object of your desire, also ponder the consequences of action. Is it going to help or hurt your marriage? How would your wife respond if she knew? Think about where your actions can lead and then imagine your wife finding out. Do you want to deal with the fallout? Always think of the end game. Where do you want to be? Are your thoughts and actions leading you there?
Besides the obvious reasons that avoiding porn will help guard against lust, there are psychological reasons as well. They can’t possibly live up to what is viewed, and would we even want them to? This pushes the focus of your sexual desires outside of the home and can only lead to paths of destruction.
There are many benefits of social media, but there are just as many pitfalls. We are reunited with people from our past and introduced to those who are new. Old sparks can be renewed or new ones can be lit. For a married man, this can be extremely perilous. Always remain alert to true intentions when using social media.
Most times, when our minds wander sexually, we aren’t really seeking pure sex. We are seeking to replace something missing in our lives and our relationships. It could also be that we are trying to distract ourselves from dealing with something difficult. For each man, these things will be specific to his experiences. Figure out the root issue and work to correct it.
Prayer is the act of communicating your thoughts, worries, hopes and dreams to God. Lift up the desires you are feeling and ask for help. God made you and knows you and can deliver you time and time again.
When battling sexual temptation, there are plenty of people we can find that will encourage and enable it. You can still be their friend, but by all means, avoid joining them in their poor relational choices.
To be a gentleman is a choice. A very good choice, and this world today needs many more. Despite the vast amount of temptations that life throws our way, we should hold ourselves to the highest of moral standards. Self-discipline in all areas of our life leads to positive results.
Rather than being controlled by untamed lust, direct that passion in positive directions. Use that energy to brainstorm about ways you can bless your wife. Perhaps focus on things that will make the world better like volunteering at a homeless shelter. Coach a youth sports team. Mentor troubled individuals.
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Colley
HOW I FELL IN LOVE WITH MY EX GIRLFRIEND
~2.2 mins read
Hello friends! I'll like to talk to you guys on how I fell in love with my ex girlfriend and I will discuss with you all later how we separated follow me up to know what happened..
Her name Is Gift..
It all started when I was walking down the street of my area, I saw her with her friends talking and gisting. I was approaching tham and they also; we were steering at each other from a distance apart before we passed each other, I continued to turn to see her I didn't know that she was doing the same until we turned back together and had eye contact.. we quickly turned so as not to know that we both turned.. It was a very nice experience..
Later I was with my own friends and I told them about the girl and they were anxious to see her but I don't know where she lives we only saw ourselves once..
As we were walking she was passing through the other way and I saw her immediately and called my friends to see her..they saw her and admired her..
They persuaded me to go and talk to her but I was afraid because I have never approached a lady before to tell her how I feel..(but I am free with ladies that is female friends).
They were persuading me until she turned to our direction and saw me with my friends, I pretended as if I did not see her till she passed.
So my friends suggested that we follow her to know where she lives, we all followed her till we got to where she lives then we left and to my surprise in was the house behind mine..
Some days were gone we still saw each other but klno one has the courage to meet each other although I saw the love in her eyes anytime she looks at me.
I summoned courage and express my feelings to her I was afraid that I will get a negative reply but she said that she fell in love with me the very first day she saw me while she was walking with her friends..
I was happy to hear that, she was steering at me until she said "I love you David and I will be your girlfriend" immediately she hugged me as if she missed me and has not seen me for a very long time...
I was happy and I promised not to break her 💓 heart.
We were lovers and shared what we had in common..
One thing I told her was I am not a sex type and I would love a relationship without sex ; she was surprised and shocked and she accepted..
We continue to be lovers and happy.
This happened on the 2 of February 2018.
Along the way something happened..
Follow me up to get part 2
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