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10 Was To Control Your Sexual Temperament
~3.8 mins read
When someone confesses or is caught in an affair one of the first things they say is something to this affect, “I didn’t mean it.†Or “She/he meant nothing to me.†In other words they end up in a place they never wanted to be. Most people don’t set out to cheat on their spouse. It all starts small. It begins with a thought that goes uncontested, perhaps even nurtured into a fantasy. Those thoughts grow into an attitude and then the attitude grows into a disposition. That disposition erodes boundaries and clouds our sense of right and wrong.
This is difficult for most men. Our DNA is pre-loaded with the strong instinct to feel attraction and desire, yet life and morality demand that we are able to control those instincts. So how do we do that? For the sake of our marriages, relationships, or just spiritual well-being, we need to be able to find the answer. You are in a battle against sexual temptations and it’s important to win early. Here are 10 ways to battle sexual temptation.
Winning early means staying away from traps. The last thing you want to do is find yourself alone with the object of your unhealthy desires, whether it is images or actual people. If contact with that person is a must, then make sure it is always in a public space and others are around. Set boundaries surrounding your phone, the computer, and TV. Find a partner who is willing to help you with accountability.
While pondering the object of your desire, also ponder the consequences of action. Is it going to help or hurt your marriage? How would your wife respond if she knew? Think about where your actions can lead and then imagine your wife finding out. Do you want to deal with the fallout? Always think of the end game. Where do you want to be? Are your thoughts and actions leading you there?
Besides the obvious reasons that avoiding porn will help guard against lust, there are psychological reasons as well. They can’t possibly live up to what is viewed, and would we even want them to? This pushes the focus of your sexual desires outside of the home and can only lead to paths of destruction.
There are many benefits of social media, but there are just as many pitfalls. We are reunited with people from our past and introduced to those who are new. Old sparks can be renewed or new ones can be lit. For a married man, this can be extremely perilous. Always remain alert to true intentions when using social media.
Most times, when our minds wander sexually, we aren’t really seeking pure sex. We are seeking to replace something missing in our lives and our relationships. It could also be that we are trying to distract ourselves from dealing with something difficult. For each man, these things will be specific to his experiences. Figure out the root issue and work to correct it.
Prayer is the act of communicating your thoughts, worries, hopes and dreams to God. Lift up the desires you are feeling and ask for help. God made you and knows you and can deliver you time and time again.
When battling sexual temptation, there are plenty of people we can find that will encourage and enable it. You can still be their friend, but by all means, avoid joining them in their poor relational choices.
To be a gentleman is a choice. A very good choice, and this world today needs many more. Despite the vast amount of temptations that life throws our way, we should hold ourselves to the highest of moral standards. Self-discipline in all areas of our life leads to positive results.
Rather than being controlled by untamed lust, direct that passion in positive directions. Use that energy to brainstorm about ways you can bless your wife. Perhaps focus on things that will make the world better like volunteering at a homeless shelter. Coach a youth sports team. Mentor troubled individuals.
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Colley
Disadvantage Of Early Marriage
~3.7 mins read
Getting Married At A Young Age Has More Disadvantages Than Advantages.
nilambari (39)in #usefull • 3 years ago
It is a trend in Malaysia for young couples from the age of 18 to 22 years old to get married. An early marriage force an individual to enter a new different and challenging life. It is not surprising when many people do not support early marriage as it drawbacks destroy two lives. I agree that marrying at a young age has more disadvantages than advantages. Getting married at an early age has more disadvantages to young couples due to the lack of parenting skills, deprivation of their youth and financial difficulties.
The first disadvantage of marrying early is lack of parenting skills are they are young parents. Bringing up children is a heavy responsibility. Therefore, young parents face difficulties to bring up their children as they have inadequate knowledge of child care. A young mother may not know how to be a successful mother as she does not know how to bring up her child. A young father may find it overwhelming to care for a wife and a child. So as young parents, they will be unable to provide appropriate adequate care for their child. They are many child cases of abuse due to the parent"s immaturity to handle the challenges of raising up their children. They will need their parents to assist them to care for their child.
The second disadvantage of marrying early is the marriage deprives of their youth. Being married forces them to be responsible at a young age where it will deprive them of their youth. They cannot learn and experiment with life as the young husband had to work to care for his family. Meanwhile, the young age wife has to care for her family and take care of the house. Some of the young couples are studying and hardworking at the same time. They will not have a normal life another young couple who are still single. How could they have time to learn about each other and develop a deep understanding of each other? It is only developed when the couple develops maturity and understanding of their environment, and then they would be able to understand themselves as a married couple. If they are not given time, they will definitely face a lack of understanding.
The third disadvantage of getting married early is facing financial difficulties. Raising a family requires a lot of money. A young husband needs to have a permanent job to have adequate finance for his family. A young couple will face financial difficulties if they are not highly educated and face limited job. opportunities. Young married couples are usually still studying or do not have much education. Thus, they depend on their parents for financial loans and emotional support.
In summary, getting married early has many disadvantages such as less knowledge about parenting, less time enjoying their youth and more financial difficulties. I agree that it is unwise for young people to marry early. How can a boy or girl receive proper education if they get married early? It is the responsibility of the parents to ensure their children are properly educated and mature enough to face challenges of a marriage so that they can be successful parents and spouses themselves when the right time comes.
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