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10 Things Ive Learned From A Great Father About What Makes A Good Man
Here are 10 things I’ve learned from an unimaginably resilient father about what really makes a man a man.1. A good man’s heart is a homeMy father is not only a person; he is also a home. Home is where the heart is, and a good man’s heart is a home. His love is built on a strong foundation of trust. It stands the test of time and weathers the worst storms. It is not a temporary, passing residence built on a weak foundation. It is a forever kind of love, built on incredible depth.2. A good man chooses peaceMy father never keeps score. He doesn’t hold grudges, bring up old fights, and open old wounds. A good man chooses his battles wisely. He doesn’t sweat the small stuff. He lets it go because he puts peace before his ego.3. A good man respects womenMy father respects women. He appreciates the nurturing and giving nature of femininity. A good man doesn’t take and expect, he gives back more than he receives. He doesn’t think that showing emotions is a weakness, he appreciates openness and vulnerability.4. A good man puts family firstMy father puts family before his needs and wants. A good man understands the value of personal sacrifice for the well-being of the family. A good man compromises. He priorities his family over professional success and excessive ambition. He always has time for them.5. A good man is emotionally intelligentMy father is emotionally mature. He takes accountability for his problems. A good man admits his own shortcomings. He doesn’t push the blame onto other people. He doesn’t take out his frustrations on his family.6. A good man apologizes for his mistakesMy father always apologizes, if he makes a mistake. Sometimes, even when he isn’t wrong. A good man breaks the ice. He knows that saying sorry doesn’t make him weak.7. A good man is mentally resilientMy father doesn’t crack under pressure. A good man is calm, no matter how bad things get. He is a pillar of strength, a vault of secrets, a ray of light, a beacon of hope. He takes road blocks and difficulties in his stride and approaches them with enthusiasm.8. A good man builds people upMy father has a strong sense of self-worth. He is secure in himself and encourages the rest of the family to have faith in themselves. He encourages independence of thought and supports decisions that he may not necessarily agree with.9. A good man challenges himselfMy father takes risks, he pushes himself and pushes the potential of his family. A good man knows the value of failure. He knows how pain can help personal growth. He is optimistic in the face of adversity.10. A good man gives more than he takesMy father gives too much, and expects nothing. He loves unconditionally. My father has faults too. He isn’t always strong on the inside, even though he appears as if he is. He is just as scared and uncertain as anyone else, but a good man has the courage to face his fears, and protect his familySource: Thoughtcatalogue.comprofile/3690IMG-20200925-WA0011.jpg
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THE KEYSTO A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE
When you're caught up in the excitement of your wedding, it can be hard to imagine that you and your spouse might not live happily ever after. But sharing your life with another person can be a challenge, especially if you don’t have a lot of experience with relationships. Marriages take work, commitment, and love, but they also need respect to be truly happy and successful.
A marriage based on love and respect doesn't just happen. Both spouses have to do their part. Below are some important keys to work on each day to make your marriage successful.
Communicate clearly and oftenTalking with your spouse is one of the best ways to keep your marriage healthy and successful. Be honest about what you're feeling, but be kind and respectful when you communicate. Part of good communication is being a good listener and taking the time to understand what it is your spouse wants and needs from you. Keep the lines of communication open by talking often, and not just about things like bills and the kids. Share your thoughts and feelings.
Tell your spouse that you're thankful for having him or her in your lifeAppreciate each other, your relationship, your family, and your lives together. Show gratitude when your partner cooks dinner, helps the kids with their homework, or does the grocery shopping. It may help to take a few minutes each evening to tell each other at least one thing you appreciated that day.
Make time for you two as a coupleWith work and family responsibilities, it can be easy to lose the romance factor. Plan special dates, either to go out or just stay at home. If you have children, send them on a play date while you relax, talk, and enjoy each other's company.
Plan for some personal timeAlone time is just as important as couple time. Everyone needs time to recharge, think, and enjoy personal interests. That time is often lost when you're married, especially if you have kids. Go out with friends, take a class, or do volunteer work, whatever you find enriching. When you're back together with your spouse, you'll appreciate each other even more.
Understand that it's OK to disagreeYou won't agree on everything, but it is important to be fair and respectful during disagreements. Listen to your spouse's point of view. Try not to get angry and don't let yourself become too frustrated. Walk away and calm down if you need to, then discuss the problem again when you're both in a better frame of mind. Compromise on problems so that you both give a little.
Build trustMarriage therapist and researcher John Gottman, Ph.D., has found that criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling are serious threats to a marriage. The more a couple engages in these destructive activities, the more likely they are to divorce. His decades of research and of working with couples have shown that spouses who stay together know how to fight without being hostile and to take responsibility for their actions. They are also more likely to respond quickly to each other’s wishes to make up after fights and repair the relationship.
Learn to forgiveEveryone makes mistakes. Your spouse may hurt your feelings or do something that upsets you, and that may make you angry, even furious. But it's important to deal with your feelings, let them go, and move on. don’t keep bringing up the past.
Remember to remain committed to your spouse, your family, and the life that you have built together. Support each other emotionally and in everyday ways. You, your spouse, and your relationship may grow and change with time, but these ideas can help your marriage stay successful over the years
