Many men want a wife like Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala.

But are you willing to put in the work?

That is the question.

“My wife is a Neurosurgeon!” you hear the man say, beaming with smiles.

The woman beside him has satisfaction plastered across her beautiful face.

You are tapping into the grace.

But have you asked that man how much work he had to put in, to make that possible?

The nights he had to carry the baby when she was the registrar on call.

The long days when she had 10 hour surgeries and could not drive herself home, thereafter.

The days he came to pick a totally exhausted her up, with the baby on the back seat.

The days he had to remain at home lonely when she had to go for emergency spinal surgeries.

You were not there.

But you see that woman bowing in reverence to that man on whose arms she had leaned through the years and you are tapping into the grace.

You love the way that mountain of a woman worships him. How he is everything to her.

How she keeps saying:

“Wait. Let me ask my husband.”

And you are filled with so much admiration.

What you have not found out yet is what he had to go through to help her become who she is. 

Like James and John who craved to sit beside the Lord in glory, they had no idea what the baptism he had to be baptised with was.

Yet they were tapping.

When Jesus told them:

“Una don enter am!! That baptism enh? Una go baptise am. But to sit beside me, na my Papa go give that one”

They still did not understand what he was saying.

When Herod killed James with the sword, I imagine John saying:

“Chineke Lei! What have I tapped myself into?”

He still shaa entered boiling oil and came out.

Baptism in oil.🤣

So when next you tap into the grace of the Astronaut’s husband, understand that you are tapping into much more.

Ask yourself: “I fit carry?”

If you can’t fit carry, Lekwa that sister that wants to be a housewife and marry her, please.

You will have peace and she will have peace.

Don’t allow longathroat to lead into into Wahala.

SECRET OF A WOMAN.

At one time, a newly married young man was shouting at his 20 years old wife and his father called him aside and said to him, 'We only shout at people our shouts or threats can frighten. But not to your wife. 

The way you are shouting, you are giving away your power to your wife.  Your threats make her stronger. Most men believe that when a woman is threatened, she gets subdued,  but women are not changed with fear.

 A woman may  stay quiet when a man is threatening and shouting at her but she is not sitting down inside her. She is evaluating the man's weakness and how to subdue him rather.

 Cast your mind back to those days men used to  beat their wives flippantly at slightest provocations, today most of  those men are older and they suffering consequences

 Those women their husband were beating years back are the ones enjoying the marriage with their children today, the mothers have their children's sympathy, the men are at the receiving end.

Let it become clear to men that the way into a woman's heart is not to try to threaten and subdue her. God spoke to men and said, 'Husbands, love your wife'. Do you need an elaborate explanation of this scripture? Love makes women weak. When you truly love a woman and show it, she will submit to you without qualms. But when a woman has sensed that she is just like your toy, you just want to use her or you are domineering and controlling, the spirit of rebellion takes over her. She might not physically stand on your way but she is plotting coup against you and one day, you will sit and watch her and her children force you to follow their rules or die quicker.

Almost all the great and fierce kings you know died before their wives. They lived all through their lives threatening their fellow men and wives. They were able to kill most of their strong fellow men but all the women they threatened stayed alive. Women know how to survive against men. 

The 'lion' in men does not scare women or get them to submit to you, it is love that conquers a woman, not force or threats. This might subdue fellow men, but not your wife. Women naturally know how  to survive pains. They can walk to the fearful serpent and make their demands. They have resilient spirit.

There are things women fear but not the lion inside men. They can submit and respect their men so foolishly that you imagine that there is no gut inside them. They have guts men don't have, love your woman into submission.

Men  don't have compatible or cordial relationship with women by showing the lion inside them. God knew women before us and begged that we show love than threats. He gave men the formula, recipe for a blissful, joyous and fulfilled homes, LOVE YOUR WIFE!

This formula of loving your wife will help you win her.  When a woman is loved, you break all her guts and she stays in your hands. A woman can do anything to stay with a man who is honestly in love with Her.

 Talk gently to your wife, love her, pet her, don't shout at her, and you will win her and make your points!

Do not arrogantly display your weakness as a man by shouting.