Gbamutuku Jan 7, 2021 8:45 AM

So there's a girl you've been thinking about lately. Wether at church, or in class, wherever it may be - but you're a shy guy and you don't know what to do.

Well these are the 5 steps to take if you want to win her love.

 

1. Confidence:

You've probably seen the confidence topic like a million times, that's because it's true. The fact is girls don't really care about looks the way they say they do. Everything eventually boils down to confidence - girls are naturally drawn to confident males, someone who will make them feel safe.

Whether you believe me or not, good looks don't matter. Stop telling yourself you're ugly, because that only leads you further down the path of low self esteem. Tell yourself that you matter and that you deserve love.

 

2. Make eye contact:

After you've pulled yourself together and gained your confidence, you have to find a way to make her know that you notice her and that you have a kind of interest.

The way to do this is by making eye contact with her. She could be across the room, or maybe a few seats from you. Look for an opportunity to make that eye contact. When you make eye contact with a girl, you're telling her she's more important than the ongoing lecture or sermon, lol.

Now don't overdo it, keep it brief. 1 to 2 seconds is just fine, look away. Staring at her for too long will make her feel uncomfortable. Then after some time, repeat again. Repeating this makes her know you're thinking about her.

3. Smile with your eyes

This a way to flirt with a girl without actually saying anything. It's a way of flirting with your eyes. If it's done right, it's sure to pass your message across without words, but it can be done wrongly. It's perfect for shy guys who aren't used to talking much.

 

To do it, is to smile with your eyes. What do I mean? To get an idea of how this feels, think about what it’s like to laugh really hard. Notice how after you laugh, the area around your eyes feels relaxed. Your gaze becomes softer and is able to take in more of your surroundings.

That is the same kind of eye contact that attracts women. A hard, focused, intense gaze is the one that makes women uncomfortable. The soft, warm, open gaze that comes when you smile with your eyes however, is friendlier and more inviting. Therefore it’s a more effective way to attract women.

Make eye contact with her and smile, if she looks away and then looks back, then she likes you too.

4. Talk to her

So you discovered the girl likes you, so then you should talk to her and make a good first impression. There's no escaping this, if you don't talk to her, nothing you want will happen. Except you're lucky and she comes to you. But that never happens. Beautiful girls know they're pretty, they want you to Walk up to them and be a man, which is also a sign of confidence, beautiful girls don't want anything to do with a guy who can't build up the courage to talk to them.

So sum up your courage, walk up to her and say hello. Don't forget to smile, introduce yourself and get right to it. Don't beat about the bush.

5. Compliment her.

Don't walk up to her and start telling her how you've never seen a lady so beautiful. That might work, but she's probably heard that before, and you want to stand out, right? To make that first impression.

Compliment what she's wearing, not herself. Don't say "I love your eyes", or "I love your brown skin", or "backside," lol. Say something like, "I love the way that dress looks on you", or "you look amazing in those shoes," or "what perfume is that? It smells nice." That way you don't sound like a perv.

With these she should be certain about your intentions.

End the conversation afterthe compliment, you don't want her thinking you're desperate. End it and start imagining when next you'll meet. Don't forget to get her number too. Have fun!

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