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Beauty96
Signs Of Having Money Problems In Your Relationship.
~4.4 mins read
MONEY can destroy families and friendships. It causes rivalry and even destroys relationships. Couples can have a lot going for them, but when it comes to money, problem arises. Maybe one person chooses not to open up to the other person their true financial status or is hiding debts or embarrassing habits related to finance from their partner.

Some go as far as ensuring there is no financial trace to all their dealings, like deleting alerts, both sms and email, avoiding any financial discussions, spending more than the other person or spending less to deceive the other that they don’t have. Even as far as having heavy investment or property without disclosure. There are many reasons for this. But it’s something that cannot stay hidden forever unfortunately. We have cases where people stayed in rented apartments not knowing the house actually belongs to their spouse. Or business men having huge balances and not letting their spouses know. Secret now comes out upon the death of the wealthy one.

Ideally, financial status should not matter when relationships are involved because what we are trying to preach here is financially transparency. A lot of people have bad experiences which have made them to stop. You may be madly in love with someone, but please have it in mind that when you get serious, you’re joining your financial statuses together, no matter how good or bad the status is. So you need to love with your eyes open and medulla oblongata intact.

So my question is why are you arguing with your spouse about money?  You are definitely not alone. When you put together partners and money side by side, you will surely have days where how money is spent becomes an issue will let loose, arguments on how much to spend to buy food for the house and someone is requesting for a pair of shoes or Gucci hand bag or human hair costing the same with a plot of land.  Do you know money is one of the major issues people in relationships fight about? It sometimes can lead to a serious breach in communication and if not handled well, end up in divorce.

Trying to merge your life and that of your spouse, especially in relation to money is not easy. It is a continuous work in progress as each individual has their own perspective. Here are a few mistakes couples make when it comes to their money and relationships and possible ways to avoid or handle them. The truth is talking about money with your partner is the key to handling the issues before they even come. Before settling down with anyone ask the necessary questions.

 

Cheating your partner and spending on the side man or side chick

Any type of affair, same sex or otherwise, can destroy a relationship. And when the wayward partner has been running up bills, no matter how small, it is with some side chick or side cock, side goat or whatever they are called these days, this will only worsen the issue.

If you decide after all the turbulence to stick to each other, that is if you are both patient and strong enough. You will need to get counselling or have a serious heart to heart talk with each other. This is not easy at all, but it can work, if you are committed. Nobody plans to cheat, sometimes it crawls up on you and overtakes you, which is why even in relationships one needs to be emotionally intelligent so you don’t get sucked into what will hurt your spouse, guard your heart and thoughts jealously.

From a financial aspect, the erring partner going forward needs to be transparent the person who betrayed their partner would have to be willing to make all financial transactions transparent, what this implies is that you will have to willingly inform you partner on all financial transactions and discuss on what you spend, thereby making you financially and emotionally accountable.

 

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Hiding your debts

This, I am so sure, will not be news to you, while you may not be doing this, you will at least know one or two people doing this. Why? Because it is a common situation amongst friends, family and people in relationships.  Hiding debt is not just keeping mum about the money, it also shows that there are fundamental issues of trust amongst couples who experience this.

It may be difficult to discuss this particular one, but you have to start it anyway. So the first step is to not judge, shout or make the person feel worse. Let your statements always have “we” so that they know you are interested in helping them sort it out, as long as she or she is not a chronic debtor, in that case immediate counsel is needed.

 

Giving money to either family member

This is another issue with trust. Sometimes family members come up with business ideas and ask you to get involved. Sometimes they come asking for money all the time and you keep giving, even at the detriment of your own needs and those of your spouse or immediate family needs. A toxic relationship can erupt here, as one spouse will be forced to take sides or quarrel with family because of money not being paid back. At the end of the day, it boils down to who you perceive to be right or wrong.

It is still possible to fix trust between two people, though a difficult thing to accomplish, as one may need to create boundaries. You will have to accompany your spouse as a team with one voice and tell them (family) how you feel and what they need to do to rectify the situation. This will clear the air and let family know that you have a unified front and destroy any doubts anyone has been experiencing or feeling. Also any misconception on repayment needs to be cleared and put in the open.  You may not recover the loan, but at least will have been put in proper perspective and ensure it doesn’t happen again. I wish you all the best
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Victorspirit
10 Things Successful People Do Every Day
~5.4 mins read
If you want to be successful, one of the best things you can do is emulate other successful people. Get started by implementing the 10 things successful people do every day.
While every successful person has his or her own unique approach, there are a lot of common patterns you can find when you read their books and watch interviews and lectures. Here are 10 things that many successful people do each day! 

busy.

We live in a pay-by-the-hour sort of world, but if you are an entrepreneur, you should never pay yourself like a boss would pay you! Do not reward yourself for spending time working; reward yourself for getting work done. When you run your own business, you are paid for products and services, not for time.

And what if you want to succeed in a corporate career? Look at it this way. When your productivity far outshines the productivity of your coworkers, you make an impact on your company, and you are the one who is likely to get the promotion!

2. They set S.M.A.R.T. goals.

What is success? Most people would probably define success as achieving a goal. But you can never be successful if you set unachievable goals. Many goals are unrealistic or too nebulous for follow-through.

Instead, try setting S.M.A.R.T. goals. S.M.A.R.T. is an acronym which stands for Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, Timely. The acronym pretty much says it all. These are goals which are concrete, narrowly defined, and which you can measure your progress towards.

You can achieve them within a finite amount of time, and they are relevant to your overall success.

Setting a series of S.M.A.R.T. goals is a great technique for achieving larger, more loosely defined goals. Think of each S.M.A.R.T. goal as a rung on the ladder of overall success!

3. They take the leap.

What is the number one reason why many people never succeed at their goals in life? Probably a refusal to try! The higher you set your sights, the scarier the prospect of failure can be. But that is no reason not to try. What you never know can’t hurt you—or so you might think.

The truth is, however, it is hurting you ever day not to give yourself a chance. So take that leap you have been putting off. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. You never know; it could be the leap that changes your life.

4. They exercise and eat right.

Successful people who stay that way over the long term do not abuse their bodies. They take time each day to prepare and eat healthy meals and to work out. Even President Barack Obama manages to find time to get up every morning and exercise before work, often for 90 minutes a day.

If the most powerful (and busy) man in the world has time for a daily workout, so do you!

5. They lead balanced lives.

In the professional world, there is a lot of pressure always to be working. If you are not working 20 hours and sleeping 4, you must not want it badly enough. That is what people will tell you in pretty much any field.

However, that is simply not true, and people who live that way will eventually burn out and crash hard. They think they can sacrifice their health, relationships, and leisure time for a few hard years and then coast for the rest of their lives. Rarely if ever does entrepreneurship actually work this way. Most successful entrepreneurs work very hard for a long time.

That just makes it more important than ever to find time for other important things in your life, and especially for important people! A healthy, balanced life is necessary if you are going to have the strength to hang in there for the long term.

It also is essential to remember why you want success. Most of us want monetary success to support our lifestyles and families. But if you throw out your life and family along the way, what success will you have achieved?

6. They are realistically optimistic.

Successful people focus on the positive wherever possible—but not blindly. Optimism helps us spot opportunities we would miss if we were focusing on the negative.

While you must always plan for the future and for potential pitfalls, you must believe there is a way across the chasms that gape below. Otherwise you will turn back long before the journey is complete, or take a fall along the way.

7. They make the most of their networks.

The most successful people never try to go it alone if they do not have to, and they always look for opportunities to network and expand their circle of friends and business associates.

They realize that every conversation is an opportunity, and could hold the seed of potential for a new business relationship or venture. When they find themselves facing harsh times, they reach out to others for ideas. When others in their networks struggle, they offer solutions.

8. They keep failure in perspective.

You have probably met businesspeople who take pride in having very little experience with failure—or so they claim. But those people are typically lying to your or not as successful as they seem. Maybe they just got lucky and built an empire on a stroke of fate or a large inheritance.

In reality, success is typically built on a series of failures and lessons learned. Do not let your past failures weigh you down or make you feel like a failure. Successful people learn from failures every day and recognize that so long as they do, they are still on the road to success.

9. They log their progress.

You cannot navigate toward a goal if you have no way to measure your progress. This goes back to setting S.M.A.R.T. goals. Remember that the “M” stands for “Measurable.” Many successful people keep a journal or log of some sort. This is true for stock traders, authors, business CEOs and others in all walks of life.

10. They know how to set boundaries.

Many of us are raised never to say the word “no,” but sometimes you have to say “no.” Not every business proposition is a good one, and not all partners are the right ones. Successful people realize they cannot take on every single project or work with every single person. They know they sometimes have to back off and take care of themselves first.

Of course, if you can say “no” in a creative way that still leaves the door open for future opportunities, that is often a great idea!

Do not be afraid to occasionally say “no” to your own ambition as well. This goes back to the work-life balance point discussed earlier. You need to sometimes say “no” to another hour of work and “yes” to taking a little time off. It may not feel like you are working hard enough, but you are! You need time for you too.

I hope you enjoyed these 10 tips and tricks for daily success! These are all simple changes you can make to your day-to-day life. So wake up today and start setting S.M.A.R.T. goals. Network, set boundaries when you need to, exercise, lead a balanced life, and take that leap you have been putting off! 
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Emmaximus123
Big Dreams Reality Show Opens As Ned Nwoko, Coza Pastor Make Appearance
~1.4 mins read
Few months after the organizers of Big Dreams Nigeria Talent Show announced its readiness to commence Nigeria's most innovative talent event and reality TV show, Popular Nigeria Billionaire and Philanthropist, Hon. Prince Ned Nwoko has yesterday made an overwhelming financial donation to the management and organisers of Big Dreams Nigeria Talent and Reality TV Show. He made the support during the official grand opening of Big Dreams Nigeria Talent Show yesterday, the 21st of August 2020.

Speaking during the grand official opening of Big Dreams Nigeria Talent Show in FCT, Prince Ned Nwoko, Billionaire Hubby of famous Nollywood Actress Reginal Daniels, stated that he was ready to sustain his support towards making the project a success. He assured the organizers of a support of 5million naira as his startup contribution, stating that he would return to review the progress and developments in the house.

His overwhelming Multimillion naira donation was appreciated by the organiser, Amb. Kingsley Amafibe who expressed gratitude to the undaunted support and capacity of Prince Ned Nwoko who has remained one of the major sponsors and supporters of Showbiz, Entertainment and empowerment programs and initiatives for youths in Abuja and across Nigeria.

The Hosts for the 2020 Big Dreams Nigeria Talent Show includes Cri Snow, Rachel Bakam, Naomi and Philip Rennar. However, the event will accommodate several a activities to identify, explore, promote and raw talents for Nigeria youths. Some of the activities of Big Dreams Talent Show includes the development of a movie project that will be developed to review the nature and developments of GirlChild Education in Africa and especially Nigeria.

Prior to the event of the official grand opening, Big Dreams Nigeria Talent Show has continue to record massive media promotions, anticipations and expectations. As the show commences yesterday, more serveral personalities and celebrities are expected to visit housemates to encourage and support them. Other notable persons who were present at the grande opening are Pastor Biodun, the Senior Pastor of COZA who officially declared it open with prayers and words of encouragement.

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Beauty96
I Have Stopped Being Choosy When It Comes To Man
~0.6 mins read
The artist was once reported to have said that she prefers a man who is quite rich.

According to her, she had some qualities she expected to see in a man who she wants to date but she has realized that she cannot get everything perfect.

This has influenced MzVee’s decision to relax her seemingly strict requirements.

“I’ve stopped being picky. I didn’t know I was but then I now know I was. Like you have to check all the boxes but that can’t happen, nobody is perfect,” she said in an interview on Joy FM.

MzVee said she wants to date someone at the moment who is hardworking, God-fearing and dresses well.

The singer had revealed after her two-year break from music that she suffered depression and it collapsed her relationship with her boyfriend
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Beauty96
Ladies Be Careful These Food Can Make You Pregnant
~2.0 mins read
Healthy eating is important before and after pregnancy. Fruits and vegetables are packed with nutrients to aid pregnancy and boost sperm production.

Although there might be many factors contributing to infertility in women, eating the right foods can help you get pregnant faster.

trying to conceive, incorporate green leafy vegetables in your diet because it is rich in folic acid and iron.

Green leafy vegetables

Green veggies such as spinach and lettuce aid the development of a strong endometrial lining (the inner lining of the uterus), iron help in the attachment of zygote to the uterus.

Cabbage

You literally don’t have an option if you want a baby. Try cabbage recipes because it contains di-indole methane, a chemical that plays a key role in estrogen metabolism thereby preventing the formation of fibroids and endometriosis.

Citrus fruits

Citrus fruits such as lemons, oranges, grapes are essential for healthy growth. Women who are trying to conceive should make it an indispensable part of their diet.

The high content of vitamin C aids in the release of the egg from the ovaries.


Banana

According to research, women with a regular menstrual cycle have a lower risk of infertility and pregnancy complications.

Hence, women planning to conceive are advised to eat bananas for their high content of vitamin B6.

This vitamin is essential for the regular menstrual cycle and thus, improves fertility.

Pineapple

Pineapple is loaded with high amounts of manganese, a mineral that plays a key role in the production of various reproductive hormones. Manganese is a mineral that helps form bone and cartilage. It also helps protect cells from damage and activates the enzymes that play a role in the metabolism of carbohydrates, amino acids, and cholesterol.

Eggs


Eggs are one of the most versatile ingredients in the kitchen, hence one of the superfoods for fertility.

Hoping to be a new mom, eating one egg or more a day can boost fertility because they are rich in choline, folic, omega 3 fatty acids and vitamin D.

Salmon

Salmon is the best fish for every meal whether soup or stew for the whole family. It is highly nutritious, delicious, and affordable.This fertility superfood is rich in omega 3 fatty acids and other essential nutrients that play a key role in boosting fertility in women.

Olive oil

Olive oil is widely used for maintaining a healthy heart and body is well-known. But, the presence of monounsaturated fats in this oil reduces inflammation in the body and thus, aids in a complication-free pregnancy
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Victorspirit
What Successful People Do That 99 Percent Of People Don't
~9.2 mins read
Becoming wealthy and leaving an impact on the world is not an easy feat. If it were, everyone would go around doing it. At that point, it would not be much of an accomplishment at all.

Rather, being extremely successful requires an extreme amount of work. Especially when there is nobody looking. The best people have developed habits that help them reach their goals. These routines are not necessarily challenging to form, but they take consistent effort over extended periods of time. Creating these tendencies in your own life will propel your success.

Here are 11 things, specifically that 99 percent of (myself included) do not but really should:

1. Take advantage of introductions.
When someone introduces you to another person, there tends to be a very good reason for it. The top people take advantage of these introductions because they know that they might lead to great opportunities. It is easy to blow off an intro or not follow-up. Doing so is a missed chance to create a meaningful relationship with a like-minded person. 

2. Consider the little things in their relationships.

The best people are admired by those around them. This could be due to their high-quality work, their personal interactions, or, likely, both. They remember names, they follow-up when they say they are going to, and they take little steps to create stronger relationships with those around them. Something as small as sending a text after a surgery or a congratulations after a new job offer can make a big difference.

3. Consistently read.

The brightest people are always learning. There is endless knowledge, and, in order to continue to improve and learn more, reading is a necessity. Most people make excuses as to why they do not read very much. The best people do not allow themselves to make excuses, and instead prioritize personal learning. I've personally made it my goal to read a book a week.

4. Stay healthy.

In order to stay effective and energetic, health has to be a top priority. Otherwise, you will go through life with less kick each day. The best people also make no excuses for their health. They make conscious decisions to eat well and exercise. They care about their bodies and take care of themselves in order to propel their success. This focus on health also gets them feeling better about how they look day-in and day-out.

5. Embrace ambiguity.

Ambiguity is difficult. When the path is not spelled out, it means that you have to make more challenging decisions. The top 1 percent of people love ambiguity. It gives them an opportunity to be creative and stand out from those around them. They do not mind making hard decisions because they know that doing so will lead to higher impact, and it is more rewarding.

6. Constantly adapt.

If you cannot look back six months and see a drastically different person, then you are not growing fast enough. This is especially true early in life.


The most successful self employed people are constantly learning and adapting. They let their barriers down and are always willing to change things about themselves in order to be better, happier and more productive.


This can be extremely challenging for many because it means letting your guard down and being vulnerable. We see ourselves in a certain light, and we make our decisions accordingly. Changing means accepting that our past choices might not have been the best. When those past actions are tied up with our ego, it can be especially difficult to move past them. The best people are able to do so in stride.

7. Set goals

Goal setting is underrated. Most people do not take the time because they do not think it is a worthwhile endeavor. The value is that it helps align actions, Setting goals also gets you thinking about what you are really trying to accomplish and why.


Those that are able to set goals tend to be much more productive and focused in their efforts. This allows for a higher level of output, greater success, and more impact.

8. Surround themselves with other great people.

We are the average of the five people we surround ourselves with the most. Therefore, it is critical to be around great people. There is a reason that many successful people tend to be friends before rising to fame. They have made an effort, from the onset, to be around others who can motivate them and propel their success.


It can be challenging to abandon or step back from destructive friends that we have been close with for long periods of time. The most accomplished people have been able to do so, though, because they know that there are many amazing people out there for them to spend time with.

9. Persistence

Persistence is also very underrated. It is easy to workout one time or to send a few emails. It is also easy to take on an 80-hour week once. Pushing yourself consistently, though, is an extreme challenge. It is where 99 percent of people drop off.


It is when nobody is looking that effort matters the most. The best people work hard and smart consistently. They have increasing returns to scale and their efforts compound over time. Successful athletes do not suddenly emerge. They have been working for years and years on their craft to reach their current point.


It is easy to believe successful people reached that level through luck or raw talent. That is almost never the case, though. Persistence over time is an absolute must.

10. Pursue their passions.

The top people do not spend their lives living other people's dreams. They pursue their own passions. That gives them the energy to attack each day with all that they have. It also allows them to think more independently. After getting over the fact that you cannot please everyone and that you have to think for yourself, life becomes a lot better.


Spending time doing what you love enables the highest quality of work and it makes staying consistent significantly easier.

11. Accountability

Many people blame others for their shortcomings. Doing so might have immediate benefits, but it is detrimental in the long run. Neglecting accountability prevents personal growth and, over time, it develops a bad reputation for yourself.


The best people take full responsibility for their actions. This garners more respect and allows them to grow at much faster rates.

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