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We meet new people everyday, some we spend time with and others we just pass by barely noticing what colour of shirt they are wearing. And in all of the over 7 billion people in the world there is someone who is right for us.

Now I know many people do not believe in soulmates and much more have lost faith in love but what if it's true? What if there is truly a special someone out there for everyone of us who is the real match for our soul. Just what if there is a soul mate for every man.

The world has evolved so much and is still evolving. It used to be a man's world, where a man is never wrong, where a man has the right to marry whoever he wills, until women started evolving with the world too and the table turned without long notice. Women have started choosing the kind of life they want to live, they are everywhere now even rubbing shoulders with men in the career front.

Seeing such remarkable progress women can create, more women are encouraged to spread out their wings and soar too. 

This is win and a loss at thesame time, while women are making exploits, men are being threatened and it is difficult for a man to get a chance with some caliber of woman because they are either intimidated or despised by them.

Men who are natural leaders coupled with masculine ego that does not allow them to shy away from situations seeing how the table has turned would rather settle for women they feel they can handle than go for one they are scared would be too much for them.

This has led to the indecisiveness of the male gender when it comes to dating and marriage. They are scared to marry or date a girl who is too much and on the other hand they are also scared to marry or date a woman who is not up to standard. This indecisiveness is the reason for so many broken homes, relationship, marriages etc. For once a man feels he has found his match only for time to reveal to him that she is not what he wanted and he is too ashamed to tell her he made a mistake in choosing her for yet it reveals again another area of failure and his weakness so he disappears on her and withdraws and goes silent till she's tired and leaves. I do not in any way validate indecisiveness of the male gender on dating and marriage, as a matter of fact an indecisive man can never put his life together that is why we see so many men out of touch with themselves. They are just losing it.

How can a man find love? How can a man know he is with the right woman in this modern world?

A man would find love after he finds himself and is completely honest with himself. A man who knows who he is knows what he wants. This man is stable and confident. Nothing attracts the right woman for you like how you confidently wear your skin and be who you are regardless.

You know she is the right woman when she is okay with what she sees, not pushing you to be something you're not or trying to make you shrink to accommodate her.

You know you're with the right woman when all you do to please her is the best you can do and she is completely smitten by you. You do not have to sabotage your dreams to fit her description of a good man and you do not have to over work to hear a well-done from her.

You feel free and very comfortable talking with her and you're not ashamed to show her your flaws. She is the first person you want to call if you win and also the first you want to talk to if you lost. 

If you have a spouse who you cannot call when you lost because she would make you feel worse then she is not right for you and you need to get away from her.

A woman for you is that woman who stands close to your flames despite the heat of it, not because you want her to or even need her to but because she wants to be the first to see you when you come out of the fire refined. 

A woman for you is that woman who is always for you both in the good, in the bad and in the ugly.

A woman for you is that woman is just wants you first before anything else you have to offer.

Until you are sure of this woman do not engage, and if the woman you are with is not this woman, please disengage wisely.

We have no reason to be unhappy.