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We have all been teenagers ourselves, if we're not yet teenagers then we have seen teenagers, we have lived with them, some of us have raised them and if we'd all be sincere we'd say that they are not the easiest set of people to deal with.

The teenage years of any child is the most frustrating years for the parents. It is the stage where chocolate cakes and fried rice do not make the child excited anymore, it is the stage where you begin to question your parenting skills and start checking back into the tears to see if there is something you have missed along the way because your once happy child is no longer happy.

But dear parents and guardians the problem is not you. It is the transitioning from child to adult that causes all that changes in them. It is the age where a child believe he/she is old enough to make their own decisions and that is the stage where they are very disobedient because they feel they are right and the world is wrong. So they could even despise their parents if they feel like they do not understand them.

Many parents on noticing these changes start becoming very tough parents and the religious ones take the children for deliverance believing that they are possessed. But the truth is that is the stage and time where you should let that child walk alone for a while, do not be too pushy. The teenage years is the time where a child is trying to see their own reflection. Trying to find themselves asking themselves why they are in the world and what is the essence of life.

The best thing to do for someone looking to see their own reflection is to find a mirror for them. In other words make sure you become a worthy role model to them. Be someone they can look at and see themselves.

Parenting is a life long responsibility, it is a constant struggle to remain relevant in the life of your children. If your child sees you as unimportant to their course, they will never come to you. The the space between you and your child would turn into distance. You will find it hard to connect with them.

The best thing to do for a teenager is to hold on. If they see how you hold on, they'll hold on too.

When they see how you persevere and keep your chin up no matter what, they'd imitate that too.

When you as a parent cannot deal with pressure, they would start seeing you as a poster child for weakness and everything they do not want to be. They would aviia you because they do not want to end up like you. They would resent you for being weak.

In the journey of self discovery, your child needs you.