Relationship and Marriage

My Wife To Be Is Driving Me Crazy, Please Help!!!
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Hello everyone, ‘my story is long but I will skip some to try to make it short, sorry for my grammatical error, I am not a writer and I am writing with pains and I might make some mistakes, please bear with me.

I have been dating my wife to be since 2017, I have been taking care of her and everything, the truth is I was hearing some funny stuff about her since I met her but I didn’t take it serious because I trusted her and I really thought she was decent from every other girl.

When I met her, she told me she had only dated 3 boys for have sex only three times, her first boyfriend and two other girls she met in school. I really believed her because she was acting decent.

At a point I began to suspect her when I started hearing some stuff about her but I didn’t pay attention because I trusted her, sometimes when I asked her if she ever dated some one else or cheating on me, she will just turn the whole thing to quarrel and I will just lock up.

Fast forward to 2020, I got her pregnant before I left Nigeria, we did introductions, but she lost the baby during child birth which was so painful to us, but after some month I begin to hear some news about her, and I confronted her and threatened her that I have proof, which she confess to me that she has dated about 3 boys, slept with them several times, she also bleeped 2 girls just once and they didn’t date, she just had crush on them and bleeped them before she met me, and she cheated on me when she found out I was chatting with my ex’s, she couldn’t bear the pains even after begging her, sex her and still give her money to school, the same week she met a guy and bleeped him because she wanted to ease her pains, and 2019 when we had little quarrel, she met a guy and bleeped twice because she thought we broke up (what happened was that we had little argument and I have her money to sch and we didn’t talk for a week, that week she met a guy and stayed dated him because she thought we broke up).

I was heart broken when she told me, and I wanted to back out, her parents begged me and they never supported her and they were even surprised she could do such thing because she came from a very decent background. I forgave her but I still have the pains in my heart, we always chat everyday, because of corona things are some how and I don’t have money like before, she begins to show me some attitude which is not really comfortable and I explain things to her and she apologized.

So last month she told me since I left she have been having sexual urge to sleep with a girl because she have been watching lesbian porn, that she promised never to cheat on me with a man and it’s taboo but she wanted to have sex with a female, I was so shocked and didn’t know what to do. She said she just started having the strange feelings because she have been watching lesbian porn since I left, I feel like I don’t know anything about her, I wanted to brk up now because she is begging me and she is saying she is just trying to be truthful to me because she promised herself never to hide anything from me or lie to me. What should I do? Should I continue to be with her and marry her? Or run away? Mine she have never slept with a woman before and she has always hated lesbian but because I have been a way since feb 2020, she usually watch porn to help herself. Pls what should I do?
Advice please🙏🙏🙏
Giving Money To Your Man Makes Him Lazy. Do You Agree?
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A Ugandan female marriage counselor has told women to avoid giving their husbands money.

The Ugandan counselor identified as Zaituni Kakyama, said in a TV interview that even if a woman can afford to help her partner financially, she should not do so W.T. H.  

According to her, God made women to have a desire for more than they need, particularly clothing and shoes, so that men are driven to work continually and not become lazy.

Kakyama added that men should let women spend their money so it can make them work harder for more. She also urged women to put their egos aside and remain committed and polite to their spouses, no matter how successful they are.

She said;

Whether she gets more money than he does, he has to take care of his wife and family as a head.

“I don’t give my man money because when I do, that leads to his destruction when he gets into the comfort zone of being given.

You find women from such marriages saying their men don’t love them.

Remember how you convinced that woman to marry you, small things matter.” 

What A Prophet Told Me About My Girlfriend
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Good morning nairalanders. I'm sharing this here because I feel restless with this urgent need to end my relationship. I'll make the story as short as possible.
I started dating my girlfriend this time 2 years ago. The experience hasn't been bad because she's all I could wish for in a woman. Very pretty both facially and in physique. Respectful. Been there for me during my down times. Encourages me when things don't go my way. At some point, I thought she was gonna leave because of my financial state but no. She still stuck by me. Even helping me financially to bring me up to my feet.
However, Despite every attempts at steadying my financial imbalance, there was never any progress. We went for a crusade mid last year and the prophet called her out, was praying for her and she was falling under anointing. She was oblivious of what was happening then the man of God delivered a big prophesy that shocked me. He said she is possessed by a spirit which is out to ruin every man she's had something to do with in the past. That a lot of men have been destroyed. My heart raced faster and I couldn't figure out what to do at that point. When she finally got herself, she cleaned up and went home. Came to my house the following morning and asked me what happened. I told her everything the prophet said and she begged me not to leave her. Of course I didn't leave her. We still continued with the relationship. Don't blame me here guys. My belief was that no man or woman has the power to influence what happens to you. That success or financial breakthrough is the end product of hardwork and perseverance. That was why I took that prophesy with a pinch of salt.
Our lives continued. I kept encountering frustrations in my live goals and ambitions. Depts hanging round my neck with no hope in sight. Rents expiring with no plan for renewal. To the point that I had to borrow to feed. These were much that I decided to go see another prophet yesterday. This prophet is different from the first one that hosted a crusade we went for. I decided to go alone this time around and it's located in a different state. In the course of the ministration. The prophet called me out. He told me I should limit things I say to THAT GIRL (my girlfriend). He mentioned to me that my girlfriend is good and it's not her fault. That she is possessed by a spirit that is out to ruin. Responsible for restricting any favor that looks like it's coming my way. Every thing he told me was in tandem with my real life experiences. He prayed for me afterwards and I still went further to meet him. I needed some clarity on whether or not to continue with my relationship. He didn't urge that I breakup. But he advised I should just leave her and focus on my hustle.
My girlfriend has been calling me since yesterday but I've not been picking. I'm confused guys. I know I will eventually pick and talk to her but how do I breakup? Where do I start from? I don't want to tell her what the prophet said about her. My mind is mess rn. Please advice me guys


Avoid Surgeries: 5 Most Effective Exercises For Pen!s Enlargement
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Avoid Surgeries: 5 Most Effective Exercises For Pen!s Enlargement

Penis enlargement is not as hard as you think. You can do it at home! Yes, you read it right. There are some exercises to make your erections stronger and bigger. Read on to know the best exercises you can do at the comfort of your home to increase the size of your penis

1. Stretching

Stretching is one of the most popular ways to increase the length of the penis. It will take you just five minutes to do this exercise. Also Read - Here's How You Can Keep Your Dog Happy?

How to do it: Grasp your penis just behind its head. Don’t hold it too firmly or too loose. Now pull it down towards your knee. You will feel a stretch in the shaft but no significant discomfort or pain. Hold it in that position for 20 to 30 seconds. Bring back the penis to the original position and then pull it up towards your belly button. Hold it there for another 20 to 30 seconds. Then pull it to the right and left direction. Hold the penis in the stretched position for 20 to 30 seconds. Bring it to the original position and relax.

2. Rotating stretch

This is similar to the previous exercise with a little twist. This exercise will take your about five minutes.

How to do it: Grasp the penis just below its head and pull it outwards firmly. You will feel a stretch in the shaft but not any pain. Now move your penis in circular motion maintain the stretch and grip. Use your right hand to rotate it counterclockwise and left for clockwise rotation.  Your one rotation should take around 30 seconds. For each direction, do at least three rotations. 

3. Jelqing

This exercise is very simple but effective. It will improve hardness and size of your penis

How to do it: Make sure that your penis is partially erect and use a lubricant like baby oil or Vaseline. Hold your penis at the base with your thumb and pointer finger. Keep you grip near the pelvic bone. Slowly move your hand up the penis maintaining the pressure. Stop your hand just below the head/gland. This is one jelq and it should take you 2 to 3 seconds to do 1 jelq. This help in pushing the blood towards tip of the penis and will not cause any pain. Repeat this process.

4. Kegel

Kegel will help you to get a rock-hard boner Practising kegel regularly will result in stronger and long-lasting erection as it improves blood flow to the penis. You will require around 30 minutes for doing this.

How to do it: Firstly, you will have to identify your PC (Pubococcygeus) muscle. You can identify it by stopping the flow of your urine. The muscle engaged in stopping it is your PC muscle. Now hold the muscle in contraction for about five seconds and then release it. Take a break and repeat the method as many times as you want. You must do it for about 30 minutes every day to see an improvement in your erection.

5. Opposite stretch

Opposite stretch is another effective exercise to make your penis longer. You will just need about five minutes to do this.

How to do it: Hold the penis just below the head in a grip that is not too firm or too loose. Now, with your other hand hold the base of your penis with an ok-grip. Pull both your hands in opposite direction. That is, pull the hand near the head upwards and the hand near the base downward without causing any pain. You must only feel a stretch not any pain. Hold the position for about 30 seconds and then relax. Repeat this method. After you have done enough number of stretches let your penis relax.

Dear Men, If You Can Not Satisfy Her Walkout And Don't Kill Yourself
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Dear men, you can not kill yourself trying to satisfy her. Yes, I meant you can not kill yourself trying to satisfy her attentions.

Most ladies like exchanging words with their guys even when it is not due. This is what you face when you are a cool or a calm guy and unfortunately you came across the most hot tempered lady in the world.

A lot of ladies are full of that temptation habits. Even if you are not in the mood for an argument or a fight, they try to find any means just to get your attention. Avoid such girls. I repeat, avoid such girls. If not you may end up engaging yourself into something you never wished for.

To have a long lasting relationship with her, always ignores her when ever there is trouble. I meant, when there comes and issue which you know would probably end up in a fight, just take yourself a leave outside the house to a friend's place or the beach side or anywhere that you can get a refreshment.
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Every child has a dream of becoming a big figure in the society. 
But alot is left unsaid about the happenings going on in some parts of Nigeria; Northern part of Nigeria and Middle belt (northcentral).

Africa, as a continent has her fair share in thus too. 
In Malawi children get married at ages 12 and 13. In Nigeria, 43% of girls are married off before their 18 birthday and in the North East and Western Africa, 68% to 76%.

If you are below 18, you can't get married otherwise it's a Criminal offence. The achievement of an average teenager is marriage. It's a gender based discrimination and it's a form of violence against women, most expecially those that marry out of their will.

The major contributing factors to this hydra-headed menace are Environmental, Cultural inclinations and Religion. Poverty also contributes it's own menace as lack of finance to meet the basic needs also a diverting factor.

The consequence to these is so devastating and many end up having miserable lives.

A lot of health problems also arise from the aforementioned problem.

Vesicovaginal fistula (VVF ), which is a subtype of female urogenital fistula infection is a big health challenge militating against the Nothern Nigeria, Republic of Chad, Niger and some other subsaharan Africa.

Some of our age - long traditional practices need to fizzle out. They must be eradicated Because they more negative impact on the well being of the populace.

Against the belief among some races that getting married early reduces poverty, this is far from the truth. Infact the reverse is the case here as more mistery and want will surely be the last straw breaking the spine of such poverty-rattled family.

Cognizance and a sense of responsibility are key knots to be driven into the brain loçks of every bride of groom who intend to marry. This responsibility should as well be chaired by the parents.

The histogram of poverty keeps skyrocketing because young people are not aware of the responsibility they are to commit themselves into before marriage.

At 22 and 23 years of age, a lot of young women are not yet independent or gaining self reliance.

There is a notorious practice among some races where girls are offered as measures to settle debts. In other words, some are traded for bather. Some practices even go as worse as trading young women for livestock as goats and calves.

This says much about the unfair and callous treatment women and girls are subjected to everyday.

Frankly, by age 12 years, a child is still in the budding cycle and has nothing whatsoever to do with marriage.

Those are still the ages when she should still be playing with toys and be in school to learn her basics.

What will a child know about child advocating and protection..

It's really sad seeing an underage child being put in the family way and left to nurse yet another baby.

Concerned government agencies and other Human right bodies should please do something about this ugly vices.

Girls need to be girls, they need good education and descent lives too! © Zainab A Suleiman 2019 
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